14 times when you feel "emotional value"

"Emotional value" has become an important criterion for contemporary people to fall in love and making friends. We will break up because of a person's "unable to provide emotional value", and because of the "emotional value", it will quickly feel good about a person.

But what exactly is "emotional value"? Last week, we launched a solicitation to everyone: What behaviors of a person will make you feel emotional?

When this word is specifically explained, we find that behind the emotional value, it is actually "emotional needs": about how we want to be treated and what relationships we want to build with others.

Let's take a look together.

@

listen! It is the kind of look from the eyes to the expression, which shows that TA is listening seriously. It will insert some words at the right time, but it is not interrupting you, but to encourage you to continue to speak, find a better word for you or provide it for you some advices. And do not play mobile phones during the conversation.

@lan

A response. For example, "I ate a barbecued pork today! Invincible fragrance pictures" "Eat! Eat big mouth". The feeling of trivial life like this is really liked by another person.

@

Emotional people can provide emotional value best! Intersection My boyfriend is a very self -consistent person. If you encounter unhappy things, you will only say, "This makes me feel unhappy, how can I solve it." In contrast It will also tender to me very gentle, a good lover can really cure my "awkward".

▷ "Dr. Zhi Zhi Life"

@Chris yyu5

In a timely manner, it is obtained by the dilemma of others and guided to help TA out, instead of saying "wrap it on me!"

I used to have a mathematics teacher who I liked very much. I taught me to do the questions and said that you can look at the question first, ask me what I have, and give me enough time to think, but when I can’t think of my mind, I feel embarrassed and helpless. He will point out key steps to guide me to continue thinking. But many teachers just let me feel the helplessness of silence and embarrassing and unsatisfactory questions, but when I told me the answer, I wrote the process. That math teacher made me regain confidence in mathematics, which is very important for me.

@not drunk

The topic of chatting is not just him (she), it will cleverly transition to "I".

@Piscula

When I talked to her a friend (not as close as her) that made me angry, she would never be judge, but after listening, I would say, "If I have this, you have to tell me. . Be sure to tell me. "I have known each other for more than ten years, and I can say anything.

@anonymous

"You are looking for me at any time. I am here." "I love you."

▷ "Flower and Alice"

@

Those who can hold each other in the relationship. For example, when both sides have emotions, one party began to attack, and the other did not fight back in the same attack, but instead expressed in a relatively calm, objective, and statement way. This method can also calm down the attack on the side, so that the relationship between the two parties can be protected, rather than continuing to deteriorate.

@ @仔

When I went to TA to talk to TA, put down my mobile phone/computer and turned to look at me. No matter it is, it will make me like it very much.

@May

I have a very strong ability to have their empathy. Friends always talk to me when I encounter difficulties, but I am not good at resolving my emotions. I had a friend who was in love before, and called me at two o'clock in the middle of the night. After listening to her crying, I had lost my ability to feel self -perception. I called my boyfriend to say that it was very tired. Starting to sing, he turned around, but sincerely and serious. For more than half an hour, he was singing. I was sitting on the stairs and clearly felt that my emotions seemed to have received a stream flowing to my stream, back to In my body, my tears crackled down. I don't know that I can shed so much tears. My feeling and security have returned to my body.

▷ "My Liberation Log"

@Chestnut

My bamboo horse. Perhaps because he was born in the control of a strictly controlled soldier family, he respected the decisions and feelings of others when he grew up. I remember to go to his house for dinner at that time. His mother was very enthusiastic to let me eat this, but when I was in trouble, I raised the chopsticks and stretched it to the dish that she strongly recommended but I didn't like it. : "Chestnuts said no, she would pinch it when she wanted to eat." I didn't feel good at rejection at the time, it was nice! Someone helped me support the umbrella!

▷ "Editor's Book"

@在 在

When I encounter emotional distress, I can give me empathy in proper way instead of telling me. For example, I have conflicts with others and feels bullied. My family will say, "You feel very angry now, right? Then you stretch me first and get rid of your breath." At this time For a while, I feel that he has "emotional value".

@

When I expressed dissatisfaction with myself, my friend lamented that you have too high requirements for yourself! In the process of getting along with him, he often witnessed his tolerance for himself. These all made me realize that I don't have to blame myself too much. This is a high emotional value.

@ @戚

Other people say something that you can't see, can't be able to see, or courage. For example, when you are confused and confused, you can find your underlying needs and desires in his language, or when you are in a state, the song that the other party pushes you can just reflect your mood at that time. The feeling of being understood and seen is very emotional. ▷ "Flower and Alice"

Bleak

The concept of emotional value was first proposed in the business field, referring to the emotional net income brought by goods and services to consumers. It has a formula:

Emotional value = emotional income-emotional cost

Emotional returns: Positive emotional experience, including experience, active emotions, emotional needs are met

Emotional cost: negative emotional experience, emotional labor, emotional needs are not met

In the relationship, when we mention "emotional value", we must know that it is a two -way concept: only one party pays the relationship of emotional value. Nearly negative.

In addition, when you provide emotional value to others, you must respect your borders and don't let it become an overload "emotional labor".

May you cherish the "emotional value" of yourself and others, and build more and more two -way, positive emotional interaction around yourself.

Edit: Li Qinwei

- END -