Three kinds of speaking habits, one mouth will expose your incompetence!No wonder it is crowded, you can’t get reuse

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Psychologists have investigated that a person's success has a great relationship with his speech habits.

In other words: "There is no kind of speech in human activities, because there is no kind of activity more frequently and more common than speaking, and even whether we succeed in a large extent. of.

The famous entrepreneur Stephen C once published "Speaking Psychology" telling us that speaking is actually an art. It is very important to speak to others to be accepted by others.

Because sometimes the damage of words is actually much greater than the physical damage. Words can not only show a person's physical state, but also show a person's incompetence and indifference.

Three kinds of speaking habits, one mouth will expose your incompetence! No wonder it is crowded and cannot be reused. If you have no popularity or you can't reuse, you must reflect on your words.

1. Show your sense of superiority in language

The sense of superiority is what everyone has, and through the sense of superiority, we can let the psychological situation get rid of a certain sense of inferiority. Everyone will have such a compensation mechanism of a psychological state, and this is the source of our support for life value.

A reasonable sense of superiority allows us to find our own value, but if this superiority is on others, it will cause some trouble to others, whether it is to ourselves or to others, it is an inevitable harm.

2. Never negate others

It is often denied that others are in fact, and they often affirm their thoughts without care about being being viewed. Psychologists have proposed the theory of "self -affirmation". Psychologists believe that a person wants to prove his thoughts and behaviors is actually a strong self -affirmation and using this method to maintain his value.

Each of us will be affected by its own environment and individual growth experience when growing up, thereby forming a set of their own logic and methods. When encountering things and scope of our cognition, it will cause cognitive imbalance.

Then when others make a point of view, they will protect themselves by negating others. This behavior is also an instinct. Such people will work very hard to refresh their sense of existence, in order to depreciate them to raise themselves, and they do not respect others' respect.

3. Talk

When some people are talking, they may actually have no malice itself, but the meaning of the words will change from the mouth. In simple terms, it is: very unspeakable.

This type of people like to be curved very much, and does not directly express their thoughts, and always express according to their own ideas and moods.

The famous psychologist Marshall Luxembourg once said this situation: "Maybe we don't think our way of speaking is a very violent behavior, but sometimes this language brings to ourselves and them a certain amount pain of."

We will feel a very strong sense of uncertainty with such people, and there will be a strong sense of distrust between each other, so people who speak so often will often hurt others, so the popularity will be very bad.

Therefore, if you want to have a smoother path in work and life, the problem of "comes out of the mouth" must be kept in mind.

"Guiguzi" once expressed a certain expression of speaking:

"There are" people, the portal of the heart, the heart of the heart, the Lord of God. Will, desire, thoughts, and ingenuity, all of which are in and out of the portal, so they are closed and they are in and out. Those who are Kaiye, Yan also, and yang are also; Yin and yang is harmonious, and it is righteous. "

This tells us that our mouths are the most important way for us to contact the outside world. Only by controlling the switch can we reflect our own value.

This is why some people can get what they want by speaking, and even left and right.

Some people have no evil ending, but when they exit, they can always mess up everything and even become a weapon.

Whether it is in history or now, most people who can succeed can speak appropriate words at the right time and appropriate time, because people who are truly smart know how to add points to themselves.

Be careful to be responsible for yourself, and to be responsible for others.

Knowing how to respect others, what you should say should not be said, and know how to express the appropriate psychology and behavior with appropriate words to make our words a valuable weapon.

Instead of being criticized as soon as you speak, sometimes incompetence may not be known from our actions, and from every sentence, you can show the person's pattern, state, and popularity.

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