Do you have a mother to wait for confinement?Suggest from those who come here: It is best not to let the mother's mother help

After giving birth, the women who successfully "unloaded" were not as easy as they imagined. They must be a seamless connection of "pregnant mothers" and "Baoma" identity.

Therefore, at this time, the most hopeful thing is that they can sit back and confine with peace of mind, so that the postpartum life is not so nervous and fatigue, and a feathers.

However, during the confinement period, who is the best candidate for confinement? According to tradition, many maternal confinement is taken care of by her mother -in -law, but I have to say that there are also many contradictions between mother -in -law and daughter -in -law in the confinement period.

The daughter is a piece of meat fell on her mother. It is reasonable to say that the mother's time to serve the confinement will make the mother more comfortable. However, people who have experienced the confinement period are not recommended to do this.

The neighbor Zhang's confinement was just out of confinement. When thinking about the experience of confinement, she bluntly said, "I really shouldn't let my mother come to serve the confinement!" Sister Zhang's words made everyone who came to visit. In particular, friends who have not experienced confinement are even more incomprehensible.

A friend bluntly said, "It should be very comfortable to have a confinement period when you have a mother -in -law?

When Sister Zhang had not reached the due date, she made up her mind to let her mother come to take care of the confinement. "My relationship with my mother -in -law is average, and she has never seen her a few times during pregnancy. If she is asked to take care of the confinement, I I may feel a little unprepared. And my mother -in -law has a strong personality, and my mother is afraid that my confinement will be wronged. "

On the day Sister Zhang played a child, Sister Zhang's mother rushed over. After that, Sister Zhang's mother took all the housework, and even the sister Zhang did not need to get up.

Mom's move made Sister Zhang feel very moved, but it took a long time, but Sister Zhang's heart gave birth to a lot of "uncomfortable".

Once my in -laws came to see my grandson, there are many words to say to Sister Zhang's mother -in -law, "Picking hands and feet". "After a while, the child's urine should be changed often. The nanny is the same. They did nothing, but they faced my mother and picked the three. This is too much to respect others. "

What makes Zhang even more angry is her husband's attitude. "At first my husband respects my mother, and he listened to what my mother said. But for a long time, he began to dislike my mother's love, and it is not delicious for my mother to cook! Obviously my mother is here Taking care of me, but I still have to be wronged with my son -in -law. I think I'm sorry for my mother! "

Sister Zhang said, "If I know that my mother will suffer so many grievances and hard work, I will never bother her." Sister Zhang's words made everyone silent for a long time. Spectrum, this money should be spent! "

The mother -in -law takes care of her daughter to confinement, and she will naturally be more attentive and dedicated, but those who come over when they have confinement know that "things are not so simple." From the perspective of her mother -in -law, the daughter -in -law does not need her mother -in -law to serve the confinement, which will naturally make the elderly a lot easier.

However, the mother -in -law who loves the reason will also feel that this is that this is the daughter -in -law who does not trust himself, and even guess it is that he wants to get involved in a small family. Some mother -in -law, although not serving the confinement, but also preferred "to be cheap and sell well", then this will inevitably make the daughter -in -law's mother feel wronged.

From the perspective of the mother's mother, the mother came to serve the confinement to give her daughter a chance to "breathe", but the more lively, the older the old man became the "nanny" of the whole family.

Although this situation, although the mother will not be in her daughter, it will make her daughter feel uncomfortable. If the son -in -law does not know how to be grateful at this time, and he also treats his mother -in -law as a nanny, it is even more worthy of letting your mother -in -law come to serve the confinement.

In fact, whether it is a "mother" or "mother -in -law" to serve the confinement, this is a test of life for the mother.

Maternal women can determine whether "mother" or "mother -in -law" is suitable to help take care of confinement. From the experience of bringing dolls, experienced elderly people can make young women a lot easier. Even if the mother is easily anxious because of "protecting the calf's heart", the elderly can use mature experience to give the mother a peaceful pill.

From the perspective of personality, the elderly who are gentle and willing to communicate can handle the contradictions and differences between the two generations of the two generations, while the elderly who are strong and unwilling to communicate are easy to enlarge and intensify family contradictions. Therefore, for the sake of confinement period, the elderly who are good and willing to communicate are more suitable for taking care of confinement.

Who will take care of the confinement, this actually depends on the will of the elderly. If the elderly are unwilling to take care of the confinement, then the maternal confinement period will naturally not pass smoothly. If the elderly sincerely willing to spend time and energy to serve the confinement, then the quality of life of the maternal confinement period is more guaranteed to be more guaranteed Essence

The premise of choosing who takes care of confinement is to see who is really willing to take care of the confinement. After all, taking care of confinement is not only helping to bring baby, but also includes a woman.

1. When parenting is different, "grasp the big and small"

For mothers, the daily care of the baby is extremely easy to involve their sensitive nerves. Therefore, it is easy for the elderly to have contradictions due to the incident of bringing a baby.

Therefore, in the face of this situation, the mother must also understand the transformation. For some unimportant details, they can respect the experience of the elderly, and choose a clear position for some principles. 2. Daily living habits can "seek common ground while depositing differences"

The two generations will naturally have different living habits under the same roof. At this time, young people can try to make a little bit, and try not to interfere with the living habits of the elderly while maintaining a sense of size.

Of course, if the elderly are not strong, the mother can also communicate with her appropriately, and the tone attitude is as daries and polite as much as possible.

3. Communication expression method and skills

When communicating with the elderly, misunderstandings are likely to be misunderstood if improper expression. Therefore, in order to reduce the occurrence of misunderstandings, young couples should choose to communicate smoothly with the elderly.

For example, when the mother -in -law takes care of the confinement, the mother can let her husband come forward appropriately and let the husband take the task of communicating with the elderly.

When the confinement is not good, it is easy to fall down. The root cause is not only physical, but also psychological and emotional. Therefore, maternal psychological needs and emotional feedback should be valued.

At the same time, it is not easy for the elderly to take care of the confinement. The young couple should still know how to be grateful, especially the novice Bao dads. They should take the initiative to take the initiative to maintain the responsibility of maintaining family harmony.

Conclusion:

In fact, whether it is a mother or mother -in -law to take care of the confinement, there will be certain pros and cons of this. Both the elderly or the younger generation should be clear. No need to abduct.

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