Shanghai "Leader", 17 years old this year

In April this year, at the most severe epidemic in Shanghai, most residents in this city rely on spontaneous group dishes to complete the supply of living materials. The person who initiated the group purchase is called the "head of the group", and among tens of thousands of "head", one has attracted the attention of many people -because of his age.

Cai Yanxiao, 17 years old, is a senior high school student in Shanghai. At the same time, he is also the only "head" in a community in Qingpu District, Shanghai. During the epidemic, he purchased hundreds of pounds of vegetables, pork, soy products, hot pot and seafood while buying hundreds of pounds of vegetables, pork, soybean products, hot pots and seafood while buying it. The title of the neighbor was "the youngest head of Shanghai." At the end of April, Cai Yanxiao posted a 18 -minute video on the Internet, telling his experience and feelings of being a "head". His expression was clear and powerful, so he received much attention.

He has a complicated label. He is a child of a middle -class family. The international school is the chairman of the student union for two sessions. The GPA is full. He has won the OFFER of Stanford Summer School, which is a stepping stalls applying for famous American schools. But at the same time, compared to those more typical students, there are some unique parts of his growth experience. His parents have not attended college. In most of his growth, his family is a working class. Dalvation games, from the bottom of the students to "counterattack", explore themselves in almost wild state, and become a rare person who grew up very complete at the age of 17.

People are also curious about him, not only the courage, responsibility, expression, and scheduling ability of a high school student, but also a deep educational anxiety -in today's heated competition, our children How to grow complete and avoid becoming a "hollow person".

At the end of May, we had more than three hours of chatting with Cai Xi. At that time, he had just left Shanghai, arrived in Hangzhou, ready to transfer to Guangzhou, and went to apply for a visa to the United States. We talked about his experience of being the head of the regiment, his family, his self -exploration, and his ideal life in international schools. It is impressive that when he looked back at his growth process, he clearly saw how wealth became a privilege in his group, and he also had his own reflection on this privilege. Honesty, the vision, vision and thinking depth of such a 17 -year -old high school student are unexpected.

Not everyone can have such superior conditions, he and we both acknowledge this. However, how to let our children get out of the trap and truly find the power of upward and action. The story of the 17 -year -old education practice can still give us some slight inspiration.

The following is the narration of Cai Xiao:

Text ｜ Lin Songguo

Edit ｜ Yao Lu

Figure ｜ Interviewee provided

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I am the head of the regiment is a very accidental thing. At the beginning of the epidemic, I actually moved to this community for a month.

Before, I lived in the school dormitory, but because this year was more critical for me, I was ready to apply for a school in autumn. The time was tight. My parents considered giving me a slightly quieter environment, but my home was very from the school. Far, forty kilometers, so they rented a house next to the school. I lived in in February, and in April, the epidemic began.

It turns out that I do n’t cook. There is a cafeteria in the school. I eat three meals a day in school. This is equivalent to a place to sleep and write homework. But after the community is closed, I have to cook alone. I have made some preparations before, and I stock some water and compressed biscuits, and I bought rice and chicken breasts and milk. But by April 5th, a very real problem is that I don't have fresh vegetables and fruits.

Our community is very small, and there are hundreds of residents. I asked in the nucleic acid testing group in the community at the time that everyone had the needs of group dishes. Some people responded, and I organized a small group. At the beginning, there were only more than a dozen people in this group, so I went to contact and went to the channel to supply vegetables.

The first time did not succeed. We were in Qingpu District. At that time, I found a list of confession issued by Qingpu District. There was a guarantee unit closer to us. It wrote 30 copies. We worked hard to get 30 copies. As a result, the other party said that they mainly supply another town and could not cross the town. This time it was equivalent to failure, and I was still frustrated at the time.

On the next day, more and more neighbors came in. There were 70 or eighty people, and the demand was large. Everyone does not know that I am a 17 -year -old high school student. Little Mao children, just say, let's take a look at vegetables. At that time, I used the relatively original WeChat dragon. When I got 80 copies, I took this demand and went to a supply to talk about it. They said yes, I paid the deposit that night, and I sent it the next day. When I got the batch of dishes, my mood was very excited. Later, I learned that it was not easy for the next day to get the next day. We were quite lucky.

This is like this. For the first time, there is a second time. After the group is finished, everyone starts to have more advanced needs.

