From the welfare home to the university: here is like a home, but it is not exactly like ...

Article Source: Ice Point Weekly (ID: bingdianweekly); author 丨 Li Yajuan

When Luo Fang was in high school, the welfare home arranged for children to travel in Beijing. Interviewee confidence

In college, only few people know Luo Fang's story. She is the kind of student who can't be ignored. She jumped away at the welcoming party and took the girls in the class to play basketball. The brush was won in the first prize of the school's calligraphy competition. The academic performance has always maintained the top five in the class.

This girl is good, loves to laugh, and the bitterness of life is hidden deep in her. When she was in elementary school, her mother died, and her father was unable to raise her children. The three of their siblings were sent to the welfare home. The welfare home helped them complete their studies. My sister graduated from Southwest University this year to teach at a middle school in Guiyang; my brother has just ends the college entrance examination and is waiting for a new journey of life. Luo Fang was admitted to Guizhou Normal University and was determined to become a biological teacher.

Scholars studying the social welfare system are called "security nets". Those children who have encountered bad luck do not need to worry about living expenses and tuition fees here. Children can jump to higher or farther with this "net". In the past 8 years, there are 19 children who have been admitted to undergraduate, college, and dozens of children in the Children's Welfare Institute of Tongren City, Guizhou Province, and dozens of children.

Before entering the welfare home, these children may be abandoned by their parents or their parents died. They have been transferred to relatives, and some have been taken care of by older grandparents and grandparents. The welfare home caught the wandering and unreasonable, where they began to rebound again.

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When Luo Fang went to college, a staff member of the welfare home sent her to school. The staff member, like an ordinary mother who sent the child to college, accompanied Luo Fang to go to college campus, buy daily necessities, and pave the bed -when Luo Fang was 11 years old, the staff member received her from the welfare home.

After arriving at the welfare home, she went to school like other children. When she was in elementary school, there were eight or nine children from the welfare home in the class. At this time, she didn't feel any special. In school, the children of the welfare home are well recognized. They always wear the same clothes and back -like schoolbags -this is purchased by the staff who purchase clothing for convenience.

Recalling the scene at the beginning, Luo Fang said that there was no special feeling. In the impression, 11 -year -old she held her brother and said goodbye to her aunt, and lived here.

Not all children accepted the turn calmly. After graduating from Elementary School, Du Junbao went to Tongren City Children's Welfare Institute and was promoted to junior high school. As soon as the first school started, everyone introduced himself in turn. When it was his turn to take office, he frankly told the new classmates that he lived in the welfare home. From the surprised response, he knew that it was not normal.

Once in class, a naughty boy in the class suddenly pointed at Du Junbao and said, "He is an orphan!" The original lively boy became silent and endured three years of junior high school. Make high school to start again to no one knows.

Huang Yi, a calligraphy and painting teacher at the Children's Welfare Academy, feels that he can particularly appreciate the children's mood. He was from the countryside when he was 6 years old -rural Guizhou 30 years ago, which meant that the only boy in the family turned from the hope of the family to the burden of the whole family. The shadow of disability has been shrouded in his heart for more than ten years, and he became suspicious: "Other people saw me falling and helping me, and I also felt that people see me joking, not to help me."

Because of his bumpy past, Huang Yi could understand why the children were unwilling to mention the welfare home -they closed their hearts, would not easily trust others, and were afraid of being ridiculed.

Huang Yi often said, "Don't feel like he came out of the welfare institute, dare not say. Be brave to face, show the light, others will admire you very much and help you."

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In 2011, Luo Fang came to the Children's Welfare Institute. This welfare home had just built a new building. The staff visited Tongren County and recruited dozens of children. Many children lose their father or mother and live in relatives' house.

From the perspective of adults, sending children to the city for education seems to be a better choice in terms of education quality or economic consideration. That's not all for children. Some children remember that the family left after sending himself, which made him feel abandoned.

In the welfare home, the children maintain a tacit understanding. They do not ask the other party why they come to the welfare home or inquire about the situation of others' homes.

