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Is there such friends in your WeChat?

Rarely contacted, every time the message is sent, either please like or help.

Or in a certain social occasion, if you add friends from the guest, you will never contact them in private.

Or, there is no friendship, but he is familiar with you and the relationship is close to you, taking the opportunity to mention some requirements that make you embarrassed.

I do n’t know when, there are more and more friends in our WeChat. It seems that the circle is big, but there are very few people who are really knowledgeable.

When I was young, I always saw friends very important;

When I grew up, I realized that not everyone was worthy of deepening.

The old saying is good:

Tens of thousands of stubbornness, only two or three branches.

Friends are not much, just be sincere; the circle is not afraid of being small, and comfort is most important.

I have seen a heartwarming news:

A kid in Weinan, Shaanxi had a sudden illness and entered the intensive care unit.

His 9 friends had a treatment fee of 500,000 yuan within an hour.

According to Mr. Du present, he sent his brother to the hospital that day and happened to meet the scene.

It didn't take long for the young man to enter the ICU, and he heard the person who sent him call, saying that he had to do dialysis or something, and asked everyone to help some money.

Soon, several other friends arrived one after another, and they were very ordinary. They looked only in their twenties, but everyone brought money.

In the comment area, netizens praised them, saying that in this life, I can make such a few friends in my life, it is really worth it!

Indeed, there is a fate at home, and the monarch is like a brother.

Real friends, it is not that when you look at the scenery, who is surrounded by you, but when you look at you, who wants to help you help you.

A short film "There are a few contacts in your mobile phone", the film side invited 5 men and asked them three questions: they asked them: three questions:

First, how many friends are there in the mobile phone? Second, how many people can be deleted if you don't need to consider work and entertainment? Third, except for family members, how much can you say that you can speak?

Don't want to, their answers are a little similar.

There are almost hundreds of friends in everyone WeChat, but a large part of it is just like "lying corpse". It can really speak a few words in the heart, even at all.

In life, have you also had a feeling of acquaintance:

There are many people in the WeChat friends list, but most of them are just like.

It took a lot of time to entertain WeChat, and treating the circle of friends as the leading events. The praise comments are very positive.

But when you are truly lonely and helpless, even when you just want to say your heart, you have flipped through the communication theory, but it is difficult to find someone who can talk about.

The writer Su Cen said:

"Don't invite too many people into life. If they can't enter your heart, they will only make life crowded."

Friends are not expensive.

A netizen named@一 一 一 shared a period of experience.

A few years ago, he joined a new company to integrate as soon as possible, but he would actively participate in any event.

Including the new customers, he also had a meal if he had something to do.

During that time, he had at least 3 meals a week, and he had eaten at 11 o'clock every time, and sometimes even a supper.

Although he did not pay for it again, his life was long, and his wallet was inevitable.

For this reason, his wife did not quarrel with him, and accused him of ignoring his family, but he felt that many friends would have multiple ways.

Until one time, he had a leaking order, and the company wanted to downgrade him.

He immediately found friends who usually eat and drink together, hoping that they can say something for themselves and reduce the punishment.

But I do n’t want to, what I get is to push the word: either saying that I ca n’t say anything about it, or I ’m playing with haha.

Finally, the punishment fell on his head.

And he was found "three highs" and gout because of frequent meal wine bureaus.

After that, he reduced the entertainment, unless there was a matter of right and wrong, he could push it.

Slowly, not only the body has come over, and more thoughts on work and family members, the career and family are more smooth.

In "Social Psychology and Personality Research", a long -term follow -up survey shows:

Excessive frequent social activities are not good for health, and may even lead to higher pressure levels and higher mortality.

The older the age, the more you understand the relationship.

Spending time and money, you may not be able to harvest sincerity; when you talk about it on weekdays, it may not be true feelings.

It is difficult to get in exchange for your two ribs; excessive social interaction will be destined to consume yourself.

Jia Pingwa wrote in "Self -Self -Solo": It is actually a good thing to go with friends.

Life half -slopes really don't need to see everyone too heavy.

Filter those who have an optional relationship in order to leave time and energy to more worthy people.

After seeing Jackie Chan's earlier interview, he admitted that because he made a friend's personality, he made many friends in recent years.

As long as a friend takes care, no matter which corner of the world, he can immediately find others to take a look.

But when it comes to these, he didn't have much pride on his face, but his face was fatigue.

The host asked him immediately, would he feel tired? Do you also long for others to take care of? He replied that of course he was very tired. He always seemed to be listening to others to talk to others, helping friends to solve all kinds of problems, but those who could take care of him were gone.

It is said that friends have more ways to go, but there is no way, and there is no need to maintain it.

How limited the energy of a person, the larger the circle, the more complicated the human relationship, the higher the cost of maintenance.

If you can't choose, you will only make yourself hurt, and even ignore those who really treat you.

There is a scene impressive in the variety show "Wife's Romantic Travel".

Qin Hailu asked Liu Tao, why did she have only two girlfriends and agents?

Liu Tao blurted out and answered: How can I have time to everyone.

Only words, but the true meaning of the relationship between adults.

With the years of years, the age is getting older, maybe many people will feel that the friends around them are gradually decreasing, and the circle is no longer as hustle and bustle.

But those who stayed became more and more important.

Time is like a filter, which will eliminate false feelings, and will also leave true feelings.

In the second half of life, the fewer friends, the less troubles in interpersonal relationships; the circle is small, and the days can get better.

I really like Cai Kangyong's sentence:

Never put friendship on an incredible height. Some friends brought people who give them good things at a stage to enjoy each other without binding each other.

The older the age, the more you need to learn to be discrete, and the discrete between people.

Don't take too many people, please go into your life and appropriately do the subject to life.

Different frequency circles, don't squeeze hard;

Don't worry about the relationship, no need to maintain;

Anyone who makes you work hard will leave early.

Light [Look at], I hope you will spend the rest of your life, streamline socialization, leave time and energy to more important things, long roads, and only walk with those who nourish you.

Author | Su Yan, want to cure the desolation in your heart in words.

Picture | Visual China

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