The food purchased by Cai Yanxiao Group

To be honest, it was a bit delayed at first, because I had to call, wait for the phone, go to the community to wait for dishes, and contact volunteers to distribute. Some people have to return and exchange, and they will take up some time.

But then I found that as long as the management is proper, the workload is not large -the most important thing is to set up a process. For example, I used WeChat to connect the dragon before, very slow, and to add WeChat and turn money one by one. Later, I started to use the dragon applet, spent two minutes a day, make a link to the applet, issue a number of notices in the group, and send it about three times. Form, sort it out and give it to the supplier. The vegetables were sent to the community. We all performed their duties. I was responsible for statistics.

As for why I became the head of the regiment, I didn't think so much. In front of me, some people asked if they wanted to buy them, but I didn't stand up and said that I wanted to be the head of the group. I am used to taking responsibility. In this high school, I have worked in the Student Union for three years, and I have been a vice chairman. The chairman of the chairman (four years in the international high school). We often organize large and small activities. If we do n’t do well, we will be my responsibility directly. I have not considered a lot of consideration, or I subconsciously believe that this is not a problem.

Later, everyone knew that my age was because of one time that neighbors came to my house to change something. Maybe it was a garlic to change the onion. She asked me if I could come now. I said no, I would go to class for a while. She said you are a teacher, I said I am not, I am a student. She asked again, you read a few more than a year, I said I was in my second year of high school. The neighbors were surprised, and said in the group, everyone knew it.

By the end of April, many purchase channels were opened, and I only needed some icing on the cake, such as hot pot, seafood or something. I just thought about shooting a video, put it on the Internet, and record this experience.

When shooting this video, I want to tell everyone that high school students are not a machine, not to do the questions every day, and high school students can also do good things. It can help everyone solve difficulties. We are also a group of energy and enthusiastic groups. people. It's not just me, and many of my peers around me are the same. Maybe they did not be the head of the regiment, but they also had such a heart.

Screenshot of the video shot by Cai Yanxiao

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To be the head of the group, it is also like a social practice course for me. For the first time, I realized what society looked like.

The first is that the appearance of people is very different, not neatly. You don't need some things, but it is a necessity for others. I have two seafood twice. There is a reason that some people have special religious beliefs and do not eat meat. He told me that his two weeks rely on adult milk powder to supplement protein, and the milk powder is not much. It is very dangerous. There is no protein. There is no protein. , Human immunity will decrease. There are also people allergic to meat. Some people have a baby at home and need seafood. There are also people in the family who are northerners and are accustomed to eating pasta. This requires another group.

We also have some fine things, such as baby diaper, cola and protective clothing. There are two households in the community. The children in the family have been wearing contact lenses. The glasses must be soaked in care liquid every day. They should be washed, protecting, and moisturizing, otherwise they will be scrapped. The child will wear it on the Internet. At that time, this was not easy to get. When I bought seafood, I asked Ningbo's suppliers to run legs and bought it in Ningbo's pharmacies, and took it with seafood.

There are some things that are unexpected -the housing price I rent in this community is not cheap. It is a high -end community and is still next to the national 4A -level scenic spot. I used to think that the elderly who lived here may have two houses at home. The children should be filial and the consumption level should be good. But I found that there was an old man who would desperately bargain every time he purchased. She would say: Oh, Xiao Cai, this milk is a bit expensive, can it be preferential. How can group buying be discounted, everyone's price is the same.

Later, I learned that although my aunt lived in a high -end community, she was not a rich man. She was almost 70 years old. She was a local demolition household and took the house bought here. However, her son failed to start a business, owed debt, and was trapped in Pudong. The aunt's retirement salary was 3,000 yuan per month, and half had to help her son. Her life was hard. At that time, she had 1.5 liters of milk and 30 yuan. Of course, she had to bargain. Later, I understood it.

The work of the head of the regiment is too different from me to be a student union in school before. In school, students actually respond quickly, and everyone will use electronic products, and our educational background, family situation, and thoughts are very similar, and it will be easier to deal with. In an ideal campus, everyone has read Plato and feels that the truth is getting clearer.