Tongren City Children's Welfare Institute. Interviewee confidence

When Luo Fang came to elementary school near the welfare home, Zhang Tinghui was still in junior high school in township middle schools in his hometown. When he was young, he lost his mother and lived with his father and grandma. Later, his father stroke. This rural family can only rely on grandma to support it.

Zhang Tinghui was in junior high school in towns and towns. The diligent boy has always maintained his first place in the class. He also passed the town's first place in the town during the entrance examination. At the summer vacation of the middle school entrance examination, several people such as village cadres, school teachers, township cadres, and other people told Zhang Tinghui that he could go to Tongren Welfare Institute.

Everyone knows the situation of his family. In people's opinion, this opportunity is quite rare: children who have excellent grades but poor families go to the welfare home, so they don't need to worry about tuition and living expenses in high school. Worry.

There are more than 30 students in Zhang Tinghui in junior high school classes, and only seven or eight students plan to continue to school after graduating from junior high school, or have a high school or a general high school. Zhang Tinghui hesitated to go out to work, but he liked to go to school. The teacher advised him that there was no diploma, and he couldn't do anything when he went out to work. Zhang Tinghui decided to obey the adult's suggestions and go to Tongren. In Tongren No. 3 Middle School, this good student who was used to the first class in the class quickly discovered that his grades could only be at the bottom.

Dean Tong Fuquan said that many children from villages and towns will experience such gaps when they first go to school. However, he also noticed that many children in the welfare home are just poor foundation. When they come to urban schools with better education conditions, they can catch up for a period of time.

Zhang Tinghui spent a semester to gradually rise to the whole class. In the past three years in high school, occasionally caught up with the teacher from school early, he would go to the river and pick up some strange stones. This hobby of not spending money is the adjustment of his monotonous life.

The children who went to elementary and junior high school near the welfare home understood that they could not go out to play after school. The older children had to leave for leave. They could only go out for an hour or two. It was difficult for students to attend.

For children who are born with active, the life of the welfare home is strict, regular, and even a little boring. It is like a home, but it is not exactly like -children cannot wear slippers and pajamas to eat in the cafeteria and play in the playground. They have to be neatly dressed after leaving the dormitory area. Study in school, school, and homework every day. It was really boring in the courtyard. The children wanted to eat barbecue, so they recommended a bold child to say to the dean -these requests are generally permitted.

There are no well -known education and training institutions in this small city, and there is no after -school custody service in the past. However, at the welfare home, from 7 to 9 pm is a fixed operation counseling period. The teachers of the welfare home tutoring primary school students in the evening and checked their homework.

A few years ago, the Welfare Institute invited teachers to teach various instruments -pipa, Erhu, piano, guitar. Luo Fang has studied calligraphy and Chinese painting and piano. The wall of the calligraphy and painting classroom is still filled with her small case: the future is like a brilliant.

In the past few years of elementary and junior high school, children spent a lot of free time in the welfare home. Luo Fang likes to play basketball. This white and thin girl likes to win the ball. Luo Fang's mobile phone also had a picture of the basketball court under the night. Under the headlights, the green rubber on the basketball field was glowing. The open space in the welfare home is not large, and most of them are occupied by the basketball court. This facility is not a good stadium, which is very beautiful in her eyes.

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Luo Fang also remembers the appearance of this "new home" when she first arrived in the welfare home: in a four -square yard, in addition to the basketball court, there was a five -story building. Children who have been waiting for a long time are used to using floors to refer to different groups or living spaces. "Fourth floor they" refers to girls who have learned. The rehabilitation area of ​​special children and the living area of ​​infants and young children means the teachers and other staff of the welfare home.

The teachers of the welfare home often claim to be the children of the children. They are responsible for managing the Boys 'Department or Girls' Department, going to the school to open a parent meeting, and ask the teacher's recent performance to ask the teacher.

