Be careful of the person who persuades you to divorce

Some time ago, a few friends ate together, and we kept talking and smiled, but Sister Jing was not high.

After we repeatedly asked, Sister Jing said the truth:

"I feel that the marriage is getting more and more powerful, and the daily mechanical life has no passion;

We seem to have nothing else to say except talking about children now;

Yesterday, I was arguing because of the child's education problem. I really don't know what the meaning of such a day is. "

Sister Jing's voice just fell, and a friend immediately said:

"Since there is no sense, why is it strong? It's better to be free."

For friends' suggestions, several of us showed unaware eyes at the same time.

It is not the so -called "persuasion and not persuasion", but it is difficult for us to see through the description to see through the joy and sorrow.

What's more, although the marriage seems cumbersome, there will be bumps and bumps, but if you think about it, you don't have a taste.

The quality of a marriage is not a simple sentence, and suddenly a decision can be defined.

When there is a problem with the marriage, there are always people who think that maybe to say goodbye to this marriage, and there will be no more troubles.

It seems that divorce is a shortcut to get rid of the sea of ​​bitterness and rush to happiness. Is this really the case?

A friend Liu Yu sent a dynamic three months after divorce, writing: "Finally divorced, but I was not happy."

Liu Yu regretted that she was angry and left in the impulse.

Because her husband was particularly diligent before marriage, he took everything, and Liu Yu didn't have to do anything, only responsible for enjoying love and warmth.

Therefore, her husband gradually became lazy after marriage. She had to face the trivial of chai oil and salt. Liu Yu was difficult to accept this gap and always grieved her husband's heart.

Once, the couple drank and chatted with friends, drinking the sweetness when they talked about it, and then thought about the sorrow of all kinds of tear today.

Liu Yu blame her husband to change his heart. It was better to be considerate before. Her husband also talked about Liu Yu who did not know how to understand, and could not see his dedication.

The two of them are arguing at a word, and friends who are present are embarrassing.

Liu Yu returned home, the more he felt wronged, and when he was angry, he proposed a divorce. The next day he pulled her husband to go through the formalities.

Divorce lived alone for a while, and Liu Yu gradually discovered that although her husband was not caught after marriage, many things such as hydropower, property, maintenance and other things in the family never worried.

Today, Liu Yu must do it for himself, and often feels hard.

The writer Yamamoto Wenxu said:

Sometimes people are really strange. If you choose, you will regret it, and you will regret it. But perfect can only be an ideal, not a kind of existence.

We often think that since there are too many frictions and sadness in marriage, it is better to be happy from each other.

However, it can be realized that the life after divorce is not as good as imagined.

People are greedy. In marriage, they look forward to a person's freedom, and after divorce, they miss the warmth of two people.

There are no two in life, there are single troubles of single, marriage has the sorrow of marriage.

Two people are combined because of love, not to separate, and do not have to hang the divorce at any time.

I have seen a set of data:

One year after the implementation of the "divorce calm period", the divorce rate in multiple places has declined significantly.

In Chongqing, there were more than 50,000 decisions of the loss and husband and wife in the calm period, and the number of divorce decreased by 44%year -on -year.

Of the couples who sought divorce last year, about 1/4 will really calm down within the "divorce calm period".

Through 30 days of calmness and weighing, many people gave up divorce. Presumably the marriage problem disappeared out of thin air, but found a better way out in calmness.

Netizen@腾 网 网 网 revealed that she almost divorced last year.

Ii husband is a programmer who often works overtime. It was particularly powerful last year and always went home late at night.

Yiyi has to take care of the children and take care of housework, and often get sweaty to wet clothes.

Husband is not easy to rest. Ii hopes that he will accompany the child more, but every time the husband and the child get along for more than half an hour, the child will hear the crying of the child.

Yi Yi couldn't help feeling: "Are you a child's father? Either you don't see anyone all day, or you are a child's enemy."

Yiyi's husband is not good at saying, always laughing at "haha".

