I found the reason why I didn't like to speak in the group?See how many of you are!

As a way of communicating with group chat, the difficulty of group speeches can sometimes be able to speak publicly. The process of speaking groups is also the process of individual impression management.

The so -called Impression Management refers to a process that people try to manage and control others for their own impression. Usually, people always tend to show themselves with an image that match the current social situation or interpersonal background to ensure that others make a pleasant evaluation of themselves.

In social interaction, understanding the consciousness and cognition of others' own people, and based on this creation of positive conducive to our image and helps us to communicate with others; at the same time Let your behavior be too passive to attach to others.

In this situation, the attention of others caused by speeches may bring two types of concerns to the speaker. One is the embarrassment of not getting the response and attention of others, and the category is cold; the other is the category of public expression caused Undead and potential negative feedback or negative evaluation for yourself.

The emergence of the above two types of situations is not conducive to the impression management of the speaker in the group, especially when the familiarity between the group members is lower. In order to avoid this kind of concerns, many friends will not choose to speak easily and control possible problems from the source.

At the same time, these concerns will also bring a certain negative emotions to the speaker, the most typical commonly common in the fear of anxiety and public situation before speaking.

There are three possible reasons:

First, the speaker's personality is easy to shy and difficult to express himself. It is common in the social fear of the crowd. Typical manifestations such as the eyes appearing in social networking, blushing, shrugging, and restlessness.

Second, the spokesman is insufficient self -confidence and the level of self -esteem is low. In other words, these friends are unwilling to believe in their self -worth, and often think of things in the disadvantages, and they are not willing to work hard to change. These friends are more likely to have an excessive sensitivity to interpersonal relationships and society.

Third, negative feedback in the past. From the perspective of behavioralism, the previous feedback will shape the behavior of the individual. In the previous similar situation, the unpleasant experience, or the positive feedback and support of others, will exacerbate the individual's fear and fear of subsequent actions. For example, "Before everyone talked in the group, I was very high in the group. I finally got courage to follow a few personal opinions. As a result, the game was cold immediately after the end of the game, and the group was silent." It is difficult to make the next speech.

Psychological behaviorism believes that behavior is a combination of various physical reactions used to adapt to environmental changes. The core is "S-R" (that is, stimulation-reaction).

In other words, the reasons for our previous stimulus, the behavior reaction depends on the content and strength of the stimulus. Positive feedback (reward) helps to promote behavior again, while negative feedback (no positive feedback or punishment) can reduce the probability of appearing after the behavior.

In response to the above situation, speakers can improve their self -confidence and self -esteem, seek opinions and support in a deliberate practice, and inspire themselves through good feedback to reduce the stress response and negative emotions brought by publicly expressing opinions, and then Let yourself express yourself better in front of the public.

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