Sleeping is the best standard for testing marriage

There is a praise on the Internet: "Witness of marriage is not a ring, but a bed."

Indeed, in the world of adults, there are different things during the day. The closest time of the day is to sleep on the same bed.

How can a person love you, how can you sleep with you.

The attitude of sleeping between husband and wife reflects the temperature of marriage.

Just like the American drama "Desire City", the classic line:

"How do we behave on bed, it means how our lives live."

Is marriage good? Seeing on the bed, sleeping is the best criterion for testing marriage.

Emotional consultant Xin Yu, shared such a case.

A reader named@小 一 left a message in the background, saying that the last thing she regretted was to sleep with her husband.

At first, the two were because of the quarrel.

Xiaoyun, who was on his head, saw that his husband was not pleasing to the eye, and felt that sleeping together was a kind of torment.

So he drove her husband to the guest room.

Later, the anger disappeared, but Xiaoyun began to dislike her husband's snoring again, which would affect her rest and refuse her husband.

At first, they had also argued for this. The husband also proposed to come back from time to time, but Xiaoyun never let go.

After a long time, my husband seemed to get used to the life in the guest room, and never mentioned what was going back to live.

The words of the two people became less and less. When they went home, they entered each house, and there were no other intersections.

Xiaoyun noticed that he was wrong and took the initiative to ask her husband to move back.

But don't want to, her husband directly proposed to her, saying that she had no feelings for her.

In life, the situation like Xiaoyun husband and wife is actually not a small number.

Some punish each other for a moment, some are to improve the quality of sleep, and because after having a child, the couple naturally divide the room.

Seemingly irrelevant pain, can be separated from the beginning of the relationship between husband and wife.

With the burden of life, who does not have their own busy during the day, the time when the two can get along, that is, the short bedtime time.

Sleeping in a house, there is less chance of improving feelings.

With separation, feelings faded; far away, the days are scattered.

As the saying goes: "How can the husband and wife have overnight revenge, the bedside quarrels at the end of the bed."

But if there is a few intimate communication, why is it an opportunity to come to the end of the bed?

A study at Hedford County University in the United Kingdom showed:

Husbands and wives who snuggle and sleep each other think that marriage is happy and happy;

The husband and wife who are far away from sleeping during sleep accounted for only 68%of marriage.

The body is the most honest, and the relationship between husband and wife with intimate limbs is usually better; not disturbing each other, and the couple will become neighbors sooner or later.

The old saying often said: "For a century, you can do the same as the ship, and you have to sleep together for thousands of times."

Mo Wei is a small matter. If you want to go through the two people who have passed together, the bumpy suffering on the road of marriage is more than that?

When there is a problem, the company will always be better than the other party.

In recent years, a "new couple" has emerged:

They slept on the same bed, but there was nothing to say.

Even if you speak, you just talk about things and don't talk about feelings.

Most of the time, the two people played each other to play with each mobile phone. They were tired. As soon as the mobile phone was released, the lights were off, they slept their own consciousness.

Obviously close at hand, but the heart has long been separated by 100,000 miles;

Obviously in the same space, it is not on the same channel, but it is just doing something, and it is difficult to perceive the emotions of the other party.

In the variety show "Mediation Face", such a couple have come to such a couple.

Ms. Wu said that the day she gave birth to a big son, her husband just went to the birthday party of an old classmate.

She felt painful and called her husband back.

The husband said that she didn't give birth last time, and this time it should be fine. It was just a late drag back.

When I got home, I was very confused, so I fell asleep.

In the middle of the night, the wife hurt again, but she couldn't wake her husband when she shouted.

In this way, the pain lasted for more than two hours, and the husband finally woke up until the child's head came out.

The host dared not to ask Ms. Wu: "Do you have a big movement at that time? Didn't shout pain?"

She replied helplessly: "I can also bear it, for fear of affecting the neighbors next door, so I dare not yell."

A group of mentors present accused her husband of losing:

Facing the wife who is about to be facing, not only did he not accompany him; even if he slept beside him, he could not share it for his wife.

