Fruit Old Charity Theory Twenty -ninth: The essence of the elderly is respect for the elderly

Text/Guo Lao

The Chinese nation has a traditional virtue of filial piety, helping the elderly, and respect for the elderly. Exploring the connotation of the Chinese nation and the formation of the Chinese nation and its formation, it has certain theory and practical significance for promoting the traditional virtues of the nation and building a family and society. The issues I focus on here are the formation and flow of the concepts of filial piety, helping the elderly, and respect for the elderly.

Filial piety, helping the elderly, and respect for the elderly are the moral requirements for supporting, assisting and respecting their parents, grandparents and other elders and elders in society. When did the Chinese filial piety, help the elderly, and respect the elderly start? Mr. Luo Guojie, a well -known ethicist, believes: "To support parents, respect for the elderly, and to be honest and credit for friends. It is also the rules of living between people since slave society." And archeologists' support. In ancient China, the patriarchal system centered on the relationship between blood relationship was that its core content was the inheritance system of the eldest son. He asked his son to absolutely obey, respect and support his father, that is, the so -called "filial piety". In the Zhou Dynasty, the concept of filial piety developed again and became one of the criteria for selecting talents. Zhou people regarded the filial piety as the first evil, and they had to strictly sanction and even punished.

The concept of "filial piety" has been developed in Confucius. "The Analects of Confucius · Learning" wrote: "It is also a person, a filial piety." "Filial piety" refers to the parents of good deeds and filial piety to their parents and ancestors. Zhu Xi wrote this sentence: "Parents of good deeds are filial piety." That is, he is kind and properly honored his parents, which is the so -called "filial piety." It can be seen that during its formation, Confucianism attached great importance to filial piety and regarded filial piety as the foundation of benevolence. For example, Confucius' disciples said: "It is also a person, a filial piety, and a good criminal, the freshman; the not good of the crime, and the good people, no one. It is the foundation of benevolence! "(" The Analects of Confucius · Xue ") In the eyes of the son, people who can be filial piety have few of them, and there are no people who are chaotic.

Filial piety is the morality of children's love for parents. For this morality, Confucius said: "Parents have a few people, seeing unsatisfactory aspirations, not contrary to work, and not complaining." For parents' faults, they can persuade them slightly; if parents insist on their own opinions, they can't hear them at all, then those who are children should still respect them respectful, not offending, without complaints. However, the content of this kind of "filial piety" is not like the feudal etiquette of "the father let the son die if the father let the son die, and the son is not filial".

When children are young, their lives will not take care of themselves, and they will be taken care of and nurtured their parents. Parents are dead, and their children are very sad. Within three years, they will be "unwilling to eat, unhappy, and restlessness." In ancient times, the etiquette of the three years of mourning for parents reflected the children's nostalgia, love and gratitude to their parents. This is from the heart, consciousness and voluntary, not violated, forced, not hypocritical, insignificant.

"The Analects of Confucius · Yang" records a debate of "three years of funeral". Confucius' disciples were slaughtered. I think that the three -year funeral is too long, and the funeral one year is enough. Confucius was very angry when he heard this. He said that when people were young, they could leave their parents' arms in three years. After the death of parents, it was essential for three years of funeral. The claim to slaughter me was unkind and filial. From this debate, Confucius explained the "filial piety" in theory, that is, the basic point of filial piety. Zhongjun is not absolute. In the traditional concept, there is a saying that "the good minister chooses to the Lord"; but the parents are absolute. Therefore, Confucianism regards filial piety as the foundation of various morals. Confucius even believes that if the rulers can rule the country with filial piety, the people will be loyal to him, the so -called "filial piety, loyalty." road. Yao and Shun Xiaoyu said that it may be the ideal character in the minds of Confucius in order to advocate filial piety. It is a model of filial piety, that is, for the need for reality, the ancient sage fans are decorated as filial piety. However, this can still be found in ancient literature.

Later, Confucian scholars inherited the morality of the "filial piety" of Kong and Meng, and elaborated to compile them into "Filial Scriptures". The book reads: "Filial filial piety, the foundation of virtue, and the reason for teaching." From this, filial piety has evolved into the so -called "filial piety" that was preached in the feudal era. This book is the emperor, the princes, the doctor of the Qing Dynasty, the scholars, and the people at all levels. For example, it stipulates that the filial piety of "scholars" is "loyalty to the king of filial piety, and the manager of respect." The trip of the people also. "Therefore, if people are not filial, they are not reversing. Honoring the elderly is a matter of nature and the rules of the daily behavior of ordinary people. The rulers of the Han Dynasty also formulated the corresponding "filial piety" official system for the promotion of filial piety and morality to find a way out of politics for those filial piety and sons. Officials.

