Tomorrow will go to the examination room. How to help candidates to resolve anxiety before the test to enter the "best state"?

In 2022, the Shanghai Intermediate College Entrance Examination is about to kick off. For families with candidates in each family, the college entrance examination is not only a vital major test in the life of the child, but also a test of candidates' parents. A few days ago, Zhang Jiahao, a second -level psychological counselor of the Shanghai Parent School invited the national secondary psychological counselor, and the Pudong East School teacher of Shanghai Open University to open the "Preparation Lecture Hall" to help parents observe and identify their children's anxiety, become good teammates for children, accompany their children to resolve anxiety, set up correctness Mental attitude, boost confidence, and prepare for the exam smoothly.

In the end of the sprint stage, you may wish to leave some space for your child

Some investigations found that 75%of students were facing nervousness, anxiety, panic and other emotions before important exams. Some children will have physiological problems such as insomnia and poor appetite. They do not want to ask questions related to exams, and even rebellious, addicted to games, and escape school. In Zhang Jiahao's opinion, parents should not simply urge to keep an eye on the child to review and prepare for the exam. Instead, they must look at the child's perspective to see the problem. Pay attention to observing whether the child has been nervous and anxious before the test.

In the face of stress and tension and anxiety, it is a normal stress response of human beings. Moderate pressure and anxiety can stimulate children's potential and benefit from reviewing the exam. Zhang Jiahao believes that parents should observe the degree of emotional tension during the preparation of their children and help children regulate anxiety to the appropriate range. If parents simply tell their children not to be nervous, but it is easy to aggravate the child's emotional pressure. Parents can tell the child that "nervousness is normal, but nervous has never defeated me, and even helps me play." If parents find that their children's mental and emotional state is very bad, parents should take their children to professional psychotherapy institutions in time.

The characteristics of middle school students are that the emotional brain has begun to develop rapidly. The child's emotions have become strong and rich. Sometimes the ups and downs are particularly large, but the part of the rational brain is not yet mature, so it is very challenging. Zhang Jiahao suggested that as adult parents, they need to adjust their emotions and take care of them. In the final stage of preparation, parents can also try to keep a certain distance with their children, leave room for their children, and understand that the child is reviewing and welcome the test. The anxiety in the process gives children tolerant warmth and positive encouragement. Standing at the age of the child, to correctly look at the issue of emotional anxiety when preparing for the test, understand the emotional needs in the process of preparing for the child's nervous examination, instead of wanting to pass the test that year. Why is it so fragile.

The whole family in the examination room is nervous? Parents should not become "source of anxiety"

Many parents are worried that as the test is approaching, the pressure of the child will be greater and greater. Should children continue to read books and prepare for exams, or should they relax and not think about the exam? Zhang Jiahao admits that the closer to the exam, the more the parents should not intervene too much and try to let the children make more choices themselves. Parents' excessive intervention has given children more pressure and aggravating their children's anxiety in virtuous. Parents should create a harmonious, pleasant, and relaxed family atmosphere, do not put pressure on their children, do not emphasize the results of the exam, accompany the child to exercise appropriately, and maintain a calm and stable mentality to welcome the exam.

The child's exam, the whole family is nervous and anxious, this is the status quo of many candidates' families. One is that parents are nervous and anxious for their children's examinations; the other is that the child's preparation of the exam inspires the tension of the parents to take the exam that year.

Zhang Jiahao said that parents should not be the "anxiety source" of children first, anxiety will be contagious, and they will give their children more psychological pressure. When children express their nervousness and anxiety, parents should listen to their children's thoughts and can admit to their children who are nervous, but I believe he can do better and accompany the child with a true and positive attitude, instead of deliberately creating a " The atmosphere of fake and easy. Parents can express their love and support for their children boldly. Before the exam, give their children some incentive words, hugs, and one -time palm, etc., can help children to calm their anxiety and guide the child to enter a good test status through the positive attitude of sunlight. At the same time, Zhang Jiahao also reminded parents that do not talk about the topic of the exam too much between parents and parents, or compare the exams with other people's children, which will increase their inner tension and psychological burden. Parents must also learn to relax themselves. When they feel nervous, they can transfer their attention by walking, watching movies, etc., and let themselves be relieved from nervous emotions. Facing the middle and college entrance examinations, children need to decompress, and parents also need to relax.

With the advent of the exam, the parents of the candidates will accompany their children to spend one of the important moments in their lives. I wish each candidate to sprint in the examination room, give full play to their true level, achieve ideal results, compose a beautiful life of life Answer!

Author: Wang Xing

Edit: Wang Xing

Editor in charge: Tang Wenjia

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