"Daughter -in -law, buy a house in the full amount, Cai Li will give 160,000, your family is responsible for renovating and buying a car."

A while ago, I saw a post on the Internet.

A friend named@Huainan talked about a bad experience.

She and her husband are college classmates, and after graduation, the two began to prepare for marriage.

Because the in -laws have been doing business for a long time, the conditions at home are much better than her family. Even if the mother -in -law proposes:

The young people now like the two -person world. Their family is such a son, and they are really reluctant to bear the hardships, so they decide to buy them all.

As for the gifts, it is also 160,000 according to local standards, so that the woman's family is responsible for renovation and buying a car.

Netizens felt that buying a house is far more than decoration and car, and she is grateful for her mother -in -law.

But I didn't want to be strongly opposed by her mother.

Mother said that since it is a wedding room, then the family should be half;

Or the parents of both parties help the down payment and let them pay the loan monthly.

In fact, Huainan also knows that her mother meant that she was afraid of buying a house in full, and she had no position to ask for signing on the real estate certificate.

And if the two can't go away in the future, the house will have a little relationship with her.

But the mother -in -law refused to give up, but persuaded her to say:

"Mother, you and your pro -family are ordinary employees, it is not easy to save money.

Since it is our family to marry a daughter -in -law, how can you make you spend money to buy a house?

As for the loan, there is a lot of interest. Why pay for the money and make the child more burden for no reason? "

Because of this, Huainan and his mother quarreled several times.

On the one hand, she feels that her mother -in -law is not making sense;

On the other hand, she really wants to grow old with her husband, and there is no need to make trouble on the issue of buying a house.

In the end, the mother -in -law's plan was agreed.

But in the process of decoration, her contradiction with her mother -in -law had not broken:

She likes the simplicity of Northern Europe, but her mother -in -law has to pretend to be a new Chinese style;

She wanted to install a study, and her mother -in -law said that everyone now read e -books;

Even if she wanted to install a bathtub, she was rejected by her mother -in -law on the grounds of unreasonableness.

She said too much, and her mother -in -law returned to her coldly:

"This room is my money, can't you still have a little right to speak?"

And whenever they are on the left, her husband has persuaded her blindly, saying that her mother -in -law had bought them for them, and these little things should not care about it.

Even after the decoration was over, she failed to enjoy the so -called "two -person world". The mother -in -law came to live a little after three differences, and interfered many of their lives.

She and her husband continued to quarrel. In the end, she reached the level of divorce.

However, the house was written in the name of the husband and belonged to the pre -marital property, so there was a dispute.

She struggled many times, saying that she also had a share of decoration, but her mother -in -law said:

If she likes it, she can remove all the decoration furniture, but the house is bought by her own money and must not be divided.

After a long tossing, she finally left her marriage, but her three -year marriage, except for the depreciation car, did not leave anything.

Now that she regrets it, she only hates that she does not listen to her mother's persuasion.

If the two agreed to buy a house together at that time, even if the loan was more hard later, it would not end his personal wealth.

I have heard a word:

Love can be Qinghuan, but marriage is not good. It is fireworks, life, even responsibility and reality.

When we were young, we all thought that marriage was sacred and unbelievable, and it was tacky to tease love and material.

When you grow up, you can understand that marriage must not be maintained by love alone, but also considers the interests of reality.

No matter how deep feelings, it is difficult to reach the invasion of chai oil and salt; it is a strong love, and it is indispensable to make the material foundation.

Just like netizens@正 正, I don't want to be too clear in marriage. In the end, it makes myself suffer heavy losses.

In fact, whether it is the full purchase of a house proposed by her mother -in -law, or she is responsible for renovating and buying a car, and pile pieces, all related to money.

Jane Austin wrote in "Pride and Prejudice": It is ridiculous to consider the marriage of money, and the marriage of money is stupid.

With the sincerity of a cavity alone, you can never support marriage.

A good marriage must not only talk about money, but also to clearly clear the accounts.

In the variety show "Friends, please listen", the call from the netizen@has caused heated discussion among everyone.

