The status quo of the marriage of the middle -aged husband and wife: while having disgusting each other, you can never give up

After the peak of the epidemic, "retaliated consumption" did not come, but we ushered in "retaliation divorce".

The Civil Affairs Bureau in a certain local government set up a long line, and the number of divorce places was instantly gathered. The appointment registration was ranked until the end of July.

Instead of the deterioration of the relationship between the husband and wife, it is better to reveal the marriage truth of the middle -aged husband and wife more.

Just like the ridicule of netizens: "Middle -aged feelings are not as good as dogs, and they break up when they break up."

Middle -aged couples are tired of love, and their love is faint. A small wave flower in life may be scattered.

Ning and mobile phones are lingering without looking at each other

There is a drama: "The biggest primary school of middle -aged couple is not so delicious, a mobile phone is enough."

Men, do not hear the window of the window, only play a small phone, the earth does not explode, and the mobile phone does not let go. When you go home, take your mobile phone, either smirk with a short video, or concentrate on playing the game;

Women, work, children, and housework for one day, expect to use their mobile phones to return blood. When I was free, I hugged my mobile phone, either watching the live broadcast "Buying and buying", or chasing the drama.

Holding the eyes of the mobile phones, calming each other; put down the mobile phone and lost their souls, leaving only look at each other.

I have read a report:

"Through an interview with a number of gold medal families, a conclusion was obtained: 30%of the cause of divorce is related to mobile phones. Mobile social and mobile games occupy the duty time of the husband and wife, and mobile payment has led to the separation of the husband and wife."

But there are also many netizens who pointed out in a blood -stroke:

The relationship between the husband and wife is fading, and the mobile phone does not carry this pot.

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Under the topic of knowing the "widowed marriage", netizens@在 在 said:

I do n’t know when I have nothing more to say with my husband. I want to solve everything myself. The mobile phone is the best medium for me to help.

In fact, many middle -aged couples did not encounter principled problems, but they were caught in "marriage loss" in the day after day.

After watching a marriage documentary, the director spent 7 years and followed 8 couples, and one of them impressed me.

In front of the camera, the wife asked her husband calmly, "Do you talk to me for more than an hour every day?"

The husband said, "You have been facing the phone, you won't talk to me."

In the past 7 years, we have not seen any fierce contradictions from this couple, but they are so calmly buried their marriage.

Robin Williams once said:

"The most terrible thing in the world is not lonely, but to get old with the one who makes him lonely."

The guilty seems to be a mobile phone. In fact, there was a problem with the communication between the husband and wife.

There is no concern, no communication, you are busy with you, I play me, two people are likely friends, like brothers of righteousness, but they are not like intimate couples.

Ning and mobile phones are lingering without looking at each other. This may be the true portrayal of many middle -aged couples.

You and I have nothing to do, rely on baby entanglement

Since the media author@自 体 自 has shared his own story online.

She has been married to her husband for 9 years. After having a child, she weighs it again and again. She decided to resign home and bring a baby, and this area is 7 years.

At first, she planned to learn to improve herself while bringing her baby, but the reality gave her a good start.

"Children are simply a large -scale time fragments. Even if you have 48 hours a day, she will be full for you. Not to mention reading, your face is too lazy to wash."

What about husband? In Liu Xiaonian's words, it seemed like a person.

Since her full -time at home, her husband has lived on the day of "meals and mouths, clothes to reach out", and have less concerned about his wife, and only take care of herself.

After finally looking forward to the child in the kindergarten, Liu Xiaonian planned to go out of the rivers and lakes and return to the workplace.

I don't want to, it is a layer of hindrance.

On the one hand, the child needs to take care of the people across the three forks and five colds.

She had a stomach grievance, thinking about talking to her husband about herself, but the husband's view of her husband's education:

The piano competition of colleagues was awarded; the client's baby was 3 years old to learn painting;

At this age of daughter, it is the best time to cultivate a sense of language. You are best to communicate with her for half an hour every day, or read some English picture books.

Don't rush to find a job, cultivate your child first.

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Listening to her husband's output, she couldn't help feeling: you and I have no chance, relying on baby entanglement.

After several years of marriage, the content of the husband and wife dialogue gradually changed from concern to each other to talk about children.

In this regard, many middle -aged couples are deeply the same:

Do n’t believe you flipped through the chat history. In the dialog box with your husband, in the 10 sentences, 9 sentences are children, and one of the remaining one may be a transfer record.

The pace of life is getting faster and faster, and the competition for survival is becoming more and more intense. The middle -aged couple galloped on their own track, and the children became their only intersection.

"Did the child sleep?"

"Is the counseling class?"

"Will parents open?"

These have become high -frequency topics for middle -aged couples, and "you are tired of work" and "good mood", but less and less.

The most heartbroken truth among middle -aged husbands and wives is to maintain relationships with children as the bonds, rather than relying on each other's love and care.

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Disgusting each other, never getting away

Someone on the Internet asked: "What is a husband and wife?"

A high praise replied:

"When you don't quarrel, you can die for TA; when you quarrel, you feel that the damn is TA; after the quarrel, I feel that what should I do if I die?" This is the humor and truth that people can understand.

There is no perfect marriage in the world, and no matter how good the relationship is, there are 200 divorce thoughts.

