A family, the best way to deal with things in trouble

Author: Hard See Muye

There is nothing wrong with family, only harmony.

As the saying goes, home and everything are happy.

The peacefulness of society, small to personal happiness, and prosperous career depends on the foundation of a harmonious family.

A good family is created by members to make it a warm harbor in the dust and exhausted dust.

Mr. Yang Yan said: "Most of the tragedies of Chinese families are derived from the mode of getting along with each other."

Therefore, the way of dealing with things determines the happiness of a family.

01

Dama, discuss

There is such a plot in the variety show "Hello Life".

Kang Hui was punished and called his wife because of the game. When his wife didn't know, he said "I love you".

With everyone's coaxing, Kang Hui dialed his wife's phone.

After making the phone, Kang Hui specifically emphasized that when she would tell his wife what was going on, and discussed with her, this paragraph could be broadcast.

Nigbuyi said ridiculous: "Her opinion is no longer important."

Kang Hui said, "No, her opinion is important."

One move, in a word, makes people feel Kang Hui's respect and love for his wife.

There is a contradiction in the family, who likes to propose.

Zhihu blogger@Hu Xiao mentioned the reason for his divorce, because his ex -husband likes to do his own claims and never discuss with her.

In 2016, he went out with the leader and heard that the investment industry was a business that made a steady money and did not pay.

Then he sold the car privately, took the deposit, and found a friend to borrow money. He took 500,000 to the stock trading. As a result, he encountered stock disasters and lost money.

All the bloggers did not know this. When she learned, she questioned, "Have you discussed with me, am I still your wife?"

Unexpectedly, the ex -husband had a strong word and said that after saying that she wanted to make money, she surprised her, and the blogger was arguing with him.

The couple turned over completely, and the original affectionate couple finally flew.

The real good family relationship is never the arbitrary party, but that there are quantities in everything.

After Yang Yan and Qian Zhongshu got married, they rarely quarreled. The reason was investigated. Yang Yan said this:

"We did not have their own objections, but we discussed both people, no matter what they encountered, and made a decision again.

A star cloth is not full, a stone is not a mountain, and one person cannot be a harmonious home.

When you encounter something between your family, you should discuss it.

One person claims that it is not as good as the two.

02

Angry, cold treatment

Introduction to "Broken Queen" wrote such a paragraph:

"Quiet is a very powerful atmosphere. Just as a bottle filled with liquid, after shaking, a precipitation will appear once placed on the table.

The same is true of people. After the calm thinking after turmoil, it can highlight the unknown part of human nature. "

There is a contradiction between the family, and when the two sides are on the air, they seem to be a volcano, and a word that is not listening will easily explode again.

After two people quarrel, learn to deal with cold treatment and give each other a buffer time.

Psychological counselor Zhang Ping once went out and rented in a homestay.

The landlord is a couple who has been married for decades. The grandfather is 75 years old and the grandmother is 73 years old.

Grandpa loves the old grandma very much. As long as the grandmother leaves his sight, he is looking for.

Although the grandmother always complained that Grandpa liked to like her, but looked at Grandpa's eyes, she was full of smiles.

Out of curiosity, Zhang Ping asked them, what is the reason why the relationship has been so good for many years?

Grandpa pulled up the old grandma's hand and said:

"When encountering things, you must bear the regeneration. Don't worry about causing fire. When necessary, give each other a little, let the two people calm down, and wait until the emotions passed."

When people are angry, they are easy to get out of control, and they do n’t choose to say something more harmful to each other, let the contradictions upgrade again, and make the situation worse.

When you encounter anger and annoyance, don't rush to find a solution. You may wish to put the problem aside and let yourself and the other party have a time buffer.

When both sides are emotional, the anger is almost eliminated, and then communicate.

03

Broken, not entangled

There is a word in psychology called "alienation communication", which refers to encountering problems, not to solve, but to blame each other blindly.

The family lived together, stumbled to what was inevitable, and the first reaction of the event determined the temperature of the family.

A happy family is not without contradiction, but has wisdom that does not entangle.

I have seen such a news.

In the house of a community in Guiyang, a sudden fire suddenly caught fire. After the firefighters controlled the fire, the family had borrowed a wolf, and almost all of the valuable objects were damaged.

And this fire was the hair dryer that the hostess was thrown on the bed.

In the morning, the child wet the sheets.

As a result, Ms. Meng threw the hair dryer on the bed to take care of her children. As a result, the hair dryer suddenly exploded and caused a tragedy.

When most of the families happen, the husband will definitely blame his wife:

"Why not turn off the hair dryer first and then see the child?"

"Why don't you have common sense at all, you blame you, what else can you do?"

However, when Ms. Meng's husband saw his wife's sadness, he said gently: "Isn't it a house, renovate again, and we will move a new home."

A soft comfort is how precious it is for his wife who is guilty and guilty.

The family gets along with each other, does not entangle in the event of trouble, and more tolerance and understanding can they be small and small.

Life is not a steel wire, it can't stand a little error.

The family is not a competitor, and I can't wait to occupy everything.

Remember that tolerance and comparison are important in a family, and understanding is more important than blame.

Never be tip to Mai Mang, it is reasonable.

04

Difficult to carry

In "Readers of Lang", the story of Ding Yizhou and Lai Min's affected by the Communist Party has moved countless audiences.

Lai Min was unfortunately found to be terminally ill and may leave the world at any time.

Ding Yizhou did not escape, but bravely accompanied her.

Lai Min told Ding Yizhou that he didn't want to lie on the bed and wait for the dying, and wanted to go out to see the outside world.

Ding Yizhou set off with Lai Min and a dog, riding a tricycle.

They designed a heart -shaped route together, set off from Liuzhou, Guangxi, passed through Dali, Tibet, Dunhuang, and then returned to the starting point through Beijing and Hebei.

During the trip, once the money was spent, Ding Yizhou stayed in the local area for a few days, and saved some money and continue to start.

At the scene of the show, Ding Yizhou said: "I just accompany her with one tenth or twentieth of her life, but she used her rest of her life to accompany me. Her love should not be disappointed."

Today, they opened a inn in Litang and ushered in a cute baby.

Yang Lan said: "There must be a righteousness of liver and gallbladder between husband and wife, the tacit understanding and unforgettable kindness."

If the world is impermanent, the family will live together, and it will inevitably encounter rain. If they escape and complain, they will only fall apart.

At the time of difficulty, the family twisted into a rope, and there was no way to go.

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As the saying goes, there is nothing wrong with family affairs, only harmony.

The best feng shui of a family is not good at everything, but no matter what you encounter, there is a way to deal with wisdom and warmth.

Like a praise, leave the best temper, the greatest patience, and leave your favorite and dearest person.

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