The bear said that she and her husband had a house before marriage. After the marriage, the two lived in the husband's house, and she rented out to subsidize her family.

In the past two years, the couple planned to have a second child, so they planned to change a larger house.

However, the down payment was 400,000. After discussing it, he decided to borrow this money from his in -laws.

However, after her husband planned to the debit, the bear looked stupid: because the amount on the underwriting was 2.2 million.

Husband means:

Because the house needs to sell the house they live in, and this house was bought by parents before marriage, the money should be returned.

The bear's heart is not very tasteful. I think that since it is 400,000 borrowed, why should I calculate 1.8 million?

What makes her even more sad is that her husband has not discussed with him from beginning to end, but she is determined to ask her to sign 2.2 million.

In the comment area, the highest praise message is:

It can be calculated between husband and wife, but not too good at calculation;

How can people who count for many calculations, how can you expect him to treat you sincerely?

Yes, it is a husband and wife, and the same thing is to spread the money. It is okay to calculate the account.

However, if there is no discussion in advance, it will be done directly by one of them, and it will inevitably make the people beside the pillow chill. Love is valuable, self -love is higher, no matter how much love is, don't forget to keep yourself a little sober.

Whenever and whereabouts, you must have this account in your heart: you don't calculate, but you must calculate.

Calculating the account can be exempted from being calculated and protecting yourself better;

If you clear the words, the couple can only know the roots, and the rest of their lives can better go with the storm.

Perhaps every woman will be eager to meet a conscience, she can cover the wind and rain for her, and protect her.

But how can there be so many lucky luck in the world?

The old saying also said that it is easy to ask for priceless treasures, and it is rare to have love.

A good partner can be encountered but not required. Even if you encounter it, it is difficult to protect the other party and never change your heart.

No matter how big the eaves of others are, how can there be umbrellas in their own hands?

Instead of looking forward to good people, it is better to make yourself better.

Remember Jiang Jing's remarks in the hit drama "Our Marriage"?

She paid for the family intentionally, and always felt that her husband made money hard, and forbearance and consideration everywhere, but the husband was still derailed.

Not only that, her husband has been counting her for many years, from pre -marital agreement to property transfer, and even filled the camera at home, slandering her behavior, and wanted to bite her.

Fortunately, Jiang Jing finally realized, re -entrepreneurship with the help of friends, and opened a new life.

Think of a word: the best noble person is to work hard.

The mountains and mountains will fall, and everyone will run by everyone, pinching their happiness on others, the ending is either crying or losing.

In this world, I can accompany you to the depths of the years, and I will never give up, in fact, only you.

Either beautiful love or a happy marriage, having their premise is an independent you.

When you do n’t have to survive at anyone, have the strength of economic independence, and have the ability to compete with various risks, so why fear who leaves, why do you have to go to calculate?

The good luck of a woman often begins with her excellent.

Just like that sentence: if the flowers are in full bloom, the butterfly comes; if you bloom, the breeze is self -coming.

I would like to have a person who was devoted, and the white head was not separated. It was about the expectations of everyone who entered love or marriage.

But for a while, it was not difficult, but it was difficult to stay in the same time.

Two people have to go through the long years together. In addition to the love of the wind and snow, there must be a frank and honest heart, and the determination to work together for the future.

When you encounter any problems, you can talk about discussing sincerely, and will always be better than mutual suspicion and calculations.

Those questions about money do not need to avoid it.

Please believe that there is nothing that falling into the marriage life that lives in life.

If you are ashamed to enlighten your teeth, or if you talk about money, you will be difficult to move forward.

Only by calculating clearly can we take good care of the marriage account and have a steaming day.

No matter how reliable this person beside him is, don't be stunned by the sweetness in front of him, so he treats him as a lifelong.

It is the best way to keep a sober mind and make every effort to improve yourself.

Click [watching], I hope you will stay away for the rest of your life and stay away from the people who calculate you.

Living as your most solid backer, at any time, you have independent ability and confidence. You don't need to calculate anyone, and you will not be calculated by anyone.

Author | Su Yan, want to cure the desolation in your heart in words.

Picture | Visual China

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