But in the community group, some situations must understand that it may be more laborious. For example, at the beginning, the group purchase applets need to charge a 1%handling fee. I thought about it or decided not to charge -how much it costs for the light explanation. For example, our group is a hot pot, the price is 138 yuan, the handling fee is charged, and it becomes 141. Everyone may ask at a glance, how do you collect 141, do you make money, even this small money must be earned. Today, this aunt asked, another aunt tomorrow, I don't think I should test humanity anymore. In the end, I paid more than 2,000 yuan in handling fees during the group purchase process for two months. I spent this money and bought such a good social practice lesson.

Throughout the process, one of the most impressive things should be that when the seafood, I encountered a strong opposition or even threatened. In fact, I did n’t buy cold chain seafood. It was the so -called “hot air seafood”. I bought it from the Ningbo vegetable market in the morning and was delivered to Shanghai in the afternoon. But the resident felt that the risk was particularly high. He said that you were doing bad things. If there was a virus in seafood, someone would be infected by then, would you bear this responsibility? He also asked me if I made money and how much money he made. In order to make a small profit, the safety of the residents of the whole community had been put on. When I saw the news he sent, I didn't have much time to be sad or angry. Because I want to go to school, I am also very busy, and I don't have time to argue. Later, I also knew that he was working at the airport and his income was affected. He might be more anxious. At the same time, from his professional perspective, he also believed that seafood was more dangerous. Combined with this situation, I understand that I won't say anything, and I will be misunderstood by misunderstanding.

Cai Yanxiao is coordinating group shopping capital

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After my video was posted, there were some media reports that everyone would care about how my parents educated me, and they would be surprised to the 17 -year -old high school student head. Some people say that I am studying in international schools and the family is very rich, but things may be different from everyone.

I have done MBTI personality test. I measured the results that my self -worth realizing came from helping others. I feel that (the head of the group) is a very natural thing, as well as in school. At first, I was willing to do things. Later, I became chairman of the Student Union and took everyone to do things together. Sort out the process of doing things, how to do it, how to do it in the middle, and how to feedback in the future. This set is actually very mature. So when I initiated a group purchase, I don't feel scared or how difficult it is.

My family does not belong to a typical middle -class family. My parents did not go to college. After graduating from high school, my dad read night school. Later, he worked in state -owned enterprises. My mother was from rural Anhui. My mother gave birth to me at the age of 24 and started a business at the age of 30. She is now a successful career, but most of my growth, my family is not a middle class and a working class.

My parents' educational philosophy is also constantly exploring. At the beginning, their expectations were not high, and they did not recognize this kind of thing in good grades and full scores, but they still fell very much. I played games and used mobile phones very early. I started playing games when I went to kindergarten. Go home and start playing, play until dinner, watch TV after eating, continue to play with TV, play until you sleep. This is the case every day. I have played Purcell, Moore Manor, and later IPAD, playing various fighting and shooting games. My dad also likes to play and will play with me.

But in junior high school, I won't play. On the one hand, it is really tired of playing. If you play alone, you have no social attributes, you will be tired, you will feel very empty. It's better to do exercise. On the other hand, I can't play the game and play my dad. I play strategic games. He will think, calculate, and write. This is too exaggerated. I still think that playing games so far is very abnormal. And he could hang up when he was at work, but I couldn't hang up, so I couldn't play him, and I felt frustrated.

After entering the junior high school, my grades in the class at the beginning were the middle reaches, especially the countdown of the Mathematics Society. It was particularly painful and hit people a lot. I don't know what other classmates are, but I have been a bad student, and I know that there is no dignity in poor students. My junior high school actually emphasizes humanistic care. It is not the only theory of scores, so graduate students are also grateful to it. But the reality is -bad grade is no dignity. Students look down on you. Good students do n’t play with you, class cadres do n’t let you be, do n’t take you in various activities, you do more to work. I told my parents that I couldn't stand it anymore. I couldn't live anymore. I wanted to improve my grades. My parents found me a tuition class.

It's good to find a tuition class. I took six lessons a weekend. Each science was two hours. I felt that the class was particularly happy and cool. One was that the teacher taught it well. After making up the class, the grades went up, especially the English became particularly good. Starting to ask me to ask questions, others felt differently, and I preferred to make up lessons. It may be different from other classmates. They are parents who are worried about their children to be unable to keep up or want them to be among the best.