Two weeks before the college entrance examination, Zhang Rong, a teacher of the Youth Management Department, packed beef powder, add a fried egg, and visited the children who lived in Tongren Eight Middle School. Children who are studying at Tongren No. 2 Middle School can eat with her at the restaurant near the school to improve the meals.

Zhang Rong is most afraid of children who are sick and hospitalized. Children are sick, adults worry. Du Junbao was brought to Zhang Rong. When he was a freshman at Guizhou University for Nationalities, he was injured and ankle fractures due to participation in football training. Zhang Rong knew that the child's feet were injured before. This time I heard that Du Junbao was injured. She was really uneasy and went to Guiyang. Seeing Du Junbao, Zhang Rong rushed like all the worries of his mother: "You should pay attention, this leg will not be injured anymore."

The children gradually rely on and trust these teachers who get along with these days, and the teachers also carefully adhere to the boundaries of getting along. For example, when filling in volunteers, the teachers of the welfare home usually only give guidance, and will not directly interfere with the children's choices.

This summer, there are 4 Chinese candidates, 4 college candidates, and 4 children preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.

On the night of the college entrance examination, Zhang Rong sat at home and waited for the children's grades, and waited until one o'clock in the morning before going to bed. She eager to know the children's college entrance examination results for the first time.

In the past five or six years, Zhang Rong was responsible for the children who helped the college entrance examination to guide the volunteer. For this reason, she specially learned from the school's teachers to fill in her skills.

Zhang Rong noticed that when he was reported, girls liked to report to nursing or teachers. They believe that the work of nurses and teachers is suitable for girls and employment. At this crossroads of life, everyone often considers future employment. Few people specifically mentioned "interest".

The stable and good employment in the future is a factor that children must consider when filling in their volunteers. The security network of the welfare home will be withdrawn at the end of the academic education -children living in the welfare home, if they do not continue to study, they must go through the procedures for the departure of the hospital at the age of 18; Continued, in October of the year of the year, the procedures for departure are required.

On the Q & A website, some people have shared their experiences after leaving the welfare home: they have been unemployed for a while, they can't rent a house, and they have moved to the cheapest youth hostel. Other young people are unemployed and still have parents' help or live at home, but these children can only rely on themselves. This is also a issue that the dean Tong Fuquan has called on the society in recent years. He hopes that the relevant departments will pay more attention to these children who leave the welfare home, such as providing policy guarantee housing, so that they have a peaceful residence.

On September 17, 2019, Bijie, Guizhou, Evergrande Children's Welfare Institute in Daquan County. Visual China Photo Conferry

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Children who are about to enter the society gradually leave the protection of the welfare home.

Long Wenhao, who studies marketing major, has been in an internship in a sports training company in Beijing for two months before graduation. He made one or two hundred sales calls every morning. He squatted at the school gate in the afternoon. interest?"

This is too different from Long Wenhao's familiar life. The dormitory of the welfare home is so spacious that you can play table tennis. In Tongren City, you can eat a large bowl of fresh -cut beef powder by spending 12 yuan. The thick meat slices are lying on it. In the two months in Beijing, he worked for more than ten hours a day, and sometimes ended at 11 o'clock at night. The sports venue of this sports training company is distributed in several urban areas in Beijing. Long Wenhao originally thought that he could play basketball by the way, but he was so tired that he only wanted to paralyze on the bed every day -for saving money, the small bedroom was by him and he and him. The college classmates shared a bed.

Zhang Tinghui did not find a job after graduating. The welfare institute accepted him again. He returned here as a counselor.

他在广州一所高校读对外汉语专业，他听说，这个专业的毕业生在广州很受欢迎，原计划在广州工作两三年再回铜仁，但他得面对现实：父亲病重，奶奶He must be closer to them.

But this major is not easy to find a job in Tongren. He tried to take a civil servant and the career editor, and he was always uncomfortable.

The people of the welfare home told him that he could temporarily transition to the Welfare Institute for a while to do a social worker in public welfare projects and prepare while working while work.

