[First -line fax] Accepting the child's test score is also the process of reconciled with yourself

In the end of the end of the exam, the anxiety of the parent circle doubled.

The college entrance examination, middle school entrance examination, final examination, etc., various news keeps swipe the screen;

A certain school hegemony was admitted in advance by a certain school; the children of other people's children took the first place in the simulation test before the end of the period ...

But what about your own baby? No matter how hard you do, or the ordinary baby who is not good or bad ...

Everyone wants to get applause, but does not want to be applauded.

01

Children will eventually ordinary

It is the reality that parents must face

When the child is very young, it is easy to be asked a question:

"What do you want to do when you grow up?"

When Japanese children are facing this question, they often answer that when they grow up, they want to be tram drivers, bakers, cleaners ...

But such answers will be ridiculed in China. If the child dares to say that the dream of growing up is to be a chef, even his parents will feel full of face.

In China, parents have taught their children's standard answers early. When they grow up, they can only be scientists, writers, and astronauts ...

Only in this way can children think that there is a way out, and parents will have face. More importantly, this is in line with the ardent hope of the parents "looking at the dragon".

One of the facts that Chinese parents are the most difficult and most unwilling to admit that their children will have a great probability that they will be an extremely ordinary and extremely ordinary person.

Even if this is vaguely aware of this, it will definitely rule out all difficulties and create conditions to cultivate children into geniuses.

As a result, "looking at the son and Jackie Chan, looking for a woman to become a phoenix" has become a grand goal that many Chinese parents have set for themselves, and it is also a great responsibility they give them.

Of course, this emotion is original, nothing wrong. Therefore, we don't have to discuss what psychology this is, and we don't have to argue the right or wrong of this practice.

We only explain one fact: 99%of 99%may spend a lifetime.

In terms of probability, how a person finds happiness, happiness and calmness in ordinary life and work is the most important ability.

When our parents are educating their children, they often ignore these 99%of them, but focus on the remaining 1%of the extremely slim hope. This means that from the beginning, it is a gambling that is destined to fail, and it is the beginning of many people's tragedy.

Therefore, many of us are not happy.

02

Admit that your child is ordinary,

Also the opportunity to reconcile with yourself

One mother, like all mother, has been determined to make her children outstanding since she was a child.

The son was still in the elementary school, and she made him back to the full set of "Elementary School Students Must Back Ancient Poetry", and also stipulated that she had to read a beautiful text of a famous artist every day.

Later, she found that the child was not interested in reading, so she used to listen. Because she couldn't buy the right tape, she went to the battlefield himself, and recorded a tape of more than ten plates for the child each semester. I have persisted for several years.

However, when the child goes to junior high school, each test is basically not scored in modern text reading.

The mother did not understand, did not accept, angry, hate, and finally despair. Every day, I must imply themselves and emphasize eight hundred times as my own son, so I can barely restrain myself.

The pain is painful, the mother finally shared and said:

"In the end, I realized that in this regard, he was a child with no talents and unknown light, and I didn't go crazy."

Aware that your child is not a genius, it is really lucky. This can not only make parents know their children correctly and accept their children.

Consistence with themselves in educating children and reconciliation with children can also give children a correct understanding of themselves.

If you know that your child is an ordinary and ordinary person, he must have to try to cut his head to cultivate him into an elite.

As a result, it will not only make themselves desperate in the huge gap between returns and giving, but also create an illusion for the child, so that children mistakenly think that they are amazing people, and have a lot of unrealistic fantasies.

As a result, his eyes were low, and he thought he would not meet. I always feel that I am obviously a thousand miles, but I can't meet Bole.

Can't correctly recognize your ordinaryness, and how can you be happy and happy in ordinary life?

03

Realize that the child's ordinary

You can know him correctly and truly understand him

There is a pair of parents who are elite. His father is a talented talent, and he is proficient in mathematics. The mother was once a literary science and read poetry.

They are full of confidence in their children. His father is responsible for the subject, his mother is responsible for the science and science, and he firmly believes that he will be able to cultivate him into a outstanding tip student.

However, unfortunately, their son just perfectly inherited his father's liberal arts genes and his mother's science talent.

One night, a simple mathematical father repeatedly spoke several times, and the child was still ignorant. His father finally couldn't suppress his inner anger, patted the table, dropped the book, "fool, stupid" scolded a lot. The child cried in the middle of the night.

Mother distressed her son. The next day, he decided to accompany the child to school and sit in the classroom to listen. After a mathematical lesson, even if she was concentrated, her mother just barely understood it.

At night, go home from school. The mother decided to counsel the child's mathematics and let her father tutor Chinese.

Faced with a simple mathematical problem, the mother also thought about it before and after, and I couldn't get my mind. The original Chinese topic, the father also scratched his cheeks, and he was unknown. It was tutoring, and it turned out to be discussed with children. That's it. Parents slowly understood the child's stupidity, and fully understood and sympathized with his frustration and pain in his studies.