So in this process, a good positive cycle was formed -I brushed the questions crazy, and the knowledge reserves have also been up. Following this inertia, my grades have been getting better, and I have been very advanced in the back. I also took the second grade.

But when junior high school was about to graduate, I still felt that I found that the classmates around me are very lively people and have their own characteristics. In particular, some people will do very beautiful handicrafts, and some people will write novels. But as soon as the exam arrives, everyone has become a score. If you test 98 today, I have taken 92, then I am the loser. The high -scoring classmates are God. The low -scoring students are scum.

In such a system, I can be a beneficiary. At that time, in our district unified exam, I could already score in the top 100. But I don't seem to want to become like this, will I have a more vivid opportunity? I have heard of international schools at the time, and their philosophy may be more open, so I want to visit the school.

When I told my parents for the first time, they were a bit opposed. They had not learned about international education before. My mother was busy doing business, and they felt that I was OK in the public education system. My grades You can also go to a good school and take the college entrance examination. So I can only search myself to understand what is going on in this industry and what pits. I went to TOEFL first and tested 109 points. This score should enter most international schools. I also basically saw good international schools, and I found that these schools seemed to become what I saw in a public school -good students were carved in a mold, and the language scores were very good. The GPA is very high. Students who want to learn the economy have participated in the same competition and won the awards that are rare. Even the accents of everyone saying English are particularly similar. Students who apply for the British direction, they love to play with English, apply for the United States Classmates, love to play with American accent. Isn't this formulating education?

Later, I discovered our school. It was a very new school. It was not famous. When I entered school, it was established for two years. However, the founding principal of this school is the former principal of the International Department of Shanghai Middle School. The International Department of Shanghai Middle School is the earliest group of international schools in the country. At that time, when I visited the school, our vice president said that we have nothing special. The special place is that we support you, give students resources, and give students opportunities. Don't you like debate? We have no debate agency, but we can open it for you, and we can also provide financial support to provide you with a teacher. If you want to go out for the game, you will match you a bus.

I thought, wow! This school is very supportive for students, the environment is also particularly good, and the teacher is also amiable. The overall feeling given to me is: "We are a fertile and unopened soil here. If you plant it, you can grow up."

Cai Yanxiao

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In the past three years, I did grow wildly. If this school goes to the school, there is no such open and inclusive environment, I may not look like now.

Speaking of a specialty I think I feel the most interesting, I will write Sanskrit. This is the language of ancient India and the originator of the entire Indo -European language. Now there may be about 500 people in the world. Fifty thousand people participated in reading and writing and learning, and even many foreign language universities could not issue such courses. It is a professor of linguistics in our school who teaches me Sanskrit. He has a doctorate degree in Cornell University and will have more than 30 languages ​​and give us a small lesson. I later liked bird watching, and he took me to get started.

For some time, I am very interested in golf. If I do n’t work, I will be a athlete. The school invited us a golf coach. At 4:30 in the morning, we did n’t get up to train. Later, I found that my talent was limited, and I was sleepy every day, so I gave up. But how valuable this experience is, let me know so deeply about this field, and give me a chance to try and error -the so -called hobbies can become a profession. I only know that this is true after trying.

In addition, it is great that we are really the masters of the school, and we have established an ideal world here.

After we entered school, before the formal class, there were two weeks of preview lessons. At that time, the information conveyed by the principal was clear: our goal was to run a respectable school with small and fine (no more than 300 students in the school). This is not a matter of the school's leadership, but everyone together. We are a community. We are all glorious and linked. The spirit of this entrepreneur is easy to move the bloody youth.

I joined the Student Union when I entered school. In fact, it was a small organization, about twenty people. Then I found that some students would have opinions on some things, such as the cafeteria rice is not delicious and the queue time is long, but they may not find a solution. At that time, I thought, we simply opened a forum, opened up, and let everyone speak.

At that time, my school leader mentioned this idea. They felt OK. We have a rally time every afternoon. Generally, we will organize some academic events, or sing contests, recite contests, etc. The school has left us a schedule Let us get a forum, and we have a name called "Beichen Forum". There are ten places for each forum, and each person has five minutes, and all students can come to the stage to express.

