"No matter how good the children of someone else, will you come to take care of you in the future?" Parents complain that they are returned by their son

The most annoying thing for children is to be compared with other children by parents?

In the process of growing up, every child will have a very annoying voice, and always echoing in our ear: how good you are, how good and worry -free ...

When I hear such a voice, even if the child did not get angry, he would be blown instantly, either angry with his parents, or angry with himself.

"No matter how good the children of someone else, will you come to take care of you in the future?" Parents complain that they are returned by their son

Every day, I found that my mother seemed to be more and more disliked by him. No matter what he was doing every day, the mother would complain about a few words, just like he was eating, and the mother would say to him: Can't eating eat big? Big mouth! eat quickly!

At first, I didn't think much about every day. After all, my mother loved themselves so much and always praised themselves. In front of other children, they liked themselves. So much. Now that his mother's attitude towards himself has changed, he still feels his own problem.

But I did not expect that my mother was intensified. Originally, she just encountered a little bit of things and kept talking, but now it has become a complaint all the time, and compares the children of other people's houses with themselves. This makes it unbearable every day.

In the recent quarrel, I couldn't help it every day. If I want to refute my mother, I said to my mother loudly: No matter how good the children of others are, will I come to take care of you in the future? Your biological child is only me. Why can't you see the flash point on me?

When my mother heard this every day, the whole person was stunned. On the one hand, she had never refuted himself every day. What he would do, he would do, and in his eyes, he was a small sheep.

On the other hand, it seems that it seems that there is a little reason every day. Is it better? But my original intention is not the case, but I have been misunderstood every day. What should I do!

The child's explosion is not accidental

Even children will have the bottom line of acceptance

Every day's mother can easily say such words, perhaps because he has received such education since he was a child, and he listened to too many parents from a young age. After he became a parent, these words would be able to become a lesson. The best material of your child.

But when my mother must be so angry when I hear such words when I was young, so I accepted incompetence! After all, every child wants to be recognized by his mother, not disgusting. If you can only accept it once or twice, once the frequency becomes more, he really cannot control the small universe in his heart.

Perhaps every day has performed before, to inform my mother's own bottom line, such as emotional irritability, not talking to my mother, trying to make yourself better. Although the behavior of making is good or bad, it is a way of expression of children's emotions.

It's just that her mother has never paid attention to it. She just wants to talk about her emotions and spit her negative emotions quickly. The child's emotional changes and behavior movements are no longer she considers.

Children are very sensitive and can insight into the emotional changes of their parents

The acceptedness of the child's emotional change is much better than we think. Perhaps it is because of the eyes of the mother and a movement that can immediately feel whether the mother is happy or sad.

Then they will adjust their behavior based on the mothers' emotional changes, such as converging their behavior, doing some behaviors that make their mother happy, or to hug the mother simple. But it also includes sometimes help, obviously wanting to please mother, but I did not expect to make the mother even more angry.

This ability may be their inherent social advantages, but many times because they are too sensitive, they bring more trouble and harm to their hearts. ah.

Summary today:

What would you do if you heard such a tuning like your mother? Welcome to share your thoughts with us!

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