Derailed: How to get out of the broken love?

The day Miss Z learned that the day when she was derailed by her boyfriend who had been deeply loved for many years was an ordinary day.

She still remembers her feelings at the time: first unbelievable, and then tried to deny the authenticity of the incident, and finally accepted it like death.

She couldn't believe that yesterday, she vowed to vowed. In fact, the other party had said it to another person; she couldn't imagine those gentleness and consideration that thought they only belonged to themselves, and another person accepted it. She felt a part of her body and collapsed.

She asked the other party why she was not doing well enough, and the other party shook her head: "You are the best girl I have ever seen." At that moment, only endless anger left in Miss Z's chest.

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In fact, Miss Z's story is not uncommon. In life, such things are common. However, the derailment incident has never been a lighter talk in your mouth, but a huge wound that is enough for them. Some people's wounds are still bleeding, some people have already healed wounds, and some seem to be intact. In fact, they have already ulcerated inside.

However, life cannot be stopped because of a trauma. If we want to get out of the shadow of derailed, how can we try to heal ourselves?

情 Accept your current emotions.

Whether it is disgusted or sad, whether it is self -confused or angry, this is the most intuitive feeling of our hearts when facing derailment, trying to accept it instead of denying it. Strong. You have a reason and right to have emotions.

是 Tell yourself: This is not your fault.

Feelings have always been a matter of two people.

Derailment does not mean where you do not do well or make each other dissatisfaction. It must be a crack in the two people's relationship and communication mode, so that a third party will take the opportunity to enter. When you are sad, you may wish to tell yourself: This is never your fault.

Try to communicate with your partner.

I know this is difficult, but please give this relationship a last chance. When you calm down, you might as well listen to the attitude and ideas of the other party. No one forces you to forgive each other, but the choice made after full communication will definitely make you more relieved.

Picture source: "Disappearing Love"

A year later, Miss Z and I accidentally talked about what happened at the beginning. She said to me, "I don't know if you have heard such a sentence. The meaning is a direction. Connect with a larger existence. "

I asked her if she would regret her decisive practice that year. She smiled: "He taught me a lot with this relationship, isn't it? But I will never thank him. ","

In fact, many times we lose our feelings because we love each other too much. However, love people first love ourselves, and when we are derailed, we can also find the upward exit from this broken relationship.

How to get out of the relationship of broken and out of control when it comes to derailment

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