"Poor Man" in "Poor": Love the wrong person, the root of how many people have been in the past life

"A new Guobi was born!"

In May 1845, a man took a manuscript in hand and shouted to the master Belinsky.

Belinsky took over the manuscript carelessly. He did not expect that as soon as he turned over two pages, he sat up excitedly and read it.

After reading, Belinsky shouted excitedly: "Hurry up and lead him to me."

He in the mouth of Belinsky is the 24 -year -old Dostoevsky. The manuscript was his first novel and his famous masterpiece- "Poor".

In the book, Dharvisky used 55 books to tell a beautiful and kind 17 -year -old girl Walianka from loneliness to despair.

I used to feel the dilemma of life, which made Walianka's hopes gradually dim.

But when I graduated from graduation, married and had children, I understood after the ups and downs:

Poverty is not the original sin. Love the wrong person is the root of how many people have been poor.

1

Being with the extreme people, love is destined to be a suffering. The unfortunateness of the protagonist Walianka began with an ignorant love.

At that time, she was 15 years old.

Because of his father's death, his lonely Walianka and his mother went to the distant relatives, where he met Pacorovsky, a weird and tacitian poor student.

After learning that he was 3 years old and was kicked out of the house by his stepmother. After he grew up, Walianka's heart rippled, and he confess to the other party with tears:

"I want to love you, live with you with all my heart, and give you a worry ..."

At that time, Walianka thought innocently that love can warm each other and live happiness, but she ignores the temper and personality of the other party.

Due to the trauma frustration since childhood, Pokrovsky has a good temperament and behavior.

On weekdays, he was silent as a ghost, sitting in his house all day and remarkable, nor did he communicate with others.

But as long as the outside world is not as good as him, he is excited and angry, furious, and out of control.

Sometimes the students were just mischievous and mischief. He couldn't help but say loudly, and ran back to the room with anger after the class.

To this end, he often unemployed, hiring around, and his life became more and more embarrassed.

After the fall in autumn, Parkrovsky was unfortunately tuberculosis after the rain. He was unable to heal, but could only suffer pain.

Walianka took care of him and served him in a strange look at his neighbor.

But Pokrovsky disagreed, but his temper became worse and worse. Until the last moment of life, she had not left a word for her.

Walianka cried and the liver and intestine were broken, feeling that his love was insignificant in his heart.

What is even more worse is that relatives have insulted her as outsiders, and also promoted that she had fallen into the wind and was unclear with Pokrovsky.

The mother ended in depression, and the underage Walianka became a bullied orphan.

Who would have thought that the love of the first love not only did not bring happiness, but also pulled her into the abyss.

Thinking of the writer Wende said: "Personality is left and right, determining your love mode."

The extreme people are accustomed to the vortex of "hostile psychology" and only believe in themselves and cannot tolerate the slightest difference.

They are moody and elusive, like a walking explosive bag, and they will bomb their lives into a disaster scene if they don't pay attention.

Being with such people will only make people live in trembling every day, suffer, and even destroy their lives.

2

Being with people with internal consumption, love is more sad than not. After his lover and mother died one after another, Walianka, who had been devastated in physical and mental, chose to escape.

She was unwilling to be rumored to set up a life, and she was not willing to live in the evil palms of the wicked, and became a "borders" that everyone laughed.

At the moment of life, Walianka met Jiewu Shijin, who loved her life.

The 59 -year -old Jiewuskin loved her like her father, and wrote a letter every day to encourage her and tease her happy.

Gradually, Walianka walked out of a nightmare, regaining the courage to live.

She was eager to get along with Jie Wushkin to welcome a new life together.

Jie Wushkin pushed away for various reasons, avoided seeing, and was unwilling to contact the outside world and publicly in love.

Because he pays special attention to the views of others, he always looked around with fearless eyes, for fear of being joked.

An inadvertent words, an inadvertent action, will stimulate the storm in his heart.

In order not to be ridiculed, he dared not see Walianka, but only overlooks his eyes and talks acacia when he worships the mass.

In order to dispel Walianka's concerns, he pretended to have money, frequently pre -salad, and gave her candy, flowers, etc.

In less than four months, Jiewuskin became poor.

