12 methods, expand children's thinking

The brain has a core impact on almost all important aspects of children's lives, such as the formulation of decision -making, the cultivation of self -awareness, the improvement of learning ability, and the development of interpersonal relationships.

Integrating the brain can help children from being caught in chaos and stereotypes and maintain psychological health. In the end, children's emotions, wisdom and social ability have been fully developed.

Daniel Siegel

How to help children create a integrated brain? Daniel Siegel, the father of "whole brain education" and founder of interpersonal neurology, proposed a simple and effective strategy -helping children integrate the brain in life, that is, the "whole brain education method".

Studies have shown that this method can help parents understand what kind of interaction method is most likely to allow the brain to grow in a combination. In his classic book "Total Brain Education", Siger divided the "whole brain education method" into 5 latitude -5 dimensions included 12 methods, which aims to better promote the healthy development of children's healthy development Essence

The first dimension is to integrate the left and right brains

The right brain is the direct source of emotions, responsible for non -language communication, including facial expressions and eye communication, speaking tone, physical posture and gesture, and the time point and strength of the response. The right brain is also the place where our autobiographical memory is stored. In contrast, the left brain is logical, linear, and language. Both are important and very different.

In the process of growing up, children are dominated by the right brain, so they live completely in the present and ignore everything outside. And if a person only uses the left brain, TA's emotional world will become desert. Therefore, by listening and paying attention and sharing experience, parents can understand their children's emotional state, help them combine the left and right brains, and use the logic of the left brain to balance the strong emotions of the right brain. Once they learn to deal with emotions correctly, they can become happier.

Method 1: Listening and attention: recognize emotions

When the child is sad, you must first connect the emotion, that is, the right brain to connect to the right brain. Once the child can control and open up emotions, the left -brain -type education and norms are introduced.

Method 2: Experience sharing: soothing emotions

When the child cannot control the intense right brain emotions, help him tell the things that make him sad, so that the left brain can exert function, let the child clarify their experience, and have more control.

The second dimension is to integrate the upper and lower brain

From the perspective of evolution, the upper brain is relatively high, and the lower brain is relatively primitive. When we encounter danger, we will trigger the lower brain stress response, and we will become closed and unwilling to communicate and cooperate. It is important to learn how to establish connection with children in the state of defense. Sometimes I only need to feel the same thing about what happens to the child, and then guide it.

The lower brain that controls instincts is very developed when the child is born, and the upper brain with advanced analysis thinking must not be fully developed until adulthood. Therefore, when children are out of control, they evoke their upper brains, encourage children to control their bodies and emotions, and consider the feelings of others to help them make the correct decision.

Method 3: Moving the brain to moving gas: evoke the upper brain

In stress, mobilize the child's upper brain instead of stimulating the lower brain. Don't say "I have to say it." You should ask questions and use discussions instead of choice and negotiations.

Method 4: The more you use the more spiritual light: exercise the upper brain

Provide a lot of opportunities to exercise upper brains. Play the game "What will you do" to avoid making complex decisions for children.

Method 5: Sports transform the brain: let the brain live

When the child loses contact with his upper brain, help TA to achieve a balance through exercise.

The third dimension is integrated memory

It is also essential to understand the different ways of operation of memory. This can make us clear how to better communicate with children, understand them better, and help children understand that each experience is meaningful. Learning to use insights to reflect on experience, in fact, it is to develop the ability to understand others and establish connection with others. This ability is the basis for developing social and cultivating emotional intelligence.

When the child feels painful due to the negative experience of the past, what he needs is not to forget the past, but to reproduce the experience in a complete and coherent way, and remember the most important and valuable experience. By integrating memory, children can understand their inner psychology, thereby controlling their own thoughts and behaviors, and making a rational response to the current things.

Method 6: Mind remote control: repeat memory

When the child is unwilling to repeat a certain painful experience, he teaches him to use the inner remote control to suspend, replay or fast forward when rewriting, so that he can control the repeat process.

Method 7: Question and encouragement: Deepen memory

Help children leave more memories and let them practice to review important events.

The fourth dimension is integrating self

The psychological state of a person under a certain situation is formed by the comprehensive role of past memory and the comprehensive effect of current emotions. It is precisely because of different psychological states that we have a unique personality. As a breeder, we should pay attention to and respect the child's mentality, and then teach them to understand their inner state through a specific communication model.

Studies have shown that this profound self -understanding ability can develop the hearts of powerful people and promote the development of toughness.

Perseverance in certain specific emotions makes children feel confused and frustrated. Help children integrate different parts of themselves, examine factors affecting their emotions, consciously guide their attention, eliminate external interference, they will understand their inner feelings better, so as to respond according to their true will. Method 8: Floating Cloud Principle: Teach children to understand inner feelings

Remind the child that you will go like a cloud; they are temporary, not long -term characteristics.

Method 9: Emotional palette: Teach children to understand the inner feelings correctly

Help children pay attention to the inner feelings, images, feelings, and thoughts.

Method 10: Seventh sense: Cultivation of concentration

The seventh sense is to pay attention to your own heart and understand the feelings of others. Through seventh sense practice, children can learn to calm themselves and allocate attention according to their own wishes.

The fifth dimension is to integrate self and others

This involves how to build a beneficial interpersonal relationship, that is, how a person maintains a unique self while connecting with others. This is the process of connecting "I" and "Us". Security attachment refers to the establishment of interpersonal relationships between the two parties.

It reveals a simple and profound discovery: when we respect the differences between children and realize that children cannot always meet our expectations and emotional needs, and let children maintain their own personality, we can become a whole with our children, and children are also children. It will not lose their unique personality, this is the relationship of integration.

You can learn how to achieve this. When you do this, you will promote your child's brain to grow in the direction of integration.

Full brain education can help children develop strong and flexible "me", but children need to understand the significance of being a member of "us". Maintaining unique self -awareness and developing empathy can allow children to build good interpersonal relationships, and experience warmth, connection and security.

Method 11: Parent -child interaction: make the family full happiness

Create laughter in the family, so that the child will have a positive and satisfactory interpersonal experience with the closest person.

Method 12: Concentration: Standing from the perspective of others, looking at the world

Taking conflicts as opportunities rather than obstacles that need to be avoided, and use conflicts to teach children some necessary interpersonal skills, such as looking at problems from the perspective of others, reading non -verbal information, and repairing relationships.

Professor Siger's "Total Education" explains the basic concepts of the brain from a new perspective, allowing us to cultivate children more simple and effectively, and make the road of hardcare parenting flat and full of joy.

Understand the above basic principles that are easy to master, parents can better understand their children, help children enhance their ability to deal with difficulties, use specific and practical methods to implement the concept of whole brain education, and bring better life to themselves and their children to live better life. More harmonious parent -child relationship.

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