Really smart people, only 1%of life

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When I took the elevator a few days ago, I met two girls in their twenties.

A girl's short hair, leaning on the corner of the elevator, holding her forehead with her hands, looking uncomfortable.

Another girl tied a ponytail and kept saying next to the short -haired girl:

"Do you know? XX stars are here for us!"

"Have you watched the TV series recently? The actor inside is super handsome!"

Short -haired girls were silent without saying a word.

The ponytail girl stretched her head and asked, "Why don't you speak?"

The short -haired girl returned leisurely: "Do you just have something to do with me? I only care about my headache when it can be better."

This seemingly unrelated answer hit me at once.

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Marco, a professor at the University of Emeri, said:

One of the symbols of a person's maturity is to understand that 99%of us happened every day, which is meaningless for us and others.

This is true.

We often spend time on 99%of the useless people and things, but ignore the most noteworthy 1%.

Tell you two very touching stories.

Chen Yu, the youngest Chinese supermodel in the history of Victoria's secret, caused heated discussions when he returned to China.

She returned to her hometown, and someone laughed at her even if she couldn't even say her hometown.

She went to the scenic area to play, because she had different clothes, and many tourists pointed at her, and she didn't care.

Someone didn't understand and asked her, "Along the way, so many people evaluate you, do you seem to never care?"

Chen Yu returned to him very coolly:

"For so long under the spotlight, if I care too much about other people's opinions, I am afraid it will have been depressed."

Another story is about writer Mo Yan.

After winning the "Nobel Prize" in 2012, he hadn't published a new book for a long time.

Some people mocked him in secret, and even slandered his works.

In the face of these bad reviews, he has never heard of it, and continues to precipitate and write according to his rhythm.

He said that:

"Outsiders' evaluation is difficult to enter their hearts. They just measure you based on their own standards. The one who really evaluates themselves is yourself."

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Why tell these two stories? Because of life, we must understand a truth:

There is a clear boundary between people. This boundary is not only the distance that the body is to be maintained, but also a psychological interval and degree.

Summary in two sentences:

His life is your own, it has nothing to do with others;

The lives of others are others and have nothing to do with themselves.

If Mo Yan and Chen Yu's principle of being a person confirmed the former, then the principle of being an elevator girl confirmed the latter.

In the issue of "The Story of Qi Qi", the writer Feng Tang said such a sentence:

In fact, there are two very important questions in life. One is what I care about me. The other question is what you care about. If you want to understand these two issues, you can know which are wrong and which are right.

This sentence is simple and rude, but it makes sense to come.

I have a colleague Xiao A who often complains with me.

"I feel exhausted for a day, I lay home from get off work, and I feel like I haven't done anything all day."

Why?

Because she came to the company at 9 am, the computer just opened, and a box popped up: "XX became popular again", this is good, click to see, 10 minutes have passed.

She was a non -stop code, and heard that colleagues B discussed the gossip of colleagues C. This must be talked, and then put on the tea cup up.

She hurried the monthly performance, and a head of the front row was revealed: "Do you see this lip?" Then I didn't calm down ...

Every move in the outside world can disrupt her rhythm together. After a day, of course, I feel tired and not harvested.

American psychologist Bormerst once proposed a famous theory called "self -loss".

The so -called self -loss is that you seem to have done nothing, but every choice and tangled by your time you are losing your psychological energy.

Every time you consume a little psychological energy, your execution will drop a little.

This is why everyone generally believes that the simpler the efficiency, the farther the more restrained people go.

Because they can stay away from those things that have nothing to do with themselves, say a sentence "What is the matter with me" and then spend time on more important things.

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The author of "Centennial Lonely" Garcia Marquez has a habit: never go home when writing.

Even if he paced back and forth because he couldn't write, he was so angry that he would never leave home for half a step.

Because he understands that if you find a reason to go out to relax, the final result must be consumed by things that have nothing to do with himself outside.

Patient and spend the moment the "exhaustion period" can achieve a good article.

We said earlier that 99%are useless. What is 1%of life?

This is the 1%life:

Give up 99%of the invalid information, prevent others from intervening in your life at will, and not allowing external disputes, tongues, and interpersonal to disrupt your rhythm at will, and spend time on more worthy things. Only in this way can you achieve real efficiency so that your heart can enjoy real tranquility.

Since the media blogger@自 自 自 has told such a story.

When she was young, she was enthusiastic. Everyone wanted to know, and everything wanted to blend.

At that time, there was a colleague in the unit who had just bought a new house and was preparing how to decorate.

Fang Meimei enthusiastically brought advice to the other party:

"Listen to me, be sure to pave the floor, don't pave the ground tiles."

"If you paint it, don't find XX decoration companies, find this, come, let me call you!"

"Kitchen, don't pretend to be open!"

She explained with the other party in detail, and the colleague nodded very much.

After a while, she asked the colleague: "Did you decorate the family?"

Colleagues replied: "After the decoration, we still chose tiles, and the kitchen still insisted on open."

Fang Meimei felt that a pot of cold water splashed down on the spot, and said so much about it.

Mark Li Wei wrote in the book "The Shadow": "You can't interfere with the lives of others, this is his life."

Many times, the reason why a relationship is tired is because we are accustomed to pointing in the life of others.

But in fact, what is your life about the lives of others?

Too much interference, consuming energy and not flattering, why is it suffering?

In the first issue of "If You Are the One", Meng Fei made such a hypothesis:

Suppose you see your brother's girlfriend and be alone with another man, would you choose to tell your friends or silent?

A male guest replied: "I will tell him, because I don't want my brother to be painful."

Observer Chen Ming said, "I should not say. Because the amount of information is insufficient, I can't judge."

Meng Fei agreed.

Then he added:

"Part of the part of our eyes is just part. I have a principle that I will never get involved in the private life of others."

A real maturity is to understand the lives of others and have nothing to do with themselves.

Everything that is more and more attempts to interfere with the lives of others is to find troubles with each other.

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Comicist Cai Zhizhong said a word:

Each piece of wood can be a Buddha, as long as the excess part is removed.

This is the same, and life is the same.

The space of a person's mind is limited. Only by removing unnecessary can it be played more important.

Putting off people and things that are not related to invest in 1%of the most important.

It is not tired of the outside world and maintains the calmness and indifference of the heart to live the most authentic color of life.

Pay attention to readers and encourage friends.

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