What's more important is that they realize that their children are ordinary people and have no talent.

Parents have a little more understanding of their children, and they have a little more acceptance to him.

Since then, not only has the relationship with the child improved a lot, but the children's grades have unknowingly improved.

More importantly, under the influence of parents, children have a more objective understanding and accurate positioning of themselves, and have become happy and calm since then.

04

Push yourself and people, accept the children's ordinary

If parents use their own advantages to measure and ask their children, it is unfair, which will cause additional pressure on their children, and it will play a counterproductive role in children's education.

What is even more terrible is that many Chinese parents themselves are obviously not good at themselves, and they have to ask their children to be outstanding enough.

Wu Nianzhen, a well -known Taiwanese writer, once told such a thing. His son's mathematics performance is very bad. The teacher wrote in the contact book with his parents: "Mathematical results should be strengthened!"

When the son returned home, his wife chopped her head and covered her face.

Wu Nianzhen quickly pulled his wife to the kitchen and asked: "When you were studying, did you have a good mathematics?"

My wife replied, "Very bad!"

Wu Nianzhen said, "I am also bad! I only took 10 points for the college entrance examination."

Then Wu Nianzhen and his wife talked about this problem seriously and seriously: What we can't do ourselves, don't be embarrassed.

As a parent, look back at the path you have walked. Many times you may not work hard enough, but you are really not good at. Why is it a bitter child?

From another perspective, parents have never achieved a millionaires and millions of rich people who are picked by a hundred miles.

05

Blind children pursue extraordinary,

Instead, it will contribute to children's ordinary

A friend, after graduating from college, made a northern drift.

After many twists and turns, the child finally got the indicator of studying in Beijing.

Friends are a person who is pursuing perfection. He simply operates and sent the child to a prestigious school.

There are more than 800 students in the school, and the children are always wandering around 600. Friends are naturally unwilling to make up for the children overtime. As a result, the child's grade was simply dropped to the countdown, and finally a serious mood of learning was also generated.

The pain and pain, my friend began to realize that the child could not keep up with the rhythm of a famous school, so he had to transfer the child to an ordinary high school near his home.

Although the child's score has not improved, the state has improved a lot, and he has become confident and cheerful, and is interested in learning.

In the end, in the college entrance examination, it was also extraordinary to make a small surprise.

Parents blindly cultivate their children into elites. As for the incomparable position of their children, they will increase their children's additional pressure, aggravate frustration, and let their children abandon themselves. When the contrast between reality and hope is too great, parents themselves will easily fall into despair.

In this way, the child is tragedy.

06

All extraordinary,

They are derived from the ability to live an ordinary life

Li Na, the proud tennis queen of Chinese generations, the aura on her head illuminates the hearts of countless desperate people.

She was interviewed and talked about her daily state of daily life: endless practice. Do dozens of goals a day. The same action, repeated exercises, night after day, endless.

This kind of life is not just ordinary, it is simply boring.

Not just Li Na, almost all Olympic champions have experienced the same experience.

Not just the Olympic champion, almost all extraordinary people, 99%of their lives are experiencing ordinary and boring suffering.

In fact, almost all the achievements that make everyone envy are almost created in ordinary. The scientist of a Nobel Prize winner must be endless and boring experiments on weekdays. The hard -to -see is a difficult and boring academic collection.

The extraordinary is achieved in ordinary.

In fact, the reason why it is extraordinary is precisely because they have the ability to live an ordinary life.

In other words, if you don't know how to persist in ordinary days, you will not achieve extraordinary achievements.

And the parents who want to get rid of the mortal ranks, but from the beginning, they have ignored this ability.

Of course, we do not deny that some parents have received special care of God, and their children are really a genius.

If you really win the prize, you cannot waste it. However, we must first understand another truth. This is a small probability event, which is basically the same as the head of the pie that is dropped by the pie by the sky.

Therefore, when preparing to cultivate children into an elite, be sure to take a closer look at whether he really has some kind of talent; at the same time, it must be self -mentioned. If you are a mediocre generation, don’t ask for the child too high. Essence

In the end, it must be determined that the child is indeed a genius, and it must not ignore the ability to cultivate his ordinary life. Otherwise, even if it is genius, it will also become mediocre people.

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Because of ordinaryness, there is hope that hope is extraordinary

A person is ordinary, that's of course; one person is extraordinary, that is accidental; everyone's life is ordinary, it is inevitable.Therefore, if you lack the ability to grab happiness in ordinary, of course, you will be unhappy.

Instead, it will be more ordinary, and even become mediocre.

This is a vicious circle.

On the contrary, if you can learn how to live a happy life happily, you can first ensure that we can be a happy and happy person. There may be unexpected surprises without paying attention to it, and it has made extraordinary in ordinaryness.

As a parent, if you really have hope in case, try to make your child an extraordinary person, or at least hope that he can live happily and happiness.

Then don't give up the end, or return to the source, first teach children how to get happiness in ordinaryness.

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