5 characteristics of "really praise"

In interpersonal communication, we often praise others and often accept praise from others.

Which praise will make people feel very comfortable and sincere, look at the five characteristics of really praise.

01

Follow (attention)

At least at this moment of praise, you can feel that the other party is paying attention to yourself unconditionally.

TA can see your true attitude, ability, action, language, or personality characteristics.

02

Specific (SPECIFIC)

Specifically, the other party can find praise and specific details on us.

These details are not unrelated, nor vaguely.

03

Respect (Respect)

Real praise is bounded.

Only when the other party respects us as an independent individual and has the right to be responsible for our own life, praise is meaningful and valuable. We will not become a tool for control.

Studies have found that for people with inferiority, praise is often not widely accepted, and respecting their reactions to praise is also a sincere attitude.

04

Connection

In sincere praise, you can feel a certain value of your own and make the other party have a strong resonance.

Your value is related to the work and life of TA.

For example: "Your hug today encouraged me when I was in my trough." This is a kind of "visible affirmation."

05

Direct (Direct)

If you use too much "modification", praise can easily sound like a "insult".

For example: "No matter what others say, you are really a kind person", "You are much smarter than you look" ...

There are too many background information descriptions, which are often uncomfortable.

The above five points are not absolute, all standards.

But it can help us effectively discern whether the praise of others is sincere. At the same time, it can also make us reflect on our praise.

Finally, you can leave a message to tell us that those disbelieved praise you hear, or sharing the moment when you are sincerely praised.

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