Psychological chat | "I have hard work to share with everyone" -ri to complain online is it a good way to decompress it?

Recently, a post -00s fell into a crisis of dismissal after the company's circle of tucgling the company. This incident caused discussion among netizens. For some young people, a little unhappy or embarrassed in life in life is a kind of understanding of the Internet. The method also appeared anonymous vomiting video series represented by "Lemon Head Video", which is very popular. These people who are anonymous on the Internet are also known as the "hard learning" home of the Internet. "I have hard work to share with everyone", is the Internet "hard learning" a good way to decompress it? Zhang Yan, a member of the China Psychological and Health Association and a national second -level psychological counselor, talked.

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Don't you vomit? Why is the Internet "hard learning" popular?

Before you talk about it, you may wish to understand what the Internet is "studying hard". On various video platforms, you may have seen such videos: a big lemon dangling, you can only see people's eyes and mouths on it, and the "lemon head" in the video spit out all kinds of bad, bad, and bad, and Embarrassing, angry life trivial, "stepping on a friend's toilet to a broken foot", "The second day of the school was absent from school, but I was a teacher", "I proposed to the doctor after the general hemp surgery, but my boyfriend is around" ... After the bitter water, netizens of the comment area laughed. Such videos are very popular among young people.

Zhang Yan believes that the popularity of the Internet "learning hard" is inseparable from young people's dependence on mobile phones. "Long -term learning and living habits make mobile phones the most trusted friend in their lives, and mobile phones have become important parts of social life. In reality, in reality The emotions that are difficult to release in life, the Internet talks such a simple and convenient way to protect privacy becomes the choice of young people. "

This kind of video does have different charm for the viewer. After 00, Xiao Xue said that he especially liked to watch the "lemon head" video, "because I don't think everyone will pretend to be strong, and expose the real on the mask of the lemon head. On the one hand. "After 00, the student Xiao Zhang also took such vomiting videos." Although I won't watch it deliberately, I still feel that the lemon head video is very real emotional sharing, and I tried to shoot. "

The Internet "study hard" just transfers emotions and cannot actively solve the problem

In Zhang Yan's view, the Internet "hard work" is a process of transferring emotions and rationalization. "In fact, the more scientific method is to solve the problem positively and actively, not to transform, replace or suppress the problem."

A few days ago, in a post -00 -growth program, a post -00 girl believed that the traffic in the live broadcast room of her team was serious and unhappy, so the emotional driving the circle of friends to refund the private domain users. After the company saw it, it severely criticized its content to damage the company's image and believed that it was an irresponsible behavior to vent their personal emotions unlimitedly. As a result, she was in a crisis of being fired. Netizens have discussing this.

Taking this as an example, Zhang Yan said, "We should seek communication with the people around us and communicate with the company, not only to let ourselves grow, but also change our unreasonable expectations and unreasonable ideas. This is what we should do. part."

We can also see that many videos and graphics on the Internet are actually not a big deal. Most of them are trivial matter, a small embarrassment in life, a little bit of unscrupulous in the workplace, and some netizens think that young people think that young people It's too hard to endure, this little thing will come out to "sell miserable". Zhang Yan believes that this is actually related to the difference in personal value concepts. It ’s not important to work hard for tea to send water and running legs for people. This may be because there is no sense of belonging to the new company and there is no sense of collectiveness. We have a better collective collective. When we have such a belief, we may be possible This service will be valuable for others to actively serve others. "Zhang Yan also gave parents a reference for parents when educating their children:" If you are a parent, it is best to cultivate him from the child as a child as a child. The sense of responsibility, this home is everyone's home, we must emphasize this. "

How to correctly solve "my heart is suffering"? Choose the right disclosure object

There is no embarrassment in her life that there are a few embarrassing things that want to find a ground sewing into. For young people to share the embarrassing things in their lives to the Internet to make everyone happy, Zhang Yan also expressed understanding, and understanding. "When we have a embarrassment, do we choose to release or cover it depends on the tolerance of personal pressure. When the pressure is too high to release digestion, it is actually a good choice to talk about."

There are also different ways to talk about. The reporter interviewed three post -00s: Xiao A said that he would generally share with good friends, and he would also vomit vibrato; Xiao B would talk to his friends and family; Xiao C would choose to be in his own Em who vent his emotions in Weibo and talk about life troubles. Zhang Yan gave three sources of interpretation objects from the perspective of psychological counselor. The first is to find the person. "They can be the elders of the loved one or their own teachers. The help. "The second is to find a person -like person -like person." If we have a very caring sister -type person in our lives, you can also seek her help. You can establish a good relationship with them. , They can play a role in companionship. "The third subject is a psychological counselor." We often say that everyone needs a psychological counselor. To find some psychological foundations and help you to do self -analysis, Personnel, adjust your mentality. "Zhang Yan also gave some small methods for how to deal with the embarrassing things in life with a better mentality:" First of all, we must continue to learn to improve our tolerance. It may be really small things for others. We have to stop thinking about why this happens. The reason should be considered from the incident to avoid re -occurrence. If it is the fault of others, we must also learn to forgive and let ourselves. For the calamity that cannot be avoided, adjust your mentality, actively accept the response, find a way to solve the meeting, Better. "Yangtze Evening News/Zi Niu News reporter Shen Zhao

Edit: Qin Xiaoyi

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