"People's Daily": 9 performances that have no interest in a person, I hope you have no one

My memory is not good, so hard work is useless; I have no talent, so I can't do it well; my understanding is not high, so what's not good ...

The above descriptions, I believe that in life, you and I have heard many times, and many people habitually find some reasons for themselves not wanting to do.

Many times, it is not external forces that interfere with you, but your unnecessary self -esteem, procrastination and self -setting.

In fact, you can't do it, you just get used to procrastination and like to escape.

Today, I will summarize 9 performances that people do not want to grow.

Life, no one can set up restrictions on you except yourself.

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Always make excuses

This is a story about Google programmer.

Sun Ling was born in a rural family. After the college entrance examination was lost, she and her classmates came to work in Shenzhen.

I work for 12 hours a day and do simple mechanical labor. The salary can be only 800 yuan per month.

She was unwilling to live like this for a lifetime.

Later, she signed up for computer programming courses with a tuition fee of 30,000 yuan.

For this reason, she worked hard to save money every day, did 114 customer service, posted leaflets on the roadside, and also worked as a KFC waiter. She often worked until at 2 o'clock in the middle of the night.

After Sun Ling completed the 3 -phase programming course, she found a programmer in Shenzhen. At that time, her monthly salary had been doubled.

However, Sun Ling was not satisfied with this. She felt that her language ability was insufficient and reported the corresponding courses.

She learned about her new friends while learning. With the encouragement of everyone, she applied for a master's degree in computer science, and finally completed her life counterattack.

We all know that "excuses" are a person's instinct, but Sun Ling did not let him live with the waves because of the low starting point.

Like other successful people, she finds ways to solve when facing difficulties, rather than asking for excuses or shirk responsibility for herself.

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Fear of failure

When eating with friends Li Juan, she told me: "I want to resign, but I am afraid that I can't find a better job."

I said, "Then you can do it here first, and you have a good chance to change jobs."

She also said, "Although I am used to it here, the salary is too low, and it is almost enough to the current living standard."

Soon, there was no more incident.

Since childhood, Li Juan has always lack confidence in himself, because he is afraid of failure, so he has always stepped on.

The longer she stayed in the comfort zone, the less courage to take that step.

Later, colleagues who joined the job at the same time as her, either the promotion of the job, or conspiring another high.

Only she still lives in tangled.

Fear of failure is to give up.

If there is no previous failure, how can there be the success of the later?

There will be a failure of anyone in their lives. In fact, the sooner the failure is, it is a good thing for yourself, because failure is to find a greater room for improvement for yourself, so he encounters a better self.

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Hesitant

Once, there was a video of the whole network.

In the video, the old man named Qiu Yuanxiu Fu said to the 24 -year -old who said something worthy of reflection.

"Xiufu, you will know a girl in the company, a small and cute little Chinese sauce. You will associate together, but you have always hesitated to get married. If you have love in your heart, you will act immediately! Because Houhua sauce will die due to illness, and you will regret it, extremely sad, and you can never forget. "

This old man also caused regret because of the hesitation of time and again, and he was not married for life and was alone.

Goethe said: "The hesitation person will never find the best answer, because the opportunity will leave at your hesitation moment."

Take it seriously.

If one life is divided into two, then the first half of the philosophy of life is "not hesitation", and the second half of life philosophy is "no regrets."

Sometimes, the trick of fate lies in your hesitation, and when you finally make up your mind, it has reached the curtain time.

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Refuse to learn

Zhang Shaoyun, a new Oriental lecturer, known as the "sweeping king", was born in a poor countryside.

After studying for two years of informal college English at the New Oriental Practical English Academy, he watched classrooms in New Oriental and cleaned up in New Oriental after graduation.

At that time, he did not satisfy his job, but put his goal on the lecturer.

He hung a small blackboard at home, simulated the classroom, talked over and over again, and wrote over and over again.

No one was optimistic about his future, and even some people mocked him secretly.

Zhang Shaoyun faded up his ears and persisted for a year.

Later, when he brought the small blackboard to the New Oriental Building, he simulated lectures on recruiting teachers in charge, and obtained the employment of teachers, shocked everyone.

After listening to Zhang Shaoyun's story, someone asked me, "How can I work hard to become a successful person?"

My answer is: "Choose a bad way."

Zhang Shaoyun successfully counterattacked because of his unwillingness and constant learning.

No one is born to succeed. Most people are running in the darkness, but just running and running, it is just light.

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Habit delay

A survey by the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences shows:

80%of Chinese college students and 86%of the workplace people suffer from procrastination; 50%of them will not start working at less than the last moment; no one in 13%is urged and cannot complete the work.

No wonder some people will say that 99%of young people now live on the "deadline". Many people will tell themselves that starting tonight, they must go to bed early and get up early, but when they put down their mobile phones, they are already one or two in the morning.

