Regardless of whether the husband and wife or a lover, when the other party does not contact you, don't do this ...

After hearing a word: "Those who really love you will definitely contact you."

Everyone who loves love always connects frequently at the beginning of love, and can't wait to stick together all day.

However, good things in the world are not firm, and Liuli is fragile.

I do n’t know when you have become dispensable, no longer the person he often remembers.

His contact with you, from several times a day to once a week, once every month, or even no more contact.

Regardless of whether the husband and wife or a lover, if one day, the other party will not contact you, don't do these three stupid things.

Don't do it again.

Cang Yang Jiacuo wrote in the poem:

In this life, he may have loved, maybe he hated, maybe you missed, or maybe passing by. When everything disappeared in the past, all the ways to redeem were pale.

It is obvious whether a person loves you alone.

When he no longer ask you to warm up, no longer care about your daily living, no longer contact you, disturb you ...

These have passed a signal -he doesn't love you anymore.

A person who doesn't love you, no matter how you try to recover, it is not helpful.

But unfortunately, not everyone knows this.

A reader said sadly to me, "I don't know what to do to save his heart."

She and her boyfriend are college classmates and have reached the degree of marriage.

But when she was happy to get married, her boyfriend suddenly lost contact, the phone was not answered, and WeChat did not return.

She was worried that her boyfriend had something to do, and ran to her boyfriend's unit to find him, but was told that her boyfriend had resigned long ago.

She was so anxious that the ants on the hot pot found the news of her boyfriend everywhere, and even asked for help with a friend, asking him to come out to meet.

But in the end, her boyfriend did not show up, but sent a cold text message:

"Sorry, I don't love you anymore, don't contact it anymore."

She still did not die, sent text messages over and over, begging her boyfriend not to leave.

In the movie "He doesn't actually like you so much", there is a line:

If he suddenly disappears inexplicably, don't spend huge energy to solve the "Mystery of the Missing Man". Regardless of, you find out all kinds of evidence and excuses that can comfort yourself. The only fact is that he no longer wants to be with you, and has no guts to tell you clearly.

Perhaps the love that used to be true is true, and now it is true.

A period of changing feelings, letting you fix it, restore it, and cannot return to the beginning.

It is better to accept reality, do not force, do not disturb, do not retain.

Because letting go is also a kind of liberation, the best choice.

"It must be because I am not good enough, so he left me."

Is this a lot of people showing an attitude when they encounter an emotional crisis.

The reasons why the other party left was all blamed on himself.

If you can do better, if you do n’t say a lot, if you are more physically sticked, would you have a different ending?

The answer may not be the case.

The reason why a person chooses to leave and no longer contact is not necessarily because you are not good.

Maybe just, I don't love anymore.

Your self -degrading, self -reflection and review, will not change the established results, but will hurt yourself.

Like Sister Na in the circle of friends, she divorced last year.

The reason for the divorce, according to her statement:

Because I was too busy at work, I neglected the family, which caused the dissatisfaction of her husband and mother -in -law, and the marriage broke.

At the end, she added a word:

If I change my leisurely job, I have time to cook, wash clothes for my husband, and clean up the house, and I may not divorce.

Although it has passed for a long time, she still blame herself every time she mentioned her ex -husband.

I blame myself should not put my energy on work, and blame myself to care and take care of the small home.

Writer Mo Yan once said:

There are always people in this world that people don't like you, which is always an incompetent thing. Because good or bad is one thing, it is another thing to like it.

In our lives, there are people who like you and those who don't like you.

Those who like you will like all of you, including your shortcomings, your bad problems and small flaws.

People who don't like you, no matter how good you do, no matter how good you are, they don't like it.

So what I want to say is:

Sometimes, leaving you alone does not mean that you are not good enough, you are not worthy of love.

Instead, people's hearts have changed, their feelings are gone, and they naturally disperse.

I understand that the person who stays in place will be sad, painful, and inquiring about the reason over and over again, and will continue to reflect on himself.

But please do not derogate yourself too much, do not lose your original self for the past.

You are very good, and it is worth a better person to give you a better happiness.

See a sentence on the Internet:

There is a hidden rule in the world of adults. Silence is just not wanting to answer. It is not so important without response. It means that you don't like it without contact.

Yeah, how can a person who likes you and loves you, can bear the thoughts, be able to resist, do n’t contact you?

You know, there is no misunderstanding in this world.

All thoughts, including connection and greetings, because of care, because of love.

All departure, including loss of contact and alienation, is more likely, it doesn't matter.

Some people say that there are two things in this world that cannot be kept, bad food and deterioration feelings. Since it can't be kept, it is better to stop here, let the past be the past, and go all out to watch.

Because, no matter how beautiful the past is, it only belongs to the past.

What we want to live is now, the reality he has left and will no longer contact.

So don't entangle, don't bother, don't look back.

Those self -touching love is not infatuated, but stupid.

Your stupid waiting, your depression, will not move each other, just move yourself and torture yourself.

Eason Chan once sang in "Want to Cry":

I also plan to review why we end, and want to ask if you live alone. When your smile politely greets me, when I want to tell my feelings over the years. You ordered my favorite food and introduced me to read a book of astronomy. I want to cry, dare not cry ...

The most sad thing in feelings is:

The other party has been relieved of the past, and a new life has begun. You still stay in place, waiting for someone to change his mind.

However, if you forget it, sometimes, you may not be able to wait for the response.

Love is also the norm of life.

If the story of the two people has become a stranger, it is destined to have no intersection.

What we should do most is to forget the past, start again, live seriously, and love ourselves.

I really like such a paragraph:

When you love, you will love it seriously, live up to the years, and live up to life; when you do n’t love, let go decisively, do n’t let go because you are unwilling.

It is not easy to meet a person who loves. When he has, he goes all out.

Even if you finally have to be separated, you don't regret falling in love at the beginning.

Love will inevitably have regrets, some people leave halfway, and some people are arriving.

The person who leaves is not nostalgic or entangled;

Light at the end of the text [Looking at], I hope we can do our best to love, and we are not afraid of the departure of someone.

Whether there is any love, you must be a cute person.

Work hard, to love bravely, and live a dull day into a shining moment.

Take your own way, and every day for the rest of the day, you should come on the road.

Including the right person.

Author | Sister Jiali, reluctant to love and freedom in life.

Picture | Visual China

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