The book "Book of Rites", which was published in the early years of the Han Dynasty, wrote in the "Rites" that the first one in the life specifications of the well -off society is "each relative", which is the basic criterion for being a man. The first important thing is to love their parents, that is, filial piety. After the Han Dynasty, there were endless books that preached feudal filial piety, such as "Filial Children's Biography" and "Twenty -Four Filial Pictures". These books have a considerable impact on the people. In the Ming and Qing dynasties, filial piety evolved into a feudal ritual and religion that "father and child died, and the sons were not filial", which seriously poisoned people's souls and hindered the progress of Chinese society. From the original intention of Confucianism to promote the "filial piety", I am afraid that it cannot be equivalent to the feudal etiquette after the Han Dynasty. Traditional Chinese culture is a farming cultural form. Starting from the parent -parent system, filial piety has become an important link of the social community of the system. There are not only blood relationships and property inheritance relationships between father and son, but also cultural inheritance relationships. This determines that the son must absolutely obey the authority of his father. However, filial piety is a very complicated category of Confucian traditional morality. Among them, there are feudalism such as loyalty and filial piety of his father's authority, as well as social essences such as filial piety and respect for elders. Therefore, any simplified method of "filial piety" is inappropriate.

How do you treat the word "filial piety"? My understanding is that, from a certain perspective, the "filial piety" advocated by the feudal ruler is serving the feudal autocraticism. Not only did it die with the collapse of slavery, but it was even more fierce due to the establishment of the feudal system. After thousands of years, it became more and more prosperous. It was not criticized until modern times, because it met the needs of the ancestral law system and the private property system and became part of the upper -level building of the feudal society. Therefore, the feudal dross contained in filial piety morality should indeed be removed.

We oppose the "filial piety" of feudalism to conform to the trend of the times, but it does not mean that the reasonable part of the "filial piety" morality is also abandoned, let alone the immoral behavior that agrees with the abuse of parents and disrespect the elderly. Not only in the society of the current market economy, even in the future society, respecting and supporting parents should be advocated. This is the social obligation of children and one of the traditional virtues. Any behavior of abandoning the elderly and abuse of parents must be condemned by public opinion and even sanctions from law. Therefore, we must vigorously advocate the moral concepts and behaviors of "filial piety" today, restrict those immoral behaviors, and improve the moral consciousness of people's respect, respecting the elderly, and filial piety.

I often hear my friends say to my elderly parents, "You have my younger, I will raise your old." This remark is not bad. When people and teenagers are young, they cannot be taken care of by their parents or other parents. After children, in the future, if you want to repay the parenting grace of parents, we must live in the old age of the elderly. This is a natural thing. So, what is the core essential of pension? My opinion is: the elderly is respecting the elderly. The rapid development of modern society and economy, the people's living standards have improved to a large extent. It is no problem to eat and wear warmth. It is not a problem for the average person. The elderly have also solved the basic food and clothing problem. Then, the core essence of the elderly has changed from the guarantee of material life to the while continuing to do a good job of material life. Of course, spiritual and cultural life is not to stay in verbal, but to be implemented in action. This specific action can be diverse, such as accompany the elderly to meet the elderly to feel the society and understand the spiritual needs of new knowledge. In other words, this demand is the basic desire of the elderly's attention and participation in social life. Furthermore, the old people want their existence to have certain social value, and can make their own contributions to the society. In the practice of pension work, we must pay attention to avoiding the spiritual and cultural life of the elderly after fully meet the material life needs of the elderly.

In real life, the children of society and the elderly should also respect the remarriage options of the elderly. When people get old, they need to be taken care of in life, and they are considerate emotionally, and the care and care of their children are just one aspect, and they cannot really achieve meticulous care. People often say that young couples come to my wife. Therefore, the remarriage of the elderly is unique.

