"Buy LV bags, I can't help but return on the third day": High -level life knows how to do this

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A few days ago, I saw a netizen sharing my daily life: "I felt I felt after buying a LV package."

Netizens said that although their salary is not very high, the family is good. I bought an LV bag that I liked for a long time three days ago as a reward for myself.

I really like and happy when I get my hands, but the next day it is a bit different.

Paying the bag on your body, not only did not be happy, but felt uncomfortable.

Netizens reflected that the problem was not the bag, but on myself:

"It is too expensive to me. I dare not touch it after washing my hands.

After all, it is an item, but I always feel that it has been controlled ... "

She concluded that she may not be able to see it as ordinary items.

On the same day, she decided to return the bag and applied for a refund.

The next day, she recited her canvas bag again, and netizens sighed: "That's a freedom !!!"

Netizens' behavior has resonated with many people.

When a piece of items and tools keeps most of your attention on protecting it, it seems to lose its role as a tool, but it becomes a burden.

Just like the woman who hit the subway station a few years ago because of the bag.

In Wuhan in 2018, a woman refused to security when entering the subway station, saying that her brand -name bag was very expensive, and the track of the security machine was too dirty to stain the bag.

When she was blocked by the staff, she fought and scratched the security inspector.

After the police arrived, she immediately splashed, first lying on the ground, and trying to destroy the facilities. Later, she was lying in front of the security check and motionless to disturb the normal order.

It's nothing wrong to love the bag you spend a lot of money.

However, it is too irrational to refuse the security inspection and do the excessive behavior of splashing and hurting people.

What's more, why do you have to lie on the ground? Isn't the ground dirty? Isn't your body as if you are afraid of dirty?

Excluding those who buy the bag back, they are looking at the dust cabinet, so carefully to a bag, supplies it as the ancestor, for fear that it will be dirty and wipe and touch it. In essence, it has become a burden that consumes our energy.

The girls at the beginning can realize the matter in time, make a choice, and let themselves avoid excessive internal consumption.

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There is such an idiom in Mencius: the heart is the battle.

When the desire that is tired of things occupies the first place, ownership has become a negative.

It makes people a tool for tools, being slavered by it, and suffering from unnecessary soul pain.

In "Lake Walden", Sulha said his neighbors, those farmers of Kangkode.

The farmers have worked hard for decades to become the real owner of their farm.

Although these farms need to mortgage money to borrow money by using the value of the farm itself, they still have a steady stream of people to inherit and make themselves a "slave" of the land.

Solo said that farmers have obtained a house, but it is likely that he has not become rich, but is even more poor because the house occupies him.

The farmers have always worked hard to solve the livelihood problems, but the methods used were more complicated than the problem itself. As a result, they turned their feet in their mouths, but they trapped their feet in.

He doesn't understand the choice of farmers:

"The farmers need to plant sixty acres of land, but in fact, people only need to be a livelihood. Why do they start digging the grave by themselves?

They had to push the things in front of them and make everything go smoothly.

It is not the same as being bound to the farm and being imprisoned in the county.

I often think that it is better to say that people are watching Niu Qun, it is better to say that the cattle are in charge of people, because the cattle are much more comfortable. "

He believes that he is more independent compared to farmers, because he does not need to fix the anchor of life on which house or farm.

He said: "Live as freely as possible for a long time, and I have no hindrance. I never really possess these farms, so as not to burn my hands."

I think that Solo told us the possible relationship between "people".

The values ​​of Suloro are not willing to be dragged by things and freedom; farmers are the opposite.

We can't say who is right and who is wrong, because this is the choice made by personal values.

But we can think from it. Sometimes we spare no effort to get something after something we really want to have?

Just like Kang Ked's farmers, all of them are willing to be bound by the farm?

Or do you have to be on the farm for the good life of universal values?

We cannot recognize the value of things, but we must "use things for me", not "I use it for things."

Only by really understanding your inner needs can we do everything.

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So, how should we treat our material desire?

In psychology, there is an empty bird cage effect, also known as bird cage logic.

Hanging a beautiful bird cage, the most conspicuous in the room. It won't be long after, the owner will usually make one of the following two options:

Throw the bird cage, or buy a bird back and put it in the bird cage.

Bird cage logic also means this phenomenon:

If people obtain an item that is not needed, they will consciously continue to add more unnecessary things. For example, when a girl went shopping, she might first look at a beautiful skirt and buy it. At this time, the shopping guide would say that the skirt with those shoes would look better. She saw it and felt that the shopping guide said it made a good reason, so I bought it.

At this time, the shopping guide said again that since I bought shoes and put on this skirt, if it was paired with the hat over there, it would be more perfect. At a glance, she felt that the shopping guide said it really makes sense, so I bought it. Later, she also bought nail polish, cosmetics and earrings, all of which were attracted by a skirt.

There are many such phenomena. For example:

If you buy a high -level desk, you may want to buy a rotating leather chair again, although you have a solid wood chair;

Maybe if you buy ten new bowls, you will buy ten chopsticks, although you only need a bowl without chopsticks;

The emergence of Apple mobile phones, incidentally let the film and the mobile phone case selling the phone case ...

However, must high -level desks, new bowls, and new mobile phones be equipped with rotating leather chairs, new chopsticks, and new mobile phone shells?

This is not the case, but we will always have the psychology that must be "matched" due to the pressure of others and our own inertia thinking.

In this case, people have become captives of bird cages, wrapped in bird cages, and continue to add more things related to it but they do not need.

Therefore, we must return to our original intentions, perceive and recognize, and think about whether the desire is pursuing or an anchoring by external factors.

Learn to do subtraction for life to avoid being anchored by the logic of bird cages.

Smart people, understand that they can not be free.

The heart that is not dragged down by excessive material desire is light and free.

As Solo said: "As long as life is simple and wise, maintaining a person's life in the world is not a bit of bitterness, but a pastime."

mutual encouragement.

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