More and more people disappear from the circle of friends, I found these 3 truths

I used to like to brush the circle of friends, I especially love to see the lively daily life shared by friends.

At that time I realized the meaning of the circle of friends:

The English name of the circle of friends is "Moments", which means to capture the beautiful moments in life.

But now the circle of friends is gradually becoming.

It is difficult to have real emotions in the circle of friends, more of some links, landscapes, and gray lines that can be seen in three days ...

I closed the window of the circle of friends and began to return to real life.

I believe everyone has also discovered that more and more people disappear from the circle of friends.

why?

Because the so -called circle of friends is not a real circle of friends, the so -called WeChat friends are not really worthy of friends.

After reading today's article, you will understand that many people don't want to pretend to live in the circle of friends.

Source: panoramic vision

Some circle of friends are embarrassing

Due to work reasons, I added a girl's WeChat to nod.

Within a few days, I felt her skill in her hair.

The content of her circle of friends is almost all three themes of "exquisite life", "show love" and "rich life".

For example, the full set of SK-II skin care products from two angles, plus two selfies, the text is:

A few days ago, I said with my boyfriend that the skin was dry. I did not expect that I suddenly changed when I was just eating. I was so moved and loved my boyfriend.

The brushing down was still a delicate makeup, and Jiugongge took a selfie with her mouth. The text was:

Now is the little cute waiting for her boyfriend to pick up.

Then there is another frowning selfie, plus a large amount of WeChat transfer screenshot dialogue, the text is:

My mother knows that I want to have dinner with her boyfriend, saying that girls should be independent and can't always spend my boyfriend. They all love me so much, what should I do!

The above content made the people who watched it very embarrassing.

Indeed, the circle of friends has become a place where many people create a perfect person.

They want to be an enviable object, and hope that all the lives they show are exquisite.

There is no problem to send my own circle of friends, but it can be too frequent. Several a day, it will also lose myself in the parallel online space, and gradually drifting away in the carefully carved circle of friends.

Some people will say: 100%I send is real, I am excellent, they are full of happiness, and others are jealous of me!

There is a saying: "I hope you live well, but don't want you to live better than me."

Behind the countless "congratulations", there are white eyes that are overwhelming, let alone the pan -intersection.

Those who really want you to have a good life are just a handful of people.

Source: panoramic vision

Some circle of friends are helpless

I often receive a similar WeChat:

The first article in the circle of friends, please help me like it, thank you.

Sometimes I didn’t reply, and the other party would let another private message:

Did you see the information? Do you like it? Please reply.

In this tone, I almost thought it was sent by the boss.

And this kind of praise often has a dial of both ends on both ends.

There is also a circle of friends who have become emotional vents.

Scolding the boss, scolding traffic jams, scolding customers ...

Nowadays, people are under pressure and fast pace, and they need to have several emotional exit, which can be understood.

But if you habitually make negative remarks, it will only make yourself a negative energy manufacturing machine and keep others away from you.

Moreover, it is difficult for people to feel the same, as Lu Xun described in the book:

A man from downstairs had to die, and the family sang a voices next door, opposite the child. There were two people laughing upstairs, and there was a sound of playing cards. There was a woman crying on the boat in the river.

Human sadness is not interactive, I just feel that they are noisy.

Source: panoramic vision

Those who send a circle of friends, the "burden" is too heavy

When I was brushed the circle of friends during the lunch break, a friend sent a very mournous dynamic. I just wanted to comfort it after I finished the word, and the results showed that the content had been deleted.

In fact, I also understand that the movement of sending a circle of friends is the emotional vent. After the post is sent, it is not wanting to be seen by the fragile side.

Murakami Haruki said:

You have to be a calm adult. Not allowed to be emotional, not to miss secretly, and not to look back.

One of the compulsory courses of adults is to "cover up emotions."

It is not that you ca n’t be mourned, you ca n’t be happy, but you must understand that many things are too emotional and do n’t help.

If it is said that deleting a circle of friends is the emotional burden of adults.

Then "take 5 minutes to take pictures, 2 hours of hair circles" is another burden -too much hope to get everyone's attention.

I have a friend who has tied with her to travel. As soon as she arrived at the destination, she took a lot of photos.

I saw her selected dozens of collections from hundreds of photos, and then screened out 9 closures, and then carved through major pictures.

Wait for a period of time when she thinks she can get a lot of likes, carefully sort, and press the release instruction.

From time to time, she took out her mobile phone to check the message and likes.

After a while, she was not satisfied with the number of praises, deleted, and then edited the Jiugongge again ...

Several toss, half a day passed, and the sense of tourism experience was almost zero.

Studies abroad have shown that the more people spend on social networks, the more unhappy this person will be.

Social media is a "mimic environment", which shows the life of processing.

As you have invested more and more, you are more and more concerned about whether it is recognized by others.

After the week, the circle of friends becomes a burden that makes you anxious. Source: panoramic vision

At the end

In fact, the circle of friends is personal freedom and does not need to "go online". The key is to be happy.

If you want to socialize through it, you may wish to send some content that is valuable to others to attract high -quality friends;

If you want to record your life, you may wish to create a window of self -display to attract the three -view people.

If you like to enjoy the life in reality, then put down your mobile phone and stay away from the fake and exquisiteness of the circle of friends. Just be yourself.

I just hope everyone can live like this:

"The days of not sending a circle of friends are living well; the days of sending a circle of friends are to live seriously."

I don't envy everyone who lives in the circle of friends, making the circle of friends a part of a serious life, and let others know one more window to know you.

Remember, living in the moment, our focus should be in life, not in the circle of friends.

Author: Lin Gongzi, the author of LinkedIn Chinese column, a number of financial/workplace platform signed authors, a rational and wealthy engineering product Wang Wang. Source: Hi-Lingongzi (ID: Hi-Lingongzi).

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