16 years of persistence!This dad believes "every life is worth looking forward to"

Suppose you are trapped in a small house. There are 20 radios in the room playing 20 different channels at the same time, noise and harsh. However, you can't turn off them, you can't lower the volume, you can escape without doors and windows, and no one will save you.

what would you do?

This is not a dense room escape game, not a fantasy novel or movie plot, but a daily life facing lonely people every day.

According to information released by the Chinese mental disabilities and relatives and friends associations, the number of autism in my country is about 14 million, of which about 2.349 million are children. Although people with autism are similar to others at the physiological level, they are actually different in many aspects. They are more like travelers from the distant past. And the family behind them, for the efforts of this group of "travelers", far exceeds our imagination ...

The famous psychologist Geldi said: "The appearance of father is a unique existence, and has a special force for cultivating children." Whether it is an ordinary child or a special need for children, the role of the father is irreplaceable.

Father who is selected by the child specially needs the child

In 2004, the arrival of Wenwen brought this family unprecedented satisfaction

In 2004, Ouyang Dongqing ushered in his second child Wenwen. Looking at this new life, he felt unprecedented satisfaction. He also looks forward to growing up happily as his parents.

Due to the work, in 2006, Ouyang Dongqing and his wife brought their son to Shanghai. Ouyang Dongqing's work needs to often travel around and cannot accompany young children.

One day, the mother who helped the child told Ouyang Dongqing, will the child have hearing impairment? How to call him no response. Ouyang Dongqing immediately consulted the doctor and classmates around him. After listening to the child's symptoms, the classmates initially gave a judgment of suspected autism. Ouyang Dongqing is also a medical professional. He did not have the fluke of the elderly at home. He immediately took Wenwen to run many local children's hospitals in Shanghai. Finally, the diagnosis of Wenwen was an obstacle to a lonely syndrome.

Lonely little stars

Autism is not a disease, but a disorder -just like someone has visual obstacles, some people have hearing disorders, and people with autism are deeply trapped in communication disorders. Orponia is currently no drug treatment and accompanied by a lifetime. They seemed to be a crowd outside of normal time, unable to express themselves, was wrapped in torrents, and lived in bumps.

"No matter what difficulty encounter,

You can find a way to solve it "

Dad decided to spend more time with the child

The first two years after the Wenwen was diagnosed with autism, Ouyang Dongqing felt the darkest time. However, when the child said the first sentence under the "persecution" of his father, he decided to spend more time with the child.

Ordinary children are easier to say the first sentence, but the first sentence of autistic children requires multiple training. Ouyang Dongqing has some tips. For example, when Wenwen wants to let his parents carry it, he will squat on the ground and inspire the child to speak his thoughts in words.

Wenwen is interested in music and sports. Ouyang Dongqing and his wife brought their children to learn folk music for healing. Even if you are on a business trip, Ouyang Dongqing will maintain a daily connection, and persistently do games and guidance with Wenwen in the video to maintain the closeness and trust of each other.

Ouyang Dongqing said: Families that need children in particular, there is not much time to enjoy the warmth of the family, and need to be prepared to solve the problem at all times.

For example, in order to allow Wenwen to travel alone, they need to explain their son's "weird" behavior countless times outside, and apologize for this; for example, in the years of literary bicycles, they lost many times. Finally He; because of sensitive tactile sensation, Wenwen was afraid of barber shops since he was a child, and he was regarded as "Devil's House". After three or four years of gradual desensitization, he could go to the haircut normally.

The journey to grow up with autistic children is full of hardships, but these are not worth the patience of the Ouyang Dongqing couple in education. All difficulties have not allowed them to give up their children.

In the process, he also realized what role should be as a parent, especially his father.

A good family atmosphere is important to grow up for special children

In 2014, Ouyang Dongqing returned to Shanghai again. When he learned more about autistic families, he organized the establishment of the Shanghai Minhang District Autistic Volunteer Association. As the chairman of the institution, even if he believes that it is difficult to change some families with his personal ability, but he still organizes everyone to communicate with useful knowledge or experience and provide you with opportunities for consultation. The association is very concerned about the internal problems of the family and will do its best to solve the family problem.