But the fact is that most husbands and wives are disgusted with each other and never give up.

Recently, in the CCTV hit drama "The Story of the Lion Mountain", Luo Yitong and Zhen Qianmei, the pair of "happy enemies", has countless fans.

Picture source: TV series "Story Under Lion Mountain"

At the beginning of the encounter, the rich family, Zhen Qianmei, fell in love with the hotel chef Luo together. They broke through worldly obstacles and quickly entered the marriage hall.

When the affection gradually retreated, the couple noticed the problems of the other party.

Luo Yi was unable to see Zhen Qianmei's old lady's temper. She suspected that her mind was not light, and she listened to the wind as rain; Zhen Qianmei felt that her husband had no ambition, his eyes were short, and her vision was narrow.

Zhen Qianmei wants to immigrate to the UK, and Luo Yiyi will not go. The couple vowed to say goodbye.

In the end, Zhen Qianmei was still reluctant to her husband, and Luo Yitong also kept it.

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Later, the Hong Kong property market was hot, and Zhen Qianmei loaned more than 10 million to buy a luxury house.

For this matter, the couple are complaining about me spending more money, I think you have no courage.

However, when the economic crisis strikes and house prices have shrunk sharply, when Zhen Qian is ashamed, Luo is accompanied by the same time, and cares.

The couple quarreled all their lives, and the farce continued, but at the critical moment, they could pull each other to cross the difficulties.

Iboson said marriage is a major test of life.

When you are in love, you have a starlight in the eyes of your lover, but once you enter the marriage, hormones retreat quietly in the years, and we will calmly see the shortcomings of the partner, and the contradictions in the folds of life folds. Differential.

There is no noisy couple, nor the marriage that is scattered, and the normal state of marriage is to dislike each other and be unable to abandon each other.

Love is like salt in life. It is more salty and less light, but the facts are that most couples are still in this bland, and they have gone far away.

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Happy marriage is "pretended"

Regarding marriage, I really agree with the writer Bai Yang:

"Marriage life, live half open eyes and half -eyes."

If you observe it carefully, it is not difficult to find that those married couples have a common thing in common, that is, they will "pretend".

Pretending to be dumb and stupid, you can pretend to be confused, you will not be clever, you can compromise and make concessions, and you will not go to the tat.

These seemingly silly behaviors actually have affection and wisdom behind them.

In marriage, how can we "pretend" the happiness? Suggestion for everyone.

1. Pretending to be silly, talking about love is more important than reasoning.

One episode of "Ace to Ace" is very interesting.

Moderator asked: "Ladies, where are the private money of men behind you hiding?"

Sha Yi's wife Hu Ke immediately wrote down on the cardboard: behind the radiator.

Sha Yi asked embarrassedly: "How do you know that the money hid behind the radiator?"

Hu Ke said: "Because the heating is not very clean behind, it is about to come to the heating. There are many gray behind the radiator. When cleaning, this secret is found."

It turned out that Hu Ke found out about Sha Yizang's private house money, but she had never said that it was broken, let alone revealing it immediately.

Writer August Changan once said: "When people and people have no feelings, justice is justified. Feelings are the field of love, not a venue for reason."

Our old saying also said: "The husband and wife are unreasonable, you are rational, the husband and wife must talk about love, and the love hurts each other."

You must learn to pretend to be stupid in marriage. After all, home is a place for love.

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2. Weakle, make the other party feel needed.

There is a touching story, and many people have seen it.

Mrs. Sache went home after attending the Prime Minister's inauguration, knocked hard, and shocked her busy husband.

Husband asked, "Who?"

"I am the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom!"

As a result, after waiting for a long time, the husband didn't open the door, so Satcher said again, "Dear, open the door, I am your wife."

This time, her voice was gentle enough, and after her husband opened the door, she couldn't help but gave her a warm hug.

In marriage, proper weakness shows weakness, not to give up the principle, touch the bottom line, but a wisdom of "retreating".

3. Pretending to be confused, small things are not true.

I have read such a proved marriage word on the Internet:

"What is the algorithm of marriage? Is marriage unclear? I love you a little more, or do you love me more? Do you care about it, or I calculate less? Let's, this is the best algorithm. "

Many husbands and wives contradictions are considered too clear that they must compare.

"You give your relatives more than my family than my family."

"Today is your turn to brush the bowl to clean, and you can't work overtime."

"Let's make money each, and eat it aa."

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These seemingly trivial matters that do not need to pay attention to, one by one, is enough to break down a marriage.

The husband and wife are too much. In fact, the two parties are placed in the "internal consumption of marriage".Everyone who knows that smart people must discuss big things together, and small things do not need to compare.

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When people reach middle age, trivial matters are entangled.

In particular, the marriage of middle -aged people is struggling under the competition and pressure of survival.

But life is exactly what Mr. Yang Yan said:

"Live half of the rice oil and salt, half of the star in the stars. Put a little salt, it is salty, put a little sugar, it is sweet. What kind of taste is to be adjusted, all by yourself."

I believe that even if life is full of problems, as long as it responds positively and improves, the marriage of middle -aged people can still become a harbor that soothe people.

Follow the reader, I hope you finish this article, put down your mobile phone, give your lover a hug, chat together, listen to music, and give each other a new start.

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