To lose weight and exercise almost the slogan that everyone must shout, but after a while, it is found that the current waist circumference has two more "hula circles" more than the original ...

A friend who had heard a science and technology report said that sometimes they reported a new product or new model, and often saw that many people were amazed or lamented that they had similar ideas.

In the same idea, a thousand people may think of it. One hundred people are going to do it, and only one person does it.

It may be due to the lack of conditions, maybe the courage, or just because of delay.

Life cannot come again, and sometimes simply procrastination will make you miss a chance of success.

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no patience

Jingzi is the most self -disciplined among my friends.

One day, we had a meal together. I admired her good figure, but she smiled, blushed to show me a photo of her two years ago, bloated, and her face was yellow and yellow. She is now judged to be two.

she says:

"At that time, I had a child at home, and I was seriously looking at my body. There were also some treasure moms who did not pay attention to maintaining her figure. Later, some people proposed to go to the gym to practice yoga.

"Everyone was fighting as ambitious before signing up, but later, some people only came once or twice a month, and some even came again or twice and would never come again or twice. They are all excuses.

"It's been two years now, and the person who signed up together is that I insist every day, and their figure is the same as before."

80%of the failure in the world stems from halfway.

Many people's life is like the law of lotus. At the beginning, it blooms hard. When you start to feel boring, you may give up on the 9th day, 19th, or even 29th day. step.

In fact, when people fight to the end, they are not luck or talent, but whether they can persist.

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Afraid of being rejected

There is such a sentence in "Lost in the World":

"My misfortune is just because I lack the ability to refuse. I am afraid that once I reject others, I will leave a crack that can never heal in each other."

This also tells the reason why many people do not understand refusal, afraid of offending others, and fear of being abandoned.

Most of these people are cowardly, just like the characters shaped by Ba Jin in the novel "Home" Gao Juexin.

Gao Juexin was very reluctant to accompany the elders to chat and chat, but he couldn't refuse every time; as the eldest son, the elders would always get angry with something unpleasant.

However, even if all kinds of samples should not bear the grievances, Gao Juexin never resisted.

Because of fear of resistance, he converged his temper and became only promising.

Those who do not understand the rejection, in the face of the request of others, are always embarrassed to say the word "no". In the end, they waste their own time and constantly consume themselves.

Blindly accommodating others, I will live very tired in the end.

Therefore, learning to refuse is not to teach you selfishness, but to protect yourself.

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Self -restriction

I have seen such a biological experiment:

Biologists throw fleas at the ground at will, and it can jump more than one meter high.

But if a lid is placed in one meter high, the flea will jump up and hit the lid.

After a while, I removed the lid and found that although the flea continued to jump, it could no longer jump to more than one meter until the end of life was the same.

It turned out that they had adjusted their jumping height, and adapted to this situation, and no longer changed.

In fact, people are the same, and many people in their lives are also living "flea life."

Because of repeated failures and repeatedly reduced the standards of success, even if all the original restrictions have been canceled, they dare not jump on a new height.

Some people set a coffin prematurely for their lives, thinking that this is the case in this life.

At the same time, they will hesitate because of their psychological burdens and inferiority.

In fact, everyone has a great potential, but is used to setting up limits and not digging.

From now on, don't say that you can't do it anymore. If you say too much, it really doesn't work.

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Escape reality

"Zhuzhou Evening News" interviewed Xiaolu, 32.

After graduating from college, he worked in Guangzhou and resigned two years ago.

After staying at home for a while, I rented a house outside, bought a computer, surfed the Internet all day while renting a house. Finally, the parents' bitterness persuaded, and was willing to go home.

The reporter saw Xiaolu's room:

The doors and windows are closed tightly. On a table by the bed, there are two computers, one with a song, and the other computer shows a picture of an online game.

"I also want to go out to find a job, but work is really difficult to find. What should I do if I find a job?" What should I do? "

Xiao Lu said that he had been dismissed by the company's owner, and then went to job hunting. After returning home, he made a sense of existence by playing games.

Researchers from the University of Gadif to investigate 2,316 volunteers who often play online games and found that only 9 people meet the standards of "game addiction".

Studies have shown that online games itself is not addictive, obsessed with playing games may be to avoid the unhappiness in reality.People can escape reality, but cannot escape life.

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The road to life must be gained, the sooner, the more sad in the future.

Today, this article, everyone understands many truths, and then write it again. I hope that everyone can remember in my heart and take every step in life.

Life is long. When you encounter difficulties, don't escape, don't try to do it, how can you know that life can be better.

The key to life is full of mud, the key is how we grasp our lives.

How do you live today, how do you live a lifetime, I hope you will not have these 9 points.

With friends.

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