In 2016, Ouyang Dongqing specially held a lecture on what duties should assume their duties in special needs. Ouyang Dongqing believes that when Dad works abroad, mothers look at their children at home. In fact, they are not the best ways. Dad should be a child who believes in children. You should use a certain skill and method to communicate more with your children. At the same time, let the children practice more.

"The benign spiral rising is very effective: your expectations of your child have improved, your ability to deal with the dilemma is also strengthened, and your child will notice and grow." Ouyang Dongqing said that the company's companionship is In the following, Wenwen can already ride a bike and take the subway by himself, and will also actively help the association to do some basic work. Although the speed of learning is not fast, it is gradually improving and improving every day. Ouyang Dongqing has always believed that his father should participate in more in the family. In 2019, he resigned as a work and organized the work of the association to accompany his son and organization.

"Help everyone, also help yourself"

Wenwen and Dad experience the festive atmosphere together

In early 2020, Ouyang Dongqing returned to his hometown in Hubei for the New Year with Wenwen. He just caught up with the epidemic and sealed city. The sudden epidemic allowed Ouyang Dongqing to accompany the children with his wife and grandparents. The common companionship allowed Wenwen to spend this period steadily. With this experience, during the later 2022 Shanghai epidemic, Wenwen would even actively go out to wear masks than parents, and follow the rules of epidemic prevention.

Prior to the closed management of the Shanghai community, Ouyang Dongqing remotely led the association's mental disabilities to prepare materials in advance, so everyone did not face too serious material shortages. Later, Ouyang Dongqing also actively contacted social resources to send support supplies.

During the epidemic, because they could not go to institutions and schools to conduct intervention training normally, many children have the phenomenon of backbone ability, and long -term closed at home allows children and parents to bear great psychological pressure.

In order to make good use of the opportunities of home isolation and promote the relationship between children and parents, Ouyang Dongqing, who has experienced the isolation of Hubei epidemic in 2020, also organized the association family to hold different activities online every week. For example, do sachets at home and family help kitchen activities. At the same time, Ouyang Dongqing will also track the situation of each family in the group and solve the difficulties of some families. For example, some children have always been in the grandparents' house. They are not adapted to their parents in the early stage of isolation. Actively and coordinate with the community to allow children to return to the familiar environment.

In the face of the epidemic, many parents are very anxious and worried that their children go to the cabin or do nucleic acids. Ouyang Dongqing has made a parent sharing meeting to let teachers who have been to the cabin share the actual situation with you, let parents and children Make adequate preparations in advance to effectively alleviate parents' anxiety.

At a difficult time, the connection between the families of the mental disorders is closer. They share, ask for help, and mutual assistance. Although they cannot meet, they are more proactively out of their own small world and associate with the entire society that cares about them.

"The difference between people,

It is also part of the wonderful world "

Wenwen participated in the painting work of Xinglefang Public Welfare Base

Now, Ouyang Dongqing can calmly solve all the difficulties in the home. Ouyang Dongqing said that my child is not only my child, but also a person, an independent person, he needs to have room to improve and improve.

He thanked Wenwen for being different, letting him see the richer color and joy of life. It is Wenwen that he knows that the difference between people is also part of the wonderful world, and all life forms are worth cherishing and looking forward to.

"In any case, don't give up every child, every child is worth looking forward to."

This may be what Ouyang Dongqing wants to say to the parents of all mental obstacles, and he wants to say to the entire world.

After the release of Ocean Paradise Movies in 2011, the One Fund launched the Marine Paradise Plan to pay attention to and serve autism, cerebral palsy, and rare disease groups. As of the end of 2021, the "One Fund Ocean Paradise Plan" joined hands with 8 provinces (autonomous regions and municipalities) of 262 cities across the country, a total of 605 social organizations in 8 mobile networks, helping more than 468,000 people specially needed children and youths, and 670,000 family care. Dilemma.

Ouyang Dongqing is one of the dads of many lonely children. With the [One Fund Marine Paradise Plan], the power of dads will continue to glow and heat, covering more regions, affecting more dads, and making mothers who are autistic families have strong Relying on more orphan families can see hope. One fund is based on the vision of "doing our best and everyone's public welfare", focusing on the three major areas of disaster relief, care and development of children, public welfare support and innovation. It is a 5A -level social organization. Thanks to the family for their support and welcome the supervision of the family.

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