No matter who gets along with, please leave the "three hearts" and leave the way for yourself

"Zeng Guangxianwen" has a saying: "Easy to rise and retreat to mountains and streams, easy to recover villains."

In life, there are people who meet each other everywhere, but it is difficult for us to see what kind of heart is hidden behind the smiley face.

Whenever we are really disappointed, we know how to be kind and have a sharp edge.

Instead of believing in human nature, it is better to leave three "hearts" in advance and leave a retreat for yourself.

In this way, you can retreat when you are injured, and do not lose your heart when being slandered.

Paying a deep words, let alone

"Zeng Guangxianwen" has a saying: "Everyone just speaks three points, and I can't throw my heart."

When dealing with people, the depth of speech is often determined based on the relationship with each other.

Everyone likes to get out of heart, which will often fall into a passive situation.

In fact, the more you say, the greater the possibility of making mistakes.

Only by mastering the signs of speaking will it not cause trouble.

Yuan Xin just went to a legal company for internship, and the company's leaders arranged for her to study with Wang Hui.

Wang Hui was enthusiastically took Yuan Xin to understand the work content and precautions.

In the process of learning, the relationship between the two gradually became familiar.

During a chat, Wang Hui asked: "Why choose law -related work?"

Yuan Xin replied: "I am studying the law, and my uncle knows the company's leadership, and I recommend me here."

After a few days, the news spread in the company. The colleagues said that Yuan Xin came in by the back door, which made her very embarrassing.

After Yuan Xin understood the situation, he questioned Wang Hui: "I said to you when you were a friend, why do you tell you?"

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Wang Hui said, "I don't know they are so gossip."

After seeing Wang Hui's person, Yuan Xin kept a distance with her.

But this matter has been irreversible.

Until the end of the internship period, the superior leaders did not look at her again.

Confucius said a word: "For no one, it is said that it is wrong."

Language is a social bridge. The heartbroken person is to give the other party the power to cross the river to demolish the bridge.

Many times, the degree of your speech determines whether you have a retreat.

Whether it is self -exposure of privacy or self -exposure, it will increase the probability of others hurting you.

A good relationship has never been talking without talking; the words retaining three points are not hypocritical.

Talking is a kind of ability; shut -mouth is a kind of wisdom.

Smart people know how to speak, neither leave a handle for others, but also allow themselves to move forward and retreat freely.

The shallow Mo Yan is a social hidden rules for self -protection.

Struggling, not flattering, don't help

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Friends Lao Zhao and colleagues live in the same community.

On one occasion, Lao Zhao just met his colleague waiting for a bus, so he took him a journey.

Since then, this colleague has waited for the old Zhao's house every day, and this car has been caught for more than half a year.

At first, colleagues also thanked Lao Zhao, and occasionally refueling his car.

Over time, colleagues will not take themselves as outsiders. When he got on the car, he started playing with his mobile phone.

Lao Zhao was also suffering, but when he thought of all colleagues, he didn't care about it.

Later, after get off work, Old Zhao temporarily went to the airport to pick up people and left in advance.

The colleague waited for the old place in the old place after get off work.

After Lao Zhao explained the reason, his colleagues scolded in white and red soap: "Why don't you tell me in advance that the bus is gone now, how do you let me go home?"

Lao Zhao joked and said, "Then take a car, I am not a full -time Didi."

This sentence made colleagues angry and deleted Lao Zhao's WeChat directly.

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The next day, Lao Zhao sent a message to his colleagues like usual, only to find that he was no longer a friend of the other party.

Later, Lao Zhao learned from his colleagues that the colleague often said bad things to others.

Lao Zhao had no place to reach out, and he was a driver for more than half a year for others, and finally ended such an end.

There is a line in "Godfather":

"Without the soft heart of the border, it will only make the other person get inch; no principle kindness will only let the other person do whatever you want."

Many times, it is your kindness, feeding the selfishness of the other person's heart, and they dare to ask for no matter not.

There are always some "adult giant babies" in life. I do n’t know how to pay for others and trample on the kindness of others.

In the same way with them, not only do you have no courtesy, but will be disappointed again and again.

In interpersonal communication, people who are greedy should be far away;

Do not get yourself because you support other people's umbrellas.

Learn to be more than the ability to manage less.

Can't see you, don't make it

In psychology, there is a "crab effect".

Put more than two crabs in the basket, don't worry about them climbing out.

Because whenever there is a crab to climb out, the other will drag it down.

In life, there are always people who live like a crab in a basket. Once they see the people around her better than her, they will suppress it desperately.

Such people, like malignant tumors on the body.

If we want to maintain a healthy life, we must have the courage to cut off the tumor.

Higashino's work "Malith" tells a story towards extremes because of jealousy.

Nono Kouxiu and Nika Takahiko are small, but the character of the two is very different.

Wilder mouth is timid and lacks of opinion; day high is humble, upright and brave.

In his childhood, whenever Nonokou was bullied by the bad student, he always took the lead for him.

But this kind of in the eyes of Nomou was so dazzling, and even let him not face the courage to face high.

Later, in order to avoid campus violence, Nonokou took the initiative to join the underworld, and often punched and kicked Sun Gao.

But Ri Gao has never remembered him.

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Nono Mou has always had a writer's dream. He tried to write a lot of works, but he couldn't enter the eyes of the editor.

However, many years later, the high -rise has become a best -selling writer, and has a pivotal position in the literary world, which makes Nonokou full of jealousy.

With the manuscript fee of the work, Ri Gao bought a high -end villa, married a beautiful wife, and immigrated abroad in the near future.

Nonokou can only rely on writing children's literature. Snail lives in a single apartment and suffers from cancer.

But Nonokou did not seriously reflect on his shortcomings, but blame it all to the high height.

He only hates the sundial high, and he believes that he has snatched his beautiful life.

Soon, the jealous flames made Nonokou lose reason.

It took him two years to forge the evidence of various high -rise hegemony, plagiarizing his works, and then killed him the day before going abroad.

Higashino Keigo said: "The most difficult to look at the world, one is the sun, and the other is human heart."

In life, there are always people who can't see others better than themselves.

Whenever he sees others dazzling than himself, he is jealous and blames the outstanding people.

I would rather splash a mud by himself, and he also pulled others to get off the water.

When you meet such a person, keep a distance from him.

Otherwise, the other party not only cannot add icing on the cake, but also push you into the abyss.

People live for a lifetime, just like rushing in the shades of water.

No one can foresee whether there is danger in the river, and I don't know if the peers are good.

Therefore, when you touch the stones and cautiously, you can make you feel safe.

If you do n’t talk to those who do n’t talk about your heart, you will not be subject to others; if you do n’t work with those who do n’t understand gratitude, you will not really pay mistakes; you will not be consumed unnecessaryly without making friends with jealousy.

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It is true that the way of communication is sincere.

But the flowers in the wild are always blown by the wind, and children without umbrellas are also the most easily wet by the rain.

Leaving these three "hearts" is not for the sake of superiority, just to retain a decentness when arguing with others.

For the rest of your life, I hope you will keep your mouthful, do good deeds, recognize people, and live quietly in your life in complex interpersonal relationships.

Author: Baizhou, live on the boat in life.

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