"Do you still want to marry a divorced woman?" The two men said a lot!

Holding hands is a lifetime marriage, which is the longing in everyone's heart.

However, yearning is always beautiful, but reality is inevitable.

Too many people entered the marriage with their longing for happiness, and in a hurry to end the marriage in the disappointment again and again.

Divorce is just a choice, and there is no right or wrong.

But there are always people who are full of prejudice and discrimination against the divorced woman.

And those women who choose to divorce often become inferior and think they are no longer worthy of being loved.

Is this really the case? Let's see it together ~

The host He Yan said in a variety show:

Few people say that the man is very successful, but he has divorced; but some people say that the woman is very successful, but she divorces.

I don't know why, we have a high degree of tolerance for the divorced men, but we are full of maliciousness to the divorced women.

No matter how good you are, how gentle and kind, you can't reach that: "But, she is divorced."

Because, in the inherent cognition of some people:

The divorced woman is depreciated and second -hand goods; the marriage man marries a second marriage woman and has no face; no man is willing to marry a second marriage woman ...

Remember that street interview?

Some host asked passers -by:

"Who are you willing to marry at the age of 27, and a woman who is not married at the age of 35?"

One of the men chose 35 -year -old unmarried woman, the reason is:

"I bought a second -hand second -hand housing, should I still pick up a 27 -year -old divorce second -hand goods?"

The host asked him: "Why can't people be used?"

His answer was: "Just like my car is often bad, the engine often rang, and it is difficult for me to drive."

Some passers -by said: "I am still divorced at the age of 27, wouldn't I be a cheap dad? I don't want to be a dad so fast."

You see, some people's prejudice and discrimination on divorced women are so ingrained.

In their thoughts, the divorced woman is worthless and worthless.

It's not just them, to the family of some divorced women:

Divorce is a very shameful thing; if you have divorced, it is no longer expensive; you have already married once, don't pick it up ...

These remarks from the outside world are full of ears, reminding us over and over again: the divorced woman will depreciate.

But I still can't help but want to say:

A divorced woman represented only a marriage.

But this marriage is already past.

Why do you take the past experience to degrade the present of a woman?

What's more, a woman, whether she is married or not, is a living person, rather than a quantified item.

Everyone has the right to choose to start or end a marriage.

Divorce is just a choice, and it should not be a reason to degrade women.

"29 years old, divorced, bring a child, and be qualified to pursue happiness?"

Readers in the background asked.

She said that she divorced the year before, and the reason for the divorce was that her ex -husband was derailed and domestic violence her and her daughter.

She didn't want to bear it anymore, and took her daughter to choose to divorce.

After the divorce, she temporarily fostered her daughter in her grandmother's house, and she went to work in a big city.

During working, a boy of the same age has been chasing her, but she dare not accept this love.

Although the failure of the previous marriage was a problem with her ex -husband, she was the hurdle in her heart.

She felt that she had married once and couldn't match others.

Even if the other party doesn't mind and is willing to be with her, she still has a child, and the other party's family will definitely oppose it.

Therefore, before she tried, she rejected the other party directly.

In her heart, there is a deep sense of inferiority, thinking that she is not worth it, not worthy of pursuing happiness.

She said, I might have been like this for a lifetime, and a person is lonely.

After hearing a sentence: "After being hurt, we can still believe in love. This is a courage."

But not everyone can have the courage to re -come back, especially after experiencing a failure marriage.

They will degrade themselves, watch themselves too much, and think that they have lost their prices, and they are not worthy of being loved.

But in fact, this is not the case.

Each of us is qualified to pursue happiness, whether it is married, unmarried, or divorced.

A failed marriage is never the end of happiness.

Divorce will not allow a woman to drop the price, let alone deprive her of the right to pursue happiness.

Women who are married can also have happiness. The premise is:

You didn't look at yourself.

You know, getting married for happiness, as well as divorce.

We all have the courage to choose to divorce. Why don't we have the courage to say goodbye to embrace new feelings and new life.

Life is very long. Don't let your marriage fail and trap you for the rest of your life.

Don't degrade yourself, don't look at yourself, you are the master of your marriage.

Your happiness will rely on you to fulfill it after all.

According to the "Civil Affairs Statistics of 2021" published by the Ministry of Civil Affairs, a total of 2.139 million couples completed a divorce registration last year.

Although this data has declined compared to 2020, divorce has become a normal state in the current marriage.

Marriage, such as people drinking water, knows cold and cold.

When a marriage brings us only pain and suffering, the choice of divorce is also a kind of liberation.

Some people say that divorce is not terrible. What is terrible is that you lose yourself and give up yourself. In the eyes of some people, the divorced woman is depreciated and the price is dropped.

But please believe:

Those who can define women's value are never marriage, but yourself.

A good woman will not lose its core value because of a failed marriage.

Instead, in a scarred marriage, she may lose or even suspect her value.

Therefore, instead of letting others judge our value, we must work hard to define our own value.

Either divorce or getting married. The best way for a woman to live is to live.

Live your own value and live your life.

The following 4 sentences, share with you every one who works hard:

1. Marriage is not the purpose of life, happiness is.

We chose to step into a marriage for happiness.

If the marriage is not happy, choosing a divorce is just to give yourself a chance to find happiness.

Divorce only represents the failure of the previous marriage, not the failure of the entire life.

2. The opinions of others are always just reference.

There is no standard answer in life, and the opinions of others can only be used as a reference.

And you are the decision to your own life.

Perhaps we cannot avoid external discussions and cannot block the prejudice of others, but at least don't look at ourselves.

As long as you don't look at yourself, happiness will not look light.

3. Do not depend on anyone, rely on yourself to have confidence.

Marriage is only part of life, and we can also develop the infinite possibilities of life.

Do not depend on each other and work hard to live the best self. Even if the marriage fails, you have the ability and confidence to take care of your own.

Live for ourselves, not for others, is our attitude.

4. Put down the past and maintain the ability of love and the courage to live.

Divorce is not your fault, don't have too much psychological burden.

Let go of the past, leave your heart to the more worthwhile people.

Those who really love you will tolerate your past.

But before that, you have to maintain your ability to love and the courage to live.

See such a conversation online:

Why do you get married? Because I have love inside, I want to share this love to the person who is worthy. Why did you divorce? Because I love myself, I want to live a better life. Why do you remarry? Because I met love, I wanted to become a better self in the new relationship.

Each of us is free, you can choose to get married, divorce, or remarry.

Don't care too much about others, and don't derogate yourself too much. As long as you think, if you want, then live your life according to your own wishes.

Divorce is just a kind of past. You still have infinite possibilities in your life. Don't set your own limits and be bound by the past, and you dare not chase happiness.

On the way again, you can still bravely love and live.

Light at the end of the text [watching], I hope you can love, be able to love people, live up to life, and live up to gentle self.

Author | Sister Jiali, reluctant to love and freedom in life.

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