Our settings at the time were that everyone not only gave opinions, but also proposed a complete solution. For example, everyone's criticism of the cafeteria queues, we have taken advantage of economic classes, you can use the principles of economics to develop a better system; or you have learned a programming class, compiled a program yourself, and make a solution. As you open and promote it, everyone really brought the solution out. Later, the school introduced a new card system, and it also implemented a time -sharing dining system. The meal time was indeed reduced. This is a practical change.

For another example, some students have opinions on the gym, they will model them 3D, re -layout the gym, change the floor, add floor mats and flat mirrors, the school spent money, and everyone donated the equipment themselves. How good can I do this. Although it is a high school student, it has adapted to how the enterprise does project, how there is a plan first, and then there is a solution process, and then there are feedback.

There is also a very distinctive thing, which is also proposed on the "Beichen Forum", which is the ringtone of our school.

The ringtones of the normal school are "Ding Bell" or "Ding Dang Ding Ding", which is very formulating. But our school is not, but the students are determined by themselves. Now our preparatory bell is "Beethoven's Sixth Symphony First Move". This section is very soothing, which is suitable as a preparation bell. Class bells are Schubert's "Music Instant". The bells ending are created by us who have a piano and talented classmate. The ringtone of the late self -study is another set. The ringing bell is one minute and one minute after class. The classmates and teachers are created together. This is good. If we are tired, we can change it, there is a process -we will organize an investigation every semester. If more than half of the students are tired, then we will change it. Senate some options first and then vote. If more than two -thirds of students are very satisfied with a ringtone and believe that we can replace the existing ringtones, then we choose it.

Later, the school began to support students to start the course by themselves. Before, we had an analog of elective courses in the United Nations, but the teachers who taught this course left China for personal reasons, and the faculty was vacant. I happened to be the captain of the Modeling team. The academic skills were OK. The school allowed me Lessons, once a week, 80 minutes long, we have more than 120 students in total, and 23 have chosen my lesson.

After I started the class, I also inspired other classmates. Some classmates are fitness experts. They have won a lot of awards, and classmates will do game development and design their own games. As long as you prove to the school that you can really teach and submit your courseware, you can start. So now teachers and students are rushing to start classes.

According to my three years of observation, my classmates, many of them are low, and the grades may not be particularly good when they come in, or they have been lost by the problem of institutional education, but they have come in. In the year, it has been studied in some areas, or there are many good qualities, such as willingness to dedicate, innovative spirit, and changing from the machine to the person. There are many such growth.

Cai Yanxiao participated in the "Beichen Forum"

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But the reality that cannot be escaped is that we live in an evaluation system. Many people say that the current students are "hollow people", which does exist.

Most of my classmates around me were wrapped forward by parents. In international schools, you will easily discover this conclusion -for the middle (high) output class, education is an important way to transfer wealth to the next generation. This group of children can be able to match their wealth. It is necessary to give parents long face, so parents will spare no effort, regardless of cost, crazy investment in education.

Sometimes, they even disregard the objective laws of education. If they do not accompany their children, they will send the child to the tuition class. I think you should have a good grade like this? The teacher I invited you is 1,000 yuan an hour! If your grades are so bad, it is your problem, it has nothing to do with me. But education is not an investment. It is a long -term process, and people are not just scores.

And even in the international education circle, many parents will still take students as test machines. For example, if you go to the United States to study in the United States, you have to take TOEFL. Many students have studied for more than two years for this exam. They may increase from 50 and 70 points to more than 90 points. 100 points, and a whole summer vacation class, has been vomiting. But parents always say that we spend so much money, why can't you get out. Many international students will also be frustrated because of this incident and feel that they fail.

You will see all kinds of contradictions and pains. Like my roommate, in fact, he is very smart, the mathematical talent is also very good, and the exams often have full scores, but I know with him. He knows that he hates learning. Making homework every day is particularly fast, and homework is also used in class. He will also find various fast learning cheats on the Internet. Why, because he didn't want to learn at all, he wanted to finish this thing quickly, and the score was taken out, so he didn't need to learn.

He played the game very well, and his real dream was to be an e -sports player. He played "League of Legends" and once could be ranked in the top ten in the national server. The youth training team who wanted to go to e -sports, but the family could not let him go, so that he had to go to study, so he became a contradictory person- —The first grade, but hate learning, is this ridiculous?

