People do n’t understand when they are middle -aged, and there is nothing except family in the world

Author: Hard See Muye

What really determines your quality of life is actually a family.

01

Twenty years ago, two people in the same dormitory graduated from college and joined the work.

Classmate A is smart and flexible, and he is very motivated at work. He soon was appreciated by leaders.

Classmates B are taciturn, and they will only work hard, and they are very weak for the world.

Ten years later, both of them had become a family, and they gradually opened the gap at work. A was promoted to the middle level, and B was still just an ordinary employee.

Sometimes, when the two were in private, A always tapped and persuaded B to allow him to work hard and make more money, so as to provide a better life for his family, and his tone was full of a sense of superiority.

B is still my own, working during the day, and packed things at night to go home and go home to accompany his wife and children.

Fifteen years later, A became a senior candidate for the company, and B became the middle -level leader.

Twenty years later, A finally made a high level as expected, and B still stepped on the middle level.

In his forties, the two people's careers have basically reached its peak, and there are almost no more breakthroughs.

Suddenly one day, A was tired in the office and was rushed to the hospital for treatment.

B and his wife went to visit. In the ward, only A's mother was holding her back. After busy, she did not see the wife and children.

During the gap where the mother went out, A lying on the sick bed, suddenly spoke to B something to get out of mind:

"Old classmates of our two have worked hard to work hard in this city for twenty years. I used to think that I had the upper hand, but at this moment I found out that you have a happy life than me."

02

In recent years, A has rarely asked about his family in his work.

He has not taught the child to the assignment, and has not had a parent meeting. When the child chose a school, he did not participate in the suggestion.

Several times the child was sick and hospitalized, he just ran to take a hurry, and then returned to the company to work overtime.

Children lack discipline from an early age, and often cause it. When A realized the problem and wanted to discipline it, he found that the child did not listen to him long ago.

He often worked overtime and participated in various entertainment. His wife did not quarrel with him because of this, and the relationship between husband and wife had deteriorated.

Because of family discord, A was too lazy to go home after get off work, and would rather go outside to stay in the hotel.

Although B has not achieved great achievements in his career, he cares for his family. After having a child, he uses most of his free time to accompany his family.

After get off work, he rarely goes out to entertain, accompany the child to play games, and coach the child to do his homework. The child has a headache and brain. He can always be with him.

The family goes out to travel together every year.

At present, the child is studying in a key high school in the city, and his grades are among the best.

The relationship between B and his wife is also very close.

03

The story of A and B is actually a true portrayal of many people in real life.

How many people are like A. The first half of my life is busy making money and working hard.

Wang Xiaobo said very well:

“人到了中年以后，会发现世界上除了家人已经一无所有了。当你看多了外界的勾心斗角，当你被工作的苦、生活的难折腾得疲惫不堪，你就会发现：家，就是你The last place in this world. "

The biggest confidence of a person is that no matter how hard it is outside, he will always be practical.

This solidity comes from a stable and harmonious family.

Two days ago, I saw an interview with Yu Minhong in the early years.

Yu Minhong claims that she is neither a qualified husband, nor a qualified father.

After the establishment of New Oriental, he was busy with his career. He and his family gathered less and more. The daily working hours had almost more than 16 hours.

Until one day, he received a call from his wife, saying that his daughter suddenly had a stomach colic and went to the hospital for examination. She couldn't find any disease and would be in danger at any time.

At that time, Yu Minhong was holding a very important meeting in Beijing. He dropped his job, hurried to Shanghai, and then drove to Yangzhou.

At the hospital, her daughter was already in a coma. The doctor put the surgery into him and asked to sign it quickly.

Then her daughter was sent to the operating room, and two hours later, they finally rescued.

Speaking of which, Yu Minhong choked for a time, tears bursting out.

After experiencing this incident, he no longer worked as desperately as before, but made more time to accompany his family.

He then found that New Oriental's business was not affected, and he felt the unprecedented warmth brought by the family.

Yishu said this way:

"When I was forty years old, I was healthy, with a little savings, my husband was considerate, my child was obedient, and there was a job that I really liked. This is success.

When people are young, they always want to fight out of the world outside.

At a certain age, you will find that it is the family that really determines the quality of your life.

04

Zhou Guoping wrote in "I like what life looks like":

"No matter how glorious the career is, no matter how much achievements in society, if you can't live in harmony with your family, or even have no time to get along with your family, your family cannot be called a family. Such a life is fundamentally defective."

In the second half of life, the husband and wife are loving each other, their parents are healthy, and their children are under their knees. They are the greatest happiness.

The writer Rizhao Old Card once told his story in the book. Once, he had a sweet marriage and a happy family, but later, due to some irreconcilable contradictions, the marriage was broken and his family was discrete.

After the divorce, in more than five years, he suddenly woke up countless times from his dream, and then curled up in the corner.

In the lonely and desolate days, when he remembered the happiness of the past, he felt more and more deeply:

Life is like ice, and frost is all over. But the family can always give people the warmest guardians.

Rizhao old card said with emotion:

"I have experienced great joy and sorrow, and I have had a wealthy day. Now I just want to live a bland life. I have a person who loves me. I listen to the sound of stepping on the floor with barefoot."

Against the poet Heine's sentence:

"I would rather organize a happy family with a small cup of truth, goodness, and beauty, and I don't want to organize a tasteless family with several large ship furniture."

The family is weak, and living in Takayuki Huatang is also very interesting; the family is harmonious, and the cottage of the bamboo fence is also satisfied.

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Someone once said to Yang Yan, "One of your couples is a scholar and the other is a writer, which can be described as great achievements."

Yang Yan replied faintly: "The writer is not a great achievement. My biggest achievement is that I have a good family."

Like a praise, run your family well, and family harmony and happiness is the biggest wealth in your life.

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