What is even more terrible is that the landlord accidentally discovered the 42 -year -old forgotten love, and he was well known.

Facing the neighbors' fingers poke, Walianka is not afraid of people, encouraging him to be strong, everything will pass.

In contrast, Jie Wushkin was scared and constantly replenished various disaster consequences:

They will betray you and leak all your private life. They will definitely describe us with satisfactory pens. After finishing the egg, it is really shameful to live in the world ...

In Jiewu Shijin's self -complaint, Walleka gradually fell into self -doubt.

She could have been looking for a job to make a living, but because of her troubles and losses, she dared not walk out of the door for half a step.

She could have done a needle thread to raise herself, and because of catching the wind, she was restless, and her energy became increasingly disappearing. Soon Walianka fell ill, his cheeks and eyes were deep, and his face was as white as a handkerchief.

I agree with one sentence very much: "The most terrible relationship is not love, but internal consumption."

Everyone's marriage is not only a love field, but also a dojo of psychological growth.

Once you are dominated by internal consumption, you can only let yourself sink.

The internal consumption in the relationship is like a chronic poison, which will eat love a little bit, make you tired, and let you decay.

3

With the wrong person, marriage is the grave of a lifetime. After turning around for more than a year, Walianka fell into a dilemma of life again.

She was seriously ill in bed and could not do needle -threading. She could only support her clothes and hats.

When there was no way, Bakov, who had occupied her other province, came to the door, asked Warianka to forgive him, and proposed to Walianka.

Your relatives are a very inferior woman, and she destroyed you. As for me, I am a bit despicable in this matter, but it is not surprising. You are a kind, emotional, and knowledgeable girl, and I have a responsibility to restore your reputation. In me, you can want to compare all the landlords of the landlord ...

Perhaps the future of depicting is too beautiful, or maybe it is enough to suffer from poverty. Walianka forgot the evil deeds of Bakov and agreed without thinking.

She said: "If anyone can get me away from shame and restore the innocent reputation, I will no longer suffer poverty and misfortune in the future. There is no one except he."

Happiness is as good as touch, but reality is extremely cruel.

Really walk into Bakov's life, Walianka discovered that he not only faced with three twilight, but also selfishness.

After moving into a new residence, Bakov did not see the figure for a few days, and he was mixed everywhere, but Warianka never went out of freedom.

The grand wedding that once promised has also become an joy.

Becov was expensive and spent too much money. Not only did he cancel the dance and banquets, but even the pearl gem earrings worn by the wedding also sold it.

The most worrying thing is that Bakov marries her not because of love, but to inherit the inheritance.

Because Bakov's aunt is not much time, he can only get the right to inherit the inheritance by getting married.

The reason why I chose Walianka is because she is an orphan, who is sleepy, weak, and uncomfortable.

At this time, Walianka, who was regretful, wanted to turn back, but found that there was no way to retreat.

The cruel Bekov placed her in a bare grassland in other plans, surrounded by endless desolation.

"Now regret will be, the intestines will be broken for thousands of rest and a long break."

The saddest thing in marriage is not poor, not suffering, but people who are wrong.

Because step by step, step by step is wrong.

When you go astray and get into the mud, you can only live in the barren day after day.

As the god of stock Buffett said, "The most important decision in your life is to marry who is married."

With the wrong person, marriage is a barren mound. Every day in the future, you are accelerating your aging and death.

The violence of punches and kicks, with a unreasonable face, stabbing the soul;

The painful suffering and the separation of blood and blood are disturbed.

Even if you do n’t worry about eating and wear in your life, you will not suffer, and you will lose your sun and freedom, lose love and happiness.

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Walianka's unfortunate encounter is still staged in life.

Just as a philosopher Alan Dapon said:

"Marriage with the wrong person is an error that anyone of us is easy to make, and this may also be the most expensive error in a lifetime."

Choosing to marry, not only choosing a person, but also a living method for the rest of my life.

Choose the right to achieve each other and live a plump life of 1+1> 2.

The choice is wrong, the road is getting narrower, and life is getting more and more unfortunate.

Like a praise, I hope you live in love and being loved.

Author: Insight · Heart

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