The child went to the grandmother's house for a summer vacation, but was "rushed" by the elderly: Don't come again next time

After the child took the test, Liang Liang's mother took Dabao and Erbao to go to the country's grandmother's house to "experience life".

To experience life, it is actually to let go of yourself and play quickly.

Grandpa and grandmother haven't seen the little grandson for a long time, and they are naturally happy after returning.

It's delicious, delicious, everything is like a guest.

Go to Grandma's House

But a few days later, the grandfather and grandmother couldn't hold it.

why?

The child is too noisy, the whole grandson is a big deal: the palace:

On the bed in the bedroom, the two children jumped, covered their heads with sheets, played and played;

The clothes in the cabinet, the shoes of the shoe cabinet, and the daily necessities were turned out.

Seeing that the good home was made like this, my grandmother was unhappy. Although I was panicked, I couldn't easily think of the child's trip, so I endured it. After all, someone came and the family was lively.

This occasionally noisy, but the child is naughty and active, so every day, this is not so crying and laughing. In the end, he had to go to a guest order and "catch up" all the grandson.

The old people are generally not very direct. Swing the back of the hand, saying that the child is teasing the child, the child's mother can't stand it anymore, so he has to take the child home.

The child left, leaving the messy ground.

This child is not wrong to play, but it is too crazy to play, so that the room is dirty and messy. Before walking, you have to help the grandfather and grandmother clean up the garbage and organize it in place.

Think about my grandfather's grandmother's home for a holiday when I was a kid. "That's really a faceless thing.

Therefore, to avoid children going to other people's vacations, they will be "followed by guests". As parents, they must cultivate their good behaviors. You send your child back to the elderly, and the old man has to control your child. This is really not the past.

But when it comes to cultivating children's good habits, most parents do not pay much attention. They feel that as long as children learn well, they can be developed naturally in the future.

But this is not the case.

American psychologist William James said: Broadcasting a action will harvest a habit; a habit of broadcasting will harvest a personality.

Bacon also said that it is a tenacious power that can dominate the life.

These words have all been used to the role of habit in life, it is like a shadow.

For children, cultivating its good habits has three important functions:

(1) Help children build self -confidence

Rome is not cultivated in a day, nor is it developed in a day. A good habit takes at least 21 days to develop.

For example, now on holidays, many children start to sleep lazily. It will not start until nine or ten o'clock every day. It will get up late in the morning and sleep late at night. sleep.

Looking at those school tyrants, most of them get up early and go to bed early. Life is particularly regular. Learning and methods, their own goals, the more they learn, the more stronger, and more confident.

(2) Have a strong sense of responsibility

I want children to be polite to their families and others. In addition to basic etiquette and etiquette training, the most important thing is to let him participate in housework.

Some parents think that children are still small now, and housework is not important.

In fact, the more you do n’t do it, the less you do n’t want to do. Look at the young people now, most of them do n’t cook, and the housework that can do will not do it.

If you don't let your child do housework, how can he understand that he is a member of this home?

Those children who can work since childhood have a strong sense of family responsibility. They feel that they are obliged to help the family share some things. Such children will grow up with their independence.

(3) Strong self -control ability

Every child is an independent individual. They have their own ideas and their own emotions, but they should tell them to control their emotions, learn to adjust themselves, and do n’t think about what to do.

For example, some children start to be irritable as soon as they encounter difficulties, cry and make trouble, go temper at others, and so on.

Is this meaningful?

In addition to adding troubles to others, it is not conducive to the solution of the problem.

Rather than deal with some relaxed things first, calm your heart, and then look back to solve the problem. Perhaps the situation will be different.

Of course, in order to modify the child's behavior habits, it is impossible to solve the problem by lecture, scolding, and punishment alone.

I personally don't like the above methods. In addition to showing your parents' authority, children's behavior will not change.

A friend of a kindergarten, a long -term study of children's psychology, said that if you want to correct your child's behavior, it is not only "correction", but more importantly, it is necessary to establish a child's rational behavior standard.

She recommends me a set of "Children's Behavior Habits Cultivation Picture Book", saying that this is recommended by Mr. Lin Liang, a Taiwanese children's literature writer, all of which are picture stories. They are vivid and interesting. All the truths are in the story scene.

I tell my children a picture book story every day. For example, "Little Fox who loves picky eaters" tells the child about the cause and effect of the little fox picky eaters. As a result, he became ill. After entering the hospital, he brought the child into the story, and then asked the child according to what he saw and heard. "If you are a little fox What should I do?

By exchanging opinions with the children, letting children understand the truth and meaning, and the effect is much better than he said that he does not eat or talk about him directly.Each book is equipped with audio, which can be read and listened. Each story is a reflection of different behaviors in children's lives. The inspiration of children is particularly large. For exampleI will leave, now I think of the little monkey in the story, and I wo n’t make trouble for me. I want to buy him, and he can still say some "reason" to educate me.

The habit is developed the day after tomorrow. You want your child to change your own bad habits. You have to be a child's leader and lead by example.

Think about your children have developed a good habit from an early age. They have strong independence and no longer rely on others. People who see people and can adapt to society in the future. Isn't this a good thing?

If you also want to change your child, you can try this picture book, maybe the child's behavior changes in the subtle way.

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