One of the main characteristics of man is his social. Once leaving the group and living alone, and breaking the relationship with anyone, this is probably difficult to do in reality. The ancients lived in the mountains and forests after being frustrated by the officials, and they were not completely isolated from the world, not to mention that in today's world, people are very closely linked, and you have formed that you can't do without me and I can't do without you. This is from human society. From the perspective of human nature, I don't think anyone likes long -term loneliness. People are eager to satisfy the spiritual world, look forward to exchanging emotional exchanges, and the basic life is also helpful and interconnected.

When people were light, they had to do a lot of things, and their needs for emotions sometimes looked less strong. In the old age, retreat from the job, and some physical strength cannot be done. In addition, the changes in the living environment, family conditions and social status have caused changes in psychological and personality. The demand for emotion has become very strong at this time. Especially the old people who have left their jobs and lost their spouses, the sense of loneliness and loneliness in their hearts is significantly enhanced than before. For these changes in the psychological state of the elderly, they should have a clear understanding of their emotional compensation and warmth. In people's concepts, the words such as love, marriage, love, etc. are often dedicated to young people. Due to the long -term influence of the old feudal concepts, the problem of remarriage of the elderly has not received the attention of society. Some people even think that remarriage of the elderly is unreasonable and believes that the remarried elderly are "unscrupulous". This understanding not only exists among young people, but also has obvious performance among some single elderly people. It seems that there is no morality when the elderly remarry, and there is a problem with the style. Now, our society has already embarked on the road of openness, and the problem of remarriage of the elderly has also been more tolerant than before. Many widowed or divorced elderly people re -found their emotional sustenance and live happily.

From the current point of view, there are still some resistance for the remarriage of the elderly. One comes from the elderly itself, the other is from public opinion, and the third is from children's intervention. How to solve these problems properly? I have the following unbalanced suggestions, for the reference of the elderly before remarried.

Specifically, first of all, the elderly pay enough attention to their remarriage. We often see that after some elderly people are lost or divorced, they have a low mood and depression. They are less connected to the outside world throughout the day. In this regard, I hope that elderly friends should emancipate their minds, adapt to the trend of social development, and fully understand the legality, rationality and necessity of remarriage. They can remarry as much as possible, which is good for the physical and mental health of the elderly. The elderly should not have any thoughtful concerns, the nature of nature talks about yin and yang, and the society is complementary in men and women. Especially some female comrades, too much considering their faces, they are greatly affected by feudal thoughts. They believe that an ambitious woman must be from one end and three virtues. Must be cleared.

Secondly, we must have sufficient preparations to properly handle various problems such as rigidity with children caused by remarriage. Some elderly people are worried about being abandoned by their children after remarriage, but they have lost their affection when they get love. Other elderly people are psychologically afraid of future marriage and worry about the quality of marriage. I hope that elderly friends have let go of these unnecessary ideological burdens, because dusk love has been accepted by our society. Social fashion has agreed with the phenomenon of remarriage of the elderly. Old friends should not imprison themselves in the old concept mode, but should pursue it straightforwardly and vigorously Your own happy life. The remarry of the elderly is protected by law. The happiness of personal marriage is strived for themselves, not a gift. At the same time, it is necessary to deal with the relationship between remarriage and children of both sides, and to communicate with each other as much as possible to prevent the occurrence of love and loss of affection.

Third, the elderly should be given more encouragement and support to the elderly. We can see that there are many entertainment venues such as ballrooms, karaoke halls, etc., but most venues are suitable for young and middle -aged friends, such as the song and dance, which can mobilize the emotions of young friends. However, these occasions are not completely suitable for elderly friends. Except for the old friends during the morning exercise, there are no more contact opportunities between the elderly.我建议工会、妇联、街道办事处和社区等，能够进一步重视老年人再婚问题，尽可能多地为老年朋友提供一些相互交往的场合与机会，有计划地举办老年人婚姻介绍活动，为他们寻找Suitable of creative conditions.

It is often said that there is an old family, such as a treasure. The old man is our wealth. Their hard work of their lives, and their careful cultivation of the next generation has created us today and achieved our lives and achievements today. To treat them, what we have to do is gratitude, respect, and companionship. Hundreds of filial piety first, filial piety is the foundation of virtue. Whenever and where, we must keep in mind the gratitude to our parents, and use gratitude to give back to their peaceful old age with gratitude. It is: the most true love in the world, the tears of tears integrated into the children; We must inherit traditional charity thoughts, and we must earnestly be the old and old, young and young.

The road is like the cloud flowing water like nectar and wind

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