After a long time, Yi Yi felt more aggrieved and couldn't help telling her mother to divorce. The mother asked her:

"He has no character and principles. Are you sure divorce is the best solution?

At the same time, can you guarantee the next perfect match with you? "

Ii did not dare to give a positive answer, thinking about it, she decided to talk frankly with her husband.

I do n’t know that my husband was disguised by the company. In order to ensure the quality of life of his family, he could only use the get off work time to take over private work.

Ii asked her husband: "You are so stressful, why don't you tell me?"

Husband replied: "You take your child to do housework, and you don't want to let you worry about these troubles."

The depression in Ii's heart was finally solved. After this communication, her husband also said that he would pay more attention to the children and Ii.

Writer Liu Na said:

"Marriage is not the standard of life, but if you choose this configuration, you will have obligations and responsibility to repair and take care of it. Don't report it early."

There is a problem with marriage. Divorce is not necessarily the optimal solution, and it may just evade.

Life is true, who will be with sorrow, or different living habits, or differences in childcare concepts, or be stunned by life.

Since there is no way to escape, it is better to face it calmly. Give the opportunity to repair the problem, give the contradictions to ease the steps, how sorrowful marriage will not reproduce the past.

A famous psychologist often quarrels with his wife.

One day, the psychologist dragged his tired body and went home from get off work, and found that the house was messy. He couldn't help complaining his wife:

"The home is so messy, you are at home all day today, why didn't you sort it?"

The wife was very unhappy after listening, and said with a righteous word:

"Many things are yours, why don't you organize yourself?"

Both were refused to show weakness, and the more noisy and more noisy.

Suddenly, a psychologist realized that he had a problem with his attitude, so he signaled his wife to stop:

"No, ng, let's come again."

Subsequently, psychologists put on their clothes and picked up the bag and walked straight out of the door.

He re -organized his mood and pushed the door again, and gently said to his wife:

"My dear, I'm back, are you okay?"

The wife did not repeat the old account and said with a smile: "I'm so good, how can you today?"

The two smiled at each other, and the previous contradictions disappeared instantly.

Many times, the feathers of marriage are not right because of the way to open. From a perspective and mentality, they will harvest different endings.

When the actor Hu Ke and Sha Yi were just married, Sha Yi's face was often water on the washstand.

Every time Hu Ke was angry, she repeatedly said that Sha Yi has not changed many times.

Later, Hu Ke stopped saying that after washing her face, she silently wiped the water with a towel.

Seeing that Hu Ke was for his goodness, he was particularly moved in his heart. Not only did he slowly change the minor problems, but he was more tolerant of Hu Ke's willfulness.

The TV series "Business Marriage" said:

"Life is a circle game that constantly occurs and solve problems."

There is a contradiction between marriage life. The terrible wisdom and emotional intelligence without resolution.

Marriage is a comprehensive game. If you do n’t operate well, it is the grave of love. It is a warm harbor.

In this world, no one's marriage is a warm sun. Two strangers come together, and contradictions are inevitable.

It is necessary to maintain it with your heart, and to make sadness into joy, so that life can be trivial into daily life.

I really like such a paragraph:

"For women, a happy marriage is not given by a man. Finding a good man is just the foundation.

Happiness is a feeling. Whether a woman's marriage is happy depends more on yourself. "

Those who can't swim, it is useless to change the pool more, you can't live a good life, no matter how good your partner is.

There is a woman in the world, no matter who marries to anyone, it will be happy.

Because of the strong and calm heart, even if there are a little grievance and friction, they will not cry easily.

Because they are good at discovering beauty, even after experiencing storms and changes, they can still live in picturesque.

Marriage is like a play, relying on acting skills. Only by performing dedication, Fang has a beautiful ending.

Light [Look at], I hope that all the combinations are only happy and free, and you may cherish your marriage and cherish yourself.

Author | Li Kemo, a personal public account, girl.

Picture | Visual China

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