Life is a plus, subtraction, multiplication and removal

I saw a question on the Internet: "When did you start to decide to change yourself?"

Some people say, "When I became the one I hated the most."

Many times, we are always wrapped in various things, and some people choose to escape and want the world to adapt to ourselves; while some people are willing to change ourselves to cope with the torrent of life.

If you change yourself, you must learn the addition, subtraction and multiplication in life.

Learn to these "computational laws", your life will become better and better.

There is a sentence in "The Road where few people go": "The so -called self -discipline is to solve the important principles of life pain with a positive and proactive attitude."

Many pains in life are not natural disasters that cannot be struggled, but small obstacles that can be solved or can change.

When you actively solve the problem, the pain will become a small sand in the pearl mussels. One day, it will be dazzling.

Before, I saw a young mother known as "the most fighting".

After she gave birth to a child, she had a shape, her skin was poor, and her work felt uncomfortable.

The child tossed from morning to night, and he wanted to sleep peacefully, not to mention that the husband and family did not understand her.

She felt that life was gradually beyond recognition and was not controlled, so she resolutely changed.

In the first year, she lost 30 pounds and successfully admitted to graduate students at Peking University.

In the second year, she read 100 books, insisted on running 1,000 kilometers, completed a marathon, and took three job -related qualification certificates.

In the third year, she began to learn to do nutrition recipes, the child became no longer picky eaters, and the complexion of her family gradually became better.

All this change stems from her strong desire to change her. In order to make herself better, she has formulated a strict plan for herself.

She gets up at 5:30 every day, does 1 hour of questions, breakfast at 6:30, and goes out at 8 o'clock; run at least 3 times a week, read two books, and take a good reading notes; Plan next month.

With a detailed plan and her strong execution, she continued to cultivate herself and improve herself. In the end, she operated her work and family.

Life is like this. If you want to grow and mature, you must learn to add addition to yourself.

If you want a healthy physique, keep exercise and not to be abandoned halfway; if you want to improve your education, you will double your efforts and persevere.

Real self -discipline is not to suppress your desire, but to have a greater desire in your heart, and then, for this desire, you can go all the way and move forward.

There is a saying good: "If you don't accumulate, there is no thousand miles;

The long -term self -discipline is the growing self, and the bright achievements.

The former colleague of the writer Qing Ge wants to get more friends and accumulate contacts for his work.

As a result, he often actively participated in some offline gatherings of HR big V and devoted most of his energy to social.

But he was lighter, and he couldn't talk at all in those gatherings, and he could only laughed with embarrassment in the sound of humans.

After a year, he seemed to have accumulated a lot of connections, added a lot of senior executive WeChat, and often praised other people's friends.

But his dynamics, the big coffees never looked at it, let alone praise from the exchanges.

Once he wanted to change jobs, he sent his resume to several HR via WeChat.

He was very distressed, and he had accumulated a lot of connections, but why was it so unsatisfactory.

In fact, connections are not pursuing, but attracted.

"Pickup Story" says:

"The smarter people spend less time in social, because he knows that connections are not on others, but hidden on himself."

The invalid interpersonal communication will not only waste our time and life, but also delay our growth and precipitation.

Don't improve your core ability, even if you are in front of you, you can't grasp it.

It takes a little time to give others and spend more time for yourself to become the master of life.

Reducing unnecessary social networking is the beginning of a person's success.

Chen Yanran, a writer of the late Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China, said: "Those who do not conspire for all generations are not enough; those who do not seek the overall situation will not be able to seek a domain."

Some people always only see the gains and losses in front of them, and do not know how to think about the future; some people have long -term eyes and know how to plan ahead and plan for future development.

In the TV series "Chasing Love Family", Xiao Nan, played by Tan Zhuo, runs a car beauty company. She did things fiercely, and she was uncomfortable.

Once, the son saw the car washing in the store and didn't understand it, so he asked Xiao Nan curiously:

"You need to wash your car for one hundred and fifteen times and one thousand times. Isn't that a loss?"

Xiao Nan smiled and asked his son, "Wash the car once, although it is one hundred and five, but after he washed it once, would he come again next time?"

The son shook his head in doubt and said, "Not necessarily."

Xiao Nan answered affirmatively: "Not necessarily right, but if he charges the money to get a card, he can wash it fifteen times. Will he come to our store fifteen times? In fact, make more earnings.

To do business, like being a man, you must look far away, you must not just look at the interests in front of you. "

It is because of this long -term vision that Xiao Nan's career is better and better. It didn't take long for the second store. Excellent people, regardless of their losses, know how to consider the problems from a long -term perspective, and stand from a higher perspective to solve the problem.

"Sun Tzu's Art of War" said: "The mediocre is the matter, the wise is planning."

Life is like a chess game, masters always take one step, watch ten steps, plan the overall situation, naturally look high and walk far.

If you always stare at the small profits in front of you, settle in the status quo, it is tantamount to breaking the vitality.

Only when you are not trapped in the heart of the square, can you do more with less.

Some netizens know that they failed to promote the promotion of work two years ago and were deeply hit.

Afterwards, he often reflected the reason for his failure, but was puzzled, so he determined that he had been treated unfairly.

In the next day, the more he thought about it, the more and more frustration.

Later, I often couldn't eat it, I couldn't sleep, and the whole person was sluggish.

Once, the 4 -year -old son saw him sitting and worrying again, and pulled him and asked, "Dad, can you help me make a boat?"

Looking at his expectant son, he had to barely agree.

In order to make that ship, he spent half a day, drawing a model, and finding materials.

When he handed the ship to his son and saw his son cheering, he remembered that he had forgotten what to worry about in the past half a day.

Since then, he has been looking for things everywhere at home, and has listed himself a list of task.

As he did more and more things, he never remembered those troublesome things, and people slowly recovered vitality and health.

Psychologist Alfred once said:

"Our troubles and pains are not because of things itself, but because of the concepts we add on these things."

When some people encounter problems and think too much, they will fall into the trap that they inadvertently set, and they will disturb themselves.

Rather than tangled the status quo that cannot be changed, it is better to learn to forget.

"If you don't forget a lot, you can't continue your life if you don't forget a lot."

Forgetting annoyance can do meaningful things; forget people who are upset to love people who are more worthy.

For the rest of your life, you must learn to lose your baggage and forget the worry, so you can move forward lightly and live easily.

"The so -called life is constantly changing for a moment."

There are various changes in life, and people caught off guard. Only random response can get everything they want.

As long as you can use the method of self -discipline, the social interaction with the subtraction, and the use of the multiplication bureau, and to forget the worries, your life will go further.

Inamori said: "Life is not a feast of material, but a spiritual cultivation."

If you continue to cultivate yourself in your life, you can move from ordinary to extraordinary.

For the rest of your life, I hope you do a good job of life and subtraction and multiplication, and live transparently.

Author | Yan Shuzhi, as a star, with angular and horns, and also glowing.

Picture | Visual China

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