"I have a pair of children, but they are all unmarried." Why don't you want to get married in this younger child?

Aunt Zhang in the community often likes to exercise in the square, and when I get off work, I also like to walk in the square, so Aunt Zhang often talks to me, talks about the shortness of the parents, and share some festive things. Of course, sometimes I will complain.

On this day, Aunt Zhang talked about her children again.

Aunt Zhang has two children, one son, and one daughter. It can be said that "dragon and phoenix are in a vast, children's doubles". In my consciousness, this family structure is the most ideal, and this structure is also the most envious of many parents. family.

Indeed, when Aunt Zhang talked about her children a few years ago, she was all proud:

The son is working hard in the nearby big city. Although there is no house, he works well. He can have a small income of 10,000 per month, and does not include various subsidies and benefits. This level of income is a very enviable income in a place with more than 4,000 per capita.

My daughter likes to study. After finishing her undergraduate entrance examination, after graduation, she is examined and examined.

However, her daughter is not the kind of nerd, but very sunny, and she also treats Aunt Zhang as her girlfriend, which makes Aunt Zhang very pleased.

However, after recently, Aunt Zhang mentioned his two children, he always sighed.

My son is now 35 years old. Under normal circumstances, people of this age should already have a career, family, and children?

However, so far, Aunt Zhang's son does not even have a girlfriend. According to my son: "It's still early, and I am also in the rising period of career. At this time, if you get married, it will affect your work."

If Aunt Zhang was anxious, my son would still say, "I haven't saved any money yet. At this time, I will have a lot of economic pressure when I get married. Aunt is not easy to force the child to get married.

And Aunt Zhang's daughter is also 30 years old. According to common sense, she should also get married. However, the daughter, like her son, did not get married, but it was urgent to break the aunt Zhang.

You know, the son is barely acceptable to get married late, but the daughter is different. After the daughter is married, the daughter should shoulder the heavy responsibility of having a child.

Now that her daughter has passed the best age, in a few years, if they are more than 35 years old, they will have the best age of childbearing. At that time, regenerating children had a great impact on women or children.

Because I am more than 35 years old and then pregnant, it is an elderly pregnant woman. Whether it is pregnant or a fetus, it is dangerous, and the unhealthy chance of the fetus will be greatly increased.

Therefore, Aunt Zhang often urged marriage, but her daughter said: "Men can't help", "Living with men is not interesting".

To put it plainly, because of the two previous relationships, the daughter hoped to think that she could go to marriage. As a result, she was dispersed twice. Once it was a boyfriend's problem, once it was a problem with her boyfriend's family, so that her daughter lost her hope for marriage completely. Become unmarried.

"I have a pair of children who live alone and not married alone. This is to cut off my blood!" This is the words that Aunt Zhang cried to me.

In fact, the situation like Aunt Zhang's son and daughter is not uncommon in society. With the continuous changes of the times, "older leftover men" and "older women" are becoming more and more common in life.

So, what is the reason that the young children do not want to get married now?

● "Wedding Selection right" changed

A long time ago, in fact, in fact, the "marriage options" in most parts of my country were in the hands of parents. Everyone pursued "parents' life, media words".

Young people basically do not have a free marriage option. When do you get married, whoever gets married, where to get married, etc., they are all listening to their parents.

Therefore, at that time, young people were relatively easy to get married, because this was a arrangement from their parents, just like the parents called their children to eat and sleep, and young people married their parents' arrangements early.

But now it is different. The degree of freedom of marriage now is very high. Basically, all regions can no longer see the situation of "running marriage". The willingness to get married is completely in the hands of young people. Young people with lack of fertility have ignored the problem of becoming a family, and then ignored the marriage.

● Economic philosophy differentiation

Many young people think that the current economic pressure is very stressful. In fact, this pressure stems from a problem of economic concepts. Young people want to get better living capital in this prosperous society, so they feel that life pressure is high.

It can only be said that eating bran pharyngeal dishes is one day, and big fish and meat are also one day. In order to pursue higher quality of life, better social communication, young people have to go further from their dreams. They have to force themselves to bear huge economic pressure Essence This is an unacceptable marriage without economic foundation.

In the past, people generally "food and clothing is not guaranteed" just to survive, so there is basically no economic pressure. Marriage is what should be on the road of life. After that, one more person helps himself to do things, which can make the entire family better and better.

● Self -awareness is stronger

People’s sense of freedom gradually becomes stronger with the development of the times. Many young people start to pay more attention to their subjective feelings. Young people are no longer restrained by "no marriage, no family and filial piety".Different life concepts plan your life.Therefore, the "late marriage", "Dink clan", "singleism advocate", "unmarried clan", etc., gradually become more and more common.

In fact, objectively, parents do not need to force their children in the matter of marriage and not marrying their children. They only need to allow children to have the correct values, outlook on life, and world outlook.When you get married, you need to get married or not to get married. You must just do it according to the child's wishes. Each generation has the living method of each generation. Parents do not have to be too tangled.

What do you think of marriage?

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