Children are unwilling to participate in cadres in class, and think they must not be elected. What should parents do?

When I know the help of a parent's help, it is about the child's unwilling to run for cadres.

Seeing this problem, I remembered the change of my child after being a cadre of the cadre.

There are three reasons:

1. When the cadre can strengthen the child's responsibility, make the child more responsible

2. When the cadre can exercise the leadership of the child

3. When the cadre of the class can also let the child be aggressive and learn more proactively

These three points are my personal experience, because since my child was in the first grade and after being a class cadre, his entire life state has changed.

For a very subtle example, as the deputy squad leader, he often has to manage some class affairs, such as maintaining order, organizing early reading, keeping clean and tidy in the classroom, etc., but the matter in all classes is his business.

In terms of learning, the child has also changed from the previous carelessness to his own active learning, saying that he must do a good job of example, and at the same time, he cannot behind other classmates in the class.

Next,

Parents asked their children to run for cadres, and the child was immediately denied that they could not choose. This is a helplessness.

The reason is that in ordinary life, parents must be negative emotions such as orders, accusations, criticism and complaints in interactive exchanges with their children.

There are more negative energy, and the child's acquisition is naturally weak and helpless. In this way, the belief of "I can't" and "I can't do well" in the child's heart.

What should I do?

In fact, it is easy to solve.

Because my child was always a person who always thought that he couldn't do anything, and he couldn't do anything. When he encountered difficulties and challenges, he wanted to retreat.

Hope to be inspired to parents.

The first point is that allowing children to make mistakes and treat mistakes as a chance to learn

When children make mistakes, as long as they are not too wrong, parents should not criticize their children severely, but should correctly look at the child's mistakes and failures.

Don't say that "you are so big, you can't do this", "Why are you so stupid" and so on.

It is not terrible to make mistakes and failures. It is just an opportunity for children to learn. The correct approach is to encourage children to explore and solve problems, help children find a sense of accomplishment and self -worth, and improve their thinking ability.

The second point is to guide the children's reasonable attribution

Children with fixed thinking and growth thinking, their trust in their ability and the attribution of failure to the outside world is different.

Children with fixed thinking often attribute their mistakes and failures to their ability, there is no way, and feel that they will always be like this. Children with growth thinking are the opposite. They will feel that failure is temporary. Through efforts, they can still do well.

Parents guide good children to make correct and reasonable attribution to errors or failures, which will help children develop growth thinking.

The third point, teach children to look at problems from multiple perspectives

There are many factors. Similarly, there are multiple angles that we look at one thing.

The child has made a mistake or failed. The first angle may not be. But from another perspective, the child's mistakes and failures are just a good thing that can learn from experience and gain growth.

Edison inventor Edison did more than 1,500 experiments that did not find materials suitable for electric light filaments. Some people laughed at him and said, "Mr. Edison, you have failed more than 1500 times.

The lovely Disheng's answer was: "No, I have no failure. My achievement is that I found that more than 1,500 materials are not suitable for the filament of electric lights.

Whether one thing fails or success is often not in the matter itself, but how we look at it.

Therefore, parents are more to find parts that help their children's growth, give children a big trial error and growth space, and determined that children can do well. This is the only way to improve children's confidence.

The fourth point is not to ridicule the child

When the child does one thing clumsy, it is always not good, or the child often raises some questions that make parents look very naive. Parents must not ridicule and ridicule their children. Once this is done, the child dare not try it easily next time.

Parents can encourage their children to perceive and think about their thoughts. If they feel that their children's thoughts are wrong, they will be patient with the child to guide the child to think more and more reasonably.

Fifth point, give children the right to choose

I do n’t believe that children who have the ability to make well do n’t like to make choices, and they are afraid of making choices. They prefer to listen to others, and others make choices and decisions for themselves.

Give the child