"Master's degree, the instructor asked me to extend, saying that he was not my nanny ..."

I am Kudo Masaki, a blogger who knows the top of the masterpiece. Recently, I encountered such a case in one -on -one consultation. It felt like a relatively common topic, so I would like to share with you.

At the beginning of the consultation, the younger brother began a continuous output of negative energy explosive. The core of all complaints was that his mentor was a scum guide, and he deliberately made him difficult to let him extend.

But with the deepening of the consultation, the younger brother "exposed stuffing"! He has never found his own instructor from his own tutor since studying research, but only stays at the level of reporting the group meeting. The most ruthless thing is to write a key part of the big papers. In addition to reporting at the group meeting, he reported it. After one writing outline, I never reported to the progress of any big papers to the tutor. It was completely closed behind closed doors. The first draft was handed over to the mentor during the deadline for the delivery of the review. The amount is serious.

The final result is that even if the younger brother has torn his face with the mentor, the mentor's attitude is very resolute and must be extended. The teacher's job is naturally soaked, becoming a thorough loser.

His instructor is definitely responsible, and he does not actively communicate with the students, but from the final result, it must be a greater loss of students.

In today's era, it is difficult for us to change the mentor. Even some mentors are completely released, and they are stealth all year round. In order to be able to graduate smoothly, we should show more proactive in communication with the tutor, so as not to finally fall into one end. I couldn't finish the embarrassment of the tutor with the instructor.

Let's talk about how to communicate efficiently with the mentor in detail.

Be sure to report diligently

Whether it is reading a master or reading, if you want to grab your fate in your own hands, then you must take the initiative to attack everything. Reporting!

If the mentor is released, you don't report it, it is the middle of the heart. After the instructor extension, you have sufficient reasons, saying that you do not work hard and have no enthusiasm. This reason is set, and the evidence you do not report, then you will be delayed, and you do n’t even have the opportunity to distinguish. But if you take the initiative to report to him, he does not see you or he does not guide you, and the responsibility lies in him. If he really does it, retains good evidence, and you have full reason to apply to the college for a mentor.

Secondly, the role of reporting is to correct the bias in time. Many teachers and sisters have been in the process of implementing the mission after the mentor assigning the task, and the car is completely closed at the door, and it is zero communication with the mentor. As a result, to the deadline, the things they handed in was 10,000 miles away from the instructor. Essence After being scolded, there was grievances in my heart, and complaining about the mentor, and slowly became a vicious circle. Therefore, in the process of task execution, we must keep communication with the mentor in time. As the saying goes: I can't help doing things, and I have no contributions to death.

The difference between active reporting and reporting reports will be reported

Many of my brothers and sisters think that at the group meeting, the instructor makes corresponding guidance. Even if this is communicating with the mentor, there is no need to communicate with the mentor one -to -one offline communication. I just want to say this idea. It is a big mistake, and the two are actually very different.

First, the time of everyone at the group is very limited. It is difficult for you to talk to the teacher thoroughly on a question. After all, you cannot let so many brothers, sisters, sisters, sisters, sisters, and sisters wait for you.

Secondly, if you do n’t recognize the views of the instructor at the group meeting, but if so many people watch, you cannot directly refute the teacher and show your own views.

Third, there are some research teams with unknown fighting, because they are afraid of other people picking peaches, the content of the report needs to be reserved, so it cannot show your workload from the mentor in all aspects, and the discussion will not be too sufficient.

In the end, because too many students need to report the work, in the middle and rear sections of the group, the energy of the mentor cannot be concentrated, so when you report, his sense of substitution will deteriorate, and the communication efficiency will deteriorate.

In order to fully communicate and communicate with the mentor, I still recommend one -on -one proactive reports.

