The best way to grow -form an intimate relationship with others

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In the book "Curiosity", many psychologists have found that curiosity, novelty and uncertainty will answer these questions for us:

Why do we need to be in interpersonal relationships?

Why do we get close to some people and alienate from others?

How do we make the conversation more pleasant?

Why does interpersonal relationship decline over time?

How does our passion extend over time?

You can't wait to repair them after the problem appears, but to learn to add positive energy for time to get along with others, add interest and significance. If you can use these methods, you can bring huge returns to your life and the person you care about.

Happy people can laugh and hug with strangers when they encounter unlucky things. If they want to say that they are different from others, they are very different from their interpersonal relationships: happy people have satisfactory and satisfactory and are satisfied and Meaningful interpersonal relationship.

Robert Bisvas Dina studied happiness. He interviewed a tramp in Fresano, California, and the poor in the slums in Callaria, India. Although Fresano's tramps have more food, asylum and free medical care, the people answered by Kolkata feel happier.

why is that?

Robert pointed out that happiness is not all the contents of happiness in life. He concluded: "The poor people answered in Kolkata did not have an enviable life, but they lived a meaningful life."

Specifically, the poor people answered in Kolkata have closer social bonds, and they often come into contact with family members, which can make them more effectively overcome the poor and degeneration.

The close social relationship provides them with meaning and happiness, so that they are still protected among various difficulties and will not be harmed. It is like a tornado. Although violent, the center of the center is extremely calm and safe.

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Tight social relations can create meaning and happiness. Our daily interaction with others is also very important because they are the basic materials for creating good interpersonal relationships.

When we feel rejected or hurt by others, this often brings serious and lasting pain; and if it feels accepted or caring by others, it will bring us great comfort.

The best way for self -expansion and growth may be to form intimate interpersonal relationships with others.

When two people just fell in love, they would feel the ecstasy brought by love. We are full of curiosity and eager to know more about each other. This is very important, because driven by these desires, we can develop meaningful interpersonal relationships by "making the other party into ourselves".

The usual approach is to spend some time to get along with each other or share each other's experience. We will show our current and past to each other. We will maintain an openness and respect for the differences between the two parties, and we will also notice the same views and interests of each other.

Through these exchanges, we can get the knowledge, insights, ability, and life wealth that the other party accumulated in their lives (of course, the other party can also have the same gain). This is a stage of rapid expansion of self, because the two sides will take turns to share their lives and absorb the other party into their own sense of self.

The self -expansion through intimacy is like saving the money into a common bank account. Both parties can use the deposit in the account, but the communication in the intimacy is far beyond the tangible assets.

Of course, we can share the other party's material property (can use the other party's items), but we can also share the other party's knowledge and wisdom (can use the other party's brain power) and social relationships (can recognize and trust the other party's knowledge).

When we are in this relationship, we can not only strengthen the intimacy with our partners, but also strengthen their connection with them. At the same time, their quality has also become part of us.

If my partner likes fishing and we often take a boat to fish together, I can increase the understanding of the weather and water, and it will also increase the tips for fishing, and there are new topics that chat with others. The world of my partner is intertwined with my life, as if I can weave a beautiful tapestry.

This explains why when someone accuses our friends, family members and lover, we will defend them; on the contrary, when they are praised, we will also be proud. We will think that the accusations or praise of others are targeted at the two of us.

This also explains why people use the term "division" to describe the end of a relationship. Because after the relationship was over, the two parties had previously brought material property, knowledge, insights, philosophy, values, friends, and unique views on the world.

Everyone will expand themselves in love, and after love, the overall formed by them will be separated.

We see again and again that in good love or other intimate relationships, both of them recognize each other's value. They continue to share, observe, respect, and integrate, and accept or change each other according to different situations.

Overall, if the interpersonal relationship we live can provide enough opportunities to expand ourselves, we will feel closer to each other, and we are more satisfied with this relationship.

Why embrace uncertainty?How to achieve breakthroughs on career and life?How to stimulate a greater sense of happiness in life and career?How to keep love and go to success?Aren't you curious?"Curiosity" blends a well -known psychologist's positive psychological theory and inspirational stories, which will change your way of treating new opportunities.When you are hesitant, you can't get the courage to continue to explore your life, just open this book to read it!

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