Night Reading | The most comfortable state in interpersonal communication is to maintain a sense of boundary

I have heard such a sentence: The so -called normal interpersonal relationship is to keep a certain distance when they are interacting with others. No matter how intimate relationships are, you must respect the personality of the other party, grasp the score, and maintain a proper sense of boundary, so that the relationship can be more intimate and long -lasting.

Xiao Rong and Dazhu have been good girlfriends since junior high school. After graduation, they stayed in Chengdu to work. They all rented a small set and two. They were together other times except work. The appearance of Dazhu is gentle and petite, with a calm and careful personality, and there are many boys who are pursuing her. But every time Dazhu and Xiao Rong share his little feelings together, Xiao Rong was shouting. The boy was too ugly, and the boy was too angry ... even in private to warn some boys, far away from Dazhu. In fact, Xiao Rong didn't know that one of the boys who had been warned by her had liked him for a long time.

In addition to these things, Xiao Rong also pointed at Dazhu in life. A big sister looks like a big sister. There is a gap between the two people and the relationship.

If a person is getting along with friends

Without the sense of boundary

Then his friendship is bound to face a test

Aunt Li, a neighbor, had a three -year -old sister. She heard that because their family conditions were not good when they were young, they had always tied her sister at their relatives. Every time she will live in her sister's house for a few days, her sister often sends her hometown specialty to Aunt Li.

Last year, Aunt Li's family was changed. She distressed her sister alone, so she took her sister to live with her family. But after a long time, I found that the two people have too much personality and living habits, and they often quarrel because of some garlic. The sisters with good feelings were embarrassing to sit on a table to eat. Finally, my sister chose to go back to live alone.

We often say that the distance is beautiful. Indeed, the relationship between people is actually a science. It is too far away, it is inevitable that it is too sparse, and it is inevitable to hurt. The relationship between blood is thicker than water also requires a certain limit. It is not far from far away, knowing that each other is good.

Everything is divided, and the feelings can last long before they are familiar.

There is something to do, there is a boundary, everything is too much

It's the most comfortable relationship between people

Author, Photography: A Shan

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