Drunk is just an excuse. It is clear that the heart is not on the pillow.

Therefore, when the other half is torment in the deep water, he can still sleep smoothly.

Thinking of the TV series "I Will Looking back", his wife Jing Ya insisted on divorcing, and her husband Bai Zhiyong was puzzled and thought that he had not done something extraordinary.

After repeated questions, the wife said the reason:

"I have any distress during the day, I can't sleep at night, have you asked once?

I hurt my heart, and my body hurts. Have you understood it?

I am really depressed, your indifference, forcing me not to want this family anymore. "

A few words poked the pain of countless people.

The far away in the world is not all the heavens, but we are lying on the same bed, but we have nothing to say.

You don't care about my mood, I don't care about your emotions, my body is close, but I don't know where to go.

Psychological research shows that ten minutes before going to bed is the golden time that enters a person's heart. Good days are all coming out, and a happy marriage is sleeping.

On Douyin, a blogger named@and Dadbi shared such a video.

At 11:45 pm, after she and her husband coaxed the baby to sleep, the couple got up and opened their busy time.

Although her husband was yawned, he watched her up and immediately got up.

The two packed the table together, her husband rushed to take the apron in her hand, and said, "You rest, let me come."

When she saw her husband, she had to move to the bathroom to wash clothes; her husband continued to clean up the kitchen with a light car.

She said that after getting married, her husband almost took over most of the housework. Except for not helping her to have children, everything was shared with her.

After the two people finished cooking, they returned to the bed and hugged each other.

Very simple life picture, but received praise and praise from millions of netizens.

The happiest marriage is probably that: sleep with the couch, not only the body, but also each other's heart.

How many husbands and wives have a bed after a child. It is convenient for the name. After a long time, all the burdens have been thrown to one of them.

But marriage is never a matter of one person, and happiness depends on two people to support them together.

The so -called partner is not only to be together, but also to bear the trivial life of life and concentric to the storm of time.

Ordinary people are looking forward to romance, but so.

Understand your sadness and joy, knowing you warm and warm, and when you wake up at night, ask you a sentence, "What's wrong" instead of sleeping without knowing it; you will give you a little warmth when you are alone.

Like the sentence in Zhang Xiaoxian:

"I just want someone to know that when I say it's okay, I know that I am not really okay; I can have a person, when I laughed, I know that I am not really happy."

There are tens of millions of marriage in this world, and every family is different.

Some people are used to sleeping on their own, and some people are used to embracing each other.

There is no absolute good or bad, but those sleeping time determines the quality of marriage.

If you also want to keep marriage better, try the following three methods:

1. Say "nonsense" before going to bed.

Studies have shown that before the husband and wife, before going to bed, may recall the past, look forward to the future, or talk a few more words, can help enhance the relationship between husband and wife and promote the stability of marriage.

Either the trivial matter of life or the mood at this moment, talk to your partner before going to bed.

The marriage that is often shared and has something to say can be disappeared for a long time.

2. I often hug each other.

Studies at the University of California found that people's hugs can stimulate the secretion of posterior pituitary hormones in the brain.

This hormone can relieve suppression and delay aging. Women will be more beautiful, and men will be full of energy.

Those love words that can't be opened, and the love that is ashamed to enlighten teeth turned into a hug to touch each other; in intimate contact, the husband and wife's feelings are longer.

3. Don't forget to care even if you are not together.

Actor Xie Nan has shared a story.

On one occasion, because of her work, her mood was a bit low. After returning home, she sent a message to Wu Jing and said "ready to sleep."

Unexpectedly, Wu Jing immediately hit it and said that he was afraid that his wife would say something now, but no one listened.

We may have worked hard for our lives, and we will be separated from their partners for the time being.

But no matter how far apart, don't forget to care about each other, say good night before going to bed, or simply report to peace, is the most affectionate romance between husband and wife.

Click [watching], I hope you and I can find a good companion among these red dust.

Cherish the time on those beds, and don't have to cherish the most cherished partner for mobile phones or unrelated things.

Author | Su Yan, want to cure the desolation in your heart in words.

Picture | Visual China

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