Zhang Tinghui moved into the staff dormitory outside the door of the welfare home from the boys' dormitory. Every day at noon, the children who did not want to sleep at noon were playing in the activity room. After the children were out of school, they took them paper and beads. Operation.

The people in the welfare institute still took care of him as before: not to arrange too much work for him to prepare for the exam with peace of mind. But he said that the more they did, the more uncomfortable he was.

Everyone will take care of his feelings. For a long time, he will never ask him about the exam in person, and only ask when he encounters alone.

Zhang Tinghui feels guilty: "Everyone cares about you so much, you can't pass the test." Zhang Tinghui began to insomnia and couldn't sleep all night. Only after sending the children to school at noon every day can we lie on the table in the activity room for an hour. Essence

Zhang Tinghui asked many children who worked in the welfare home. Everyone, like him, did not want to live under the shelter of the uncle and aunt of the welfare home after graduating from college.

Zhang Tinghui has not regretted it yet. He spent four hundred months to rent a room, and was very satisfied with the new residence. There are air conditioners and water heaters -Tongren are hot in summer. These two are necessities.

Another teacher of the welfare home helped him introduce the current job. Now Zhang Tinghui spends more than ten minutes to go to work every day, and he has to prepare for the exam when he is not busy.

Young people always adapt to new life. Luo Fang is also working for this. She served as a member of the class in the class, participated in the calligraphy competition, and rushed to urge the training of girls in the class before the basketball game. Although the results of the game were not good, she felt at least tried.

The girl who planned to be planned in the future is preparing to take the postgraduate entrance examination. She plans to continue to study in the direction of the teacher and be a teacher in the future.

Dean Tong Fuquan is also confident in this. Children from rural areas often only pay attention to studying and not used to the colorful life of universities. But he believes that the children they bring do not exist in this problem.

After spending a sensitive and suspicious stage of high school, the life of the welfare home was a unique experience for Luo Fang. Just starting school or near vacation every semester, she will think of this "home". Especially during the long vacation, the children of the welfare home urged her: "Sister, others have come back on vacation, why haven't you come back yet?"

The relationship between a little girl and Luo Fang is particularly good. Luo Fang returned on vacation, and the little girl squeezed into her bed to sleep together. Luo Fang tied her small braids and chatted. Before the final exam, Luo Fang promised her: If the Chinese mathematics scored more than 95 points, she would reward her a new and larger Barbie doll.

Before the beginning of the school, the younger sisters counted Luo Fang poorly: "You still go back in 5 days" "There are 4 days back" ... I heard Luo Fang feel sad. The aunt in the cafeteria stir -fry the pepper of oil and let the children go to college.

The food style of the cafeteria did not change much, but Luo Fang felt that the rice made by Aunt Canada was particularly delicious.

The welfare home carried the turbulent past. Some children walked out of the welfare home and disappeared into the sea of ​​people. Most children are promoted step by step, and send blessings and specialty products to the teachers of the welfare home in the New Year and New Year.

In this yard, children can spend a stable childhood.Children in college are willing to talk to Huang Yi, a teacher of calligraphy and painting, to talk about life and society.Seeing that the child was in a bad mood, Huang Yi gave him a cup of tea and wrote while chatting.Writing pays attention to balance, Huang Yi reminds the children: "Writing is like being a man. If you enter, I will retreat; you are thick, I will be thinner." Of course, not all children can face this special in life franklyOne page.After graduating from a girl, she went to Xinjiang, married and had children. In the face of strangers, her voice was tough and full of alert.

She still sends red dates, walnuts, raisins and other specialties to the teachers and children of the welfare home. The welfare institute has become a page in the past life.

The lobby on the first floor of the welfare home has a "honor wall". The dean hangs the honor earned by the children in this conspicuous place: the notice of admission to college and master's degree, and the first prize of the college fun sports meeting ...

Author 丨 Li Yajuan; Editor 丨 Chen Zhuo

Source: Ice Point Weekly (ID: bingdianweekly)

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