Report to have skills

Many brothers and sisters also reflected that I often report, but every time I report, I was scolded by the instructor and scolded the shadow. I took a closer look at their reporting methods and found the fundamental reason. The report was not huge, from the beginning to the end, there was no logic, no level, the instructor couldn't grasp the point after listening to it for half an hour and an hour. I think if I am a mentor, I must have collapsed inside. I endured it once, twice, and the third time, and I would go away directly.

Therefore, the reporting work must follow the total reporting skills of the total score.

First of all, before the report begins, you must clearly clarify in advance, make a good manuscript, and then open the door to explain to the tutor to report a few things today, and then report it one by one. You must control the total length of the report. It is best not to exceed 20 minutes. Essence

Secondly, after a short point of reporting, use one or two sentences to summarize and refine it. After all the report is over, let's summarize again, and briefly repeat the small points mentioned earlier!

Then enter the mentor comments, and remember to take good strokes and books, listen to the other, do not keep your head all the time, and look up with the mentor from time to time to communicate with the instructor from time to time. And don't rush to respond or refute the mentor's point of view, unless he takes the initiative to ask you, you must wait for him to finish, and classify the mentor's review while recording! After the supervisor comments, do not rush to respond. First, repeat the review level of the mentor according to your classification level, and ask the mentor if there are errors or omissions. The purpose of this is to show that you listen carefully and attach great importance to the comments of the mentor. This is an attitude.

If the mentor does not correct or supplement, start your statement and respond one by one. What are the different opinions, but it ’s okay to say that the point is to implement the mentor's opinions, refine, and become executable. Throw the difficulties and problems in front of the mentor to help solve it.

The last and most important thing is to summarize! Overview all the points of the previous discussion are shared, and the focus of the next paragraph is highlighted. After the report, quickly write a meeting of the meeting, send emails and WeChat to the instructor, so that the instructor will confirm again, so as to leave marks and prevent the instructor from being divergent.

Avoid arguing with the mentor

No matter what the situation encountered, I strongly did not recommend conflicting conflict with the mentor. Because in the relationship between the mentor and the students, the mentor is much stronger than the student. The resources held by the instructor can easily destroy the academic studies of a student. He holds the power of signing and signing in his hand, so he must not tear his face.

But what should I do if I encounter a problem with inconsistent opinions? I suggest adopting a roundabout strategy. Here I will give an example of how to persuade the mentor to give you a research direction. Dear brothers and sisters can feel:

For example, the instructor forcibly arranged you a direction you don't like. How do you persuade the instructor to give you a direction? If you always talk to him, you can't do this difficulty. Then you are in the middle of your heart. The mentor can give you a meal of chicken soup and force you to make this direction.

I suggest that you want to say what you can do, and show that this direction that is arranged to you now makes your advantages unable to play, giving the mentor a feeling of not cost -effective; then you can say the direction you want to do with the trend. It shows that you can have a decision in this direction. To put it plainly, it is a reverse drawing cake. As long as the mentor said, then he will feel that people should do their best, and give you a greater benefit for you, that is, let the mentor have a kind of thinking about the problem that you stand on his perspective, let him let him think of the problem, let him let him make him, let him let him let him think of the problem, let him let him make him, and let him let him let him. Maximize the interest.

If the mentor still doesn't want you to change the direction, then you can clearly practice the plank road and secretly Chencang. You have made something in that direction. It proves that you are indeed suitable for that direction. Then you can soak it softly, and it is estimated that the mentor will agree, after all, he also comes to achieve results. There is such a strong result, but because the direction problems cannot be achieved, it is also a loss to him. It is better to give you a direction.

Summarize

I believe most of the mentors still have basic professionalism. After all, the dregs are a minority. Students and mentors are not opposing relationships, and mentors are also people. If you let him see your efforts, your grades, and use the above -mentioned methods and skills to communicate with the instructor, I think he will not deliberately difficult for you. If you have tried everything and have the idea of ​​dropping out of school, then I suggest that you finally talk to the mentor sincerely, sell miserable to the mentor, tell you not easy, maybe there will be a turnaround!

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