Often "frying hair", not entirely a bad thing

The ancient Greek proverb said, "Angered at every turn, is a manifestation of indulgence and lack of education." Many people worship this truth as a Gui, and every time they encounter injustice or insults of others, they will try their best to suppress their anger and be in order to be in peace. Essence

Although on the surface, suppressing anger really avoids the conflict, but we ask ourselves, does this really make ourselves feel comfortable? In the face of anger, what do we do?

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Why are we angry?

In fact, our prejudice against anger comes from the boundaries of "emotion" and "behavior".

People will not be angry for no reason. When our personal border is violated, we instinctively enter the defense state, which is commonly known as "frying hair".

At this time, anger reminds us of our own private space and basic rights that are being damaged, and appropriate measures need to be taken. If we suppress anger, we will increasingly lose this ability to perceive and maintain personal boundaries.

Therefore, we need anger, just as we need joy. It is important to see the demand behind anger. We do not consider anger as a purpose, but regard it as a means to perceive the needs and maintain the border, let alone anger for anger.

How do we deal with anger?

One of the important differences between "emotion" and "behavior" is that the emotions in our hearts will not directly offend others, and once the behavior is out of control, it will have a certain impact on interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, to properly cope with the emotion of "anger", there are several small Tips below, I hope to help you:

怒 Accept your anger

Angry is a normal emotion. We don't have to suppress our anger too much, and even blame and regret because of our anger.

达 达 达 ▨ ▨ correctly

Try to expressed rationally to those who arouse your anger, "You do this / say, I am angry" instead of cursing and noisy.

I perceive the potential needs behind anger.

When you are angry, open a "Eye of God" to see why you feel angry, what are the offending?

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May we all live in peace with anger ~

Author: cold cold

Edit: KK

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