Is introverted?Expert: The society you know is not really concerned!

Zhou Miao (pseudonym) was very timid when she was young. Every time she walked with her mother with her mother, she loved hiding behind her mother, a small head, and watching people timidly. At this time, my mother explained: "Sorry, Miao Miao is too introverted, and I don't love to talk to others very much." Zhou Miao knew at that time that he was because of introverted.

Later, Zhou Miao grew up and stopped hiding behind her mother, but she still didn't love to talk to others. When you meet someone you know on the road, you would rather go around and do not want to say hello; you like to type and communicate, do not like to talk on the phone; you can solve it online, never meet offline. After the number of surfing on the Internet, Zhou Miao knew that she was called "social fear". But at the moment when the per capita "social terror", is Zhou Miao really "social terror"?

The society you know is not really the social fear

According to Zhang You, the Department of anxiety obstacles of Shenzhen Corning Hospital, social phobia is also known as social anxiety disorder, which refers to the excessive, unreasonable, and continuous fear of various social or public occasions. Stress and anxiety.

The core manifestations of social fear are significant and continuous fear of humiliation and embarrassing social behavior in front of the public, worry about other people's ridicule, negatively evaluate their social behavior, and continue to be nervous or fearful in corresponding social occasions. Under the intention or unintentional gaze, it is even more difficult to settle. And because of fear of ugly or embarrassment in front of people, try their best to avoid various social occasions such as various social occasions that significantly affect individuals and social functions. Common in adolescents or early adults, the chances of men and women suffer are equal.

Under normal circumstances, patients with social phobia have certain physical reactions (physical symptoms), such as sweating, blushing, dry mouth, chest tightness, acceleration of heartbeat, rapid breathing, etc. Eating, public speaking in public, signing documents under the watching of others, encountering heterosexuals, schools and other environments, the body's reaction will be more obvious. Therefore, to a certain extent, Zhou Miao is not a "social fear" defined by medicine, but may be a "pseudo -community terror" that refuses social in the name of "community terror".

Is the introverted person?

Zhang You said that many introverted people will mistakenly think that they may be "social terror". Although they have similarities, they are actually very different. Introverting is a personality characteristics, and social phobia is a psychological disease, afraid of being examined or judged by others. The biggest difference between the two is that the introvert does not like social networking, and the society is more afraid of social.

Internalists prefer to stay alone than social networking, and social terrorists will have a continuous and strong sense of fear of specific social scenarios. The introvert will worry about the eyes of others, but there will be no strong self -criticism, and the society will be afraid of being embarrassed, accused, and criticism in social networking. The introvert will feel uncomfortable at the beginning of the understanding, but it will be relieved after being familiar. When the introverteders are social, they may feel uncomfortable, but they will not affect normal life, and those in the society may significantly affect their personal career and social functions. The introvert will take the initiative to choose a smaller circle for social interaction, making them feel more comfortable, and even if the social fear, even if you want to interact with others, you will avoid social networking because of fear. The introvert does not need to be healed, or even no need to make any changes.

What should I do if I have "social terror"?

What should I do if I have "social terror"? Zhang You's suggestion is as follows:

① Change the wrong thinking mode. There are several common mistakes.

Evaluation of fear: always look at your words and deeds, worrying that you can make some ugly behaviors to make yourself embarrassed and be joked by others.

Suggestion: In response to this kind of fear, when you communicate with others, you can see whether others have a negative evaluation of themselves through their own observations and soliciting feedback from others.

The spotlight effect: Think of your "tension", small changes, and even your mistakes will be seen, and your every move will be examined.

Suggestion: Tell yourself that it is not the focus of others' attention. No one will stare at himself in public. It is just a hurry, and you will not pay attention to mistakes and disadvantages. Even if you see it, you will not deny a person. What others see are only 10%you can feel.

Perfectism: Repeatedly entangled in details, because he did not expect the "perfect" response method, "not speak" and "do not act."

Suggestion: Learn to accept yourself, not harsh yourself. Stopped your picky, criticized, blame, and don't escape because of fear.

② Receive scientific treatment methods, such as exposure treatment and social training.

Zhang You introduced that exposure treatment refers to the social scenario that directly contacts the fear. The level of fear is from low to high. After adaptation, the higher level of scenes will be adaptable until it is fully adapted to the highest level of fear of social scenarios.

Social training is to practice mirrors, try to talk to myself in the mirror, and hint in my heart, "It's great that I can do it wrong." Say hello, gradually transition to look at the strangers, say hello, etc.; Read a speech every day to exercise language and logic.

Zhang You said that the world is diverse and does not need to cater to the expectations of others.Being quietly in your own world is also a kind of life that is worthy of respect, but it is a better choice to bravely open yourself.The society may really need to improve, but don't force themselves too much. Everyone can choose a comfortable way to live, love themselves, and love everything around them.Reporter: Yan Shanshan

Correspondent: Xu Guojian

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