My parents may not belong to such a parent. My mother just thinks that I am happy. When I was a kid, she was starting a business. I didn't have time to accompany me. people. And my dad is the kind of Chinese -style father. We do n’t communicate very much. Therefore, my personality shaping is basically determined by myself. I want to resist the standardized elite education. I don't want to be the kind of child with a very bright resume, hardcover, formulating, and consciously resist the state of resistance.

There are various formulas in international schools. American universities are applying for system, high school GPA is part of it, and the standardized scores (the scores of standardized examinations such as TOEFL, SAT) are part of it, and there are various activities. "Activity" is the most intriguing. How can we measure that a child is excellent, and everyone starts to stack their resumes. But who can stand up to the resume, the conclusion is obvious.

There are many ways to resume now. For example, to highlight a person's leadership, parents may take their children to teach in remote mountainous areas, but in fact they live in the county hotel. In the morning, they go to the mountains in the mountains, teach a few lessons, play with the children, take some films, in the afternoon, in the afternoon, in the afternoon, in the afternoon Back to the hotel at five o'clock, it ended in two or three days. Or go to the project to save the African elephant and raise more than 100,000. In fact, it may be that parents have donated 50,000. Or to participate in all kinds of so -called leadership summits, everyone won the awards, and the names are loud than one. These are very hypocritical and very expensive. Our family is doing business, and I don't want to do this. In my opinion, I can still do some down -to -earth work. I have been the chairman of the Student Union for two years. It is not because this name is particularly beautiful. The chairman of the Student Union has gone, but through the student union, it can really affect everyone’s life, such as building Beichen Forum. Long, I want to be a down -to -earth pragmatism.

The source of this idea may be gradually realized that I have privileges, and my achievements and money today are inseparable.

For a simple example, I wrapped a car from Shanghai to Hangzhou today, and the toll and accommodation fee were close to 5,000 yuan (interview in late May). I just came out to apply for a visa. Many people pay a month, how can normal families have this condition.

Earlier, it should be when I was in junior high school. I was reminded by me at that time. At that time, Shanghai began to reduce the burden on primary and secondary school students, and my supplementary class teacher was very excited and angry. He said that he resolutely opposed it. Of course, this was a family say. He said that the school has reduced the burden. Give the job. But what do those students who do not have money to make up lessons at home? There are less teachings in the school, less assignments are arranged, and the gap between them and you are getting bigger and bigger.

I found out that it was really that in my junior high school at that time, there were classmates who could not supplement the class in the class. In all fairness, they may not be at the bottom of everyone, but they must not be tipped. Those classmates who have tipped their classes can almost make up lessons. This is a very realistic issue.

Later, I was thinking that the so -called famous school was actually a self -protection or self -empowerment mechanism. Some sociologists say that the famous school itself is a system of protecting themselves to protect themselves. Through the concept of "famous schools", people who cannot be examined feel that they can't do it. And those who are admitted are more likely, smart, and hard. But in fact, everyone is working hard, but you have the money to go to a tuition class. You have more practiced. You have this opportunity. Others do not.

Just like in our various social discussions, we will degrade the town as a questioner, and students who will only brush the questions are as if those who have developed comprehensive development are examples. But in fact, we should pay more attention to the town as a questioner, and we should pay attention to those who are trapped in the sea every day. They don't have all kinds of opportunities like me, all kinds of support, and they can learn whatever they want. The final results are not bad, and they are also reported by the media. 99.99%have no such conditions. Their parents may not have such a cognition, nor did he not want to have it.

Some time ago, I also saw a news. A rural single -parent father. His 11 -year -old daughter didn't want to study anymore. He was angry and felt that he worked hard for a lifetime, not just to provide you in the city. The way he educated her daughter was to let her go to the pond in the pond under the big sun and dig for four hours. The girl has heat stroke. Of course, such education methods are not good. It should be communicated and should not be suppressed. However, this father is a farmer, and his life is very hard. He can't talk about any educational philosophy. This is a cruel thing. Such things happen every day.

Therefore, I feel more and more that the success of a person, or the success of social, is indeed related to his own efforts, but it is getting more and more irrelevant. In my opinion, this is very deformity.

This is why, I want to go to the education industry after graduating from college. I feel that I am still very strong, and I like to help others. More importantly, I am a person who has been in bad students. It is not the kind of person who is excellent and very glorious all the way. I know the taste of poor students.

Cai Yanxiao is watching birds

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