I use breakup to learn to fall in love, time and time again and again

Sayings:

Recently, I have brushed "Old Friends", and I have a very interesting discovery:

Breaking up is an important lesson to learn how to treat love.

This drama records the lives of the protagonists from their twenties to 30 years old. Their view of love has also never matured to maturity.

In the past ten years, their feelings are not smooth sailing. They broke up many times.

Every time I break up, it is frustrating. But this frustration also made them grow forward.

In their stories, I can see something destroyed because of breaking up, and I can see their process of rebuilding themselves.

Today I want to record some of their breakup experiences and share it with you.

You are also welcome to leave a message to share and break up to let you learn.

Even if everyone tells you that he is right,

As long as you think it's wrong, it's time to end.

Half an hour before the wedding, the bride Ray Qiu ran away with a wedding dress.

Her fiance is a dentist, with a social status and high income.

But when she was standing in front of the church, she found that she was not happy to get married.

After escaping, the family and friends around me did not understand her:

It is not good to change from the rich lady to the rich family.

The original life cannot continue.

Become a laughingstock in the circle of friends: the parents of the ex -husband dispersed the rumors everywhere after she fled: said that she had a sexually transmitted disease and she was crazy.

25 years old, learn to live independently from scratch:

After escaping, Rachel's father stopped her economic source.

A person who does not even use a washing machine. People who do not stir in personally, start making coffee shops to entertain and support themselves.

Monica told her:

Welcome to the real world. It is terrible, but you will like it.

Don't escape, avoid solving problems. Chandler has a breakup phobia. He had witnessed his parents' quarrels and divorce when he was young, and he was afraid of conflict and commitment to commitment. At the beginning, he was always difficult to break up. Fear of seeing the sad face of the other person, often softened, and can only be resolved by escape. His ex -girlfriend Jenis is very enthusiastic and active. Therefore, every time Chandler reunited with her inexplicably, she fell into the tangles of not knowing what to say. In order to break up, he lied that he was going to go to Yemen. In order to lie, I really bought a huge ticket of $ 2,100 and flew to a strange country outside 13072 kilometers.

When he broke up with Jenis for the fourth time, he really fell in love with Jenis.

However, he found that Jennis was entangled between himself and his ex -husband and swaying.

He took the initiative to mention this time.

He talked about the feeling of his parents' divorce when he was a kid, and the process was painful.

So he hoped Jenis and his ex -husband to reunite. Because they have children, and he knows all the sadness in the growth of a parent's divorced child.

This is the last time they broke up.

He did not escape, and faced his childhood experience that made himself afraid of responsibility.

Break up allows you to see your growth.

After many years, Monica met the school Cao Qipu, who was obsessed with in high school.

In middle school, Monica was fat and noticeable. The classmates joked her figure, and she was also inferior.

Qi Pop is a legendary person in high school. He has a motorcycle. He is a sports player and loves the most beautiful girl on campus.

Seeing again many years later, Monica still lived in the fat girl who was inferior to that year, but found that when Qipu was still in high school, she dumped him decisively.

She is not a fat girl in high school. Finally, the regrets of adolescence were relieved.

Breaking up is not necessarily not love, maybe love someone but hope he has a better future.

David got a good job opportunity when David David David was in love.

There are rare opportunities, but you need to work in Russia for three years.

But in the era when the communication equipment was incomplete, long -term separation means breaking up.

David decided to give up the opportunity to be with Phoebe. But Phoebe helped him make different decisions.

She asked David to follow her for a word:

"I love you, you will never forget you. But I have to leave."

She asked David to tell herself, and she wanted to tell David.

I will never forget you.

But I hope you have a bright future.

The two people's life planning is different, so they don't have to force each other.

Monica and Richard, who were 21 years old, broke up. When you are in love.

Monica has always liked children and looks forward to being a mother.

But Richard was 48 years old and didn't want to have children anymore.

One day they talked about this topic and found that their own life planning was different.

I love each other, but I still separate.

The breakup is very painful, and forgetting each other is difficult.

But when Richard wanted to compromise for Monica, she was still very resolute:

"I like children, and you don't want it. I don't want you to make a decision you don't want for me."

There are many things in life that cannot be concessions for love.

Rachel and Rose broke up for the first time because of Rachel's work.

She found her favorite job for the first time. I am very busy every day, so I don't have time to date Ross, and there is no time to celebrate the anniversary.

Rose was unstoppable and became sticky and jealous.

After quarreling the same thing several times, Rachel decided to break up.

"My job is very important to me. If you can't understand it, we need to be separated for a while."

There is no right or wrong in love.

Within a day after breaking up, Rose had a one -night stand with other girls. The next day, Rachel disappeared and wanted to reconcile with Ross, but knew his "betrayal".

Two people broke up thoroughly, and Ross shouted desperately: "We we was on a break (we broke up at the time)."

In several seasons, Rachel and Ross often quarreled about it.

Rose shouted repeatedly, arguing, as if he was saying, "I'm right!"

Good friend Phoebe said that "Ross is always correct" most.

Usually Ross likes to emphasize that you are right. Like to correct the wrong grammar of others, like to say the theory that others are not interested in, like to hang books and pockets, and talk about their research endlessly.

This time he broke up, and he still used "doing the right thing" to protect himself. But everything is meaningless.

Love is not a test paper.

Don't be afraid of breaking up with your lover, you know each other.

After Chandler and Monica quarreled for the first time, they were frustrated and thought they would break up.

Monica said with a smile: No, we just quarreled.

Then Monica said to the person who worried them to break up: welcome to the ranks of mature lover.

Don't be afraid to discuss breaking up, breaking up itself is not so bad.

And when you do not avoid breaking up, you may get different answers.

Facing the conflict, it is the dissatisfaction to the other party loudly, and it is the bottom line that gives himself.

Writing: Aju

Editor: Ding Ding

Dare to end a period of love,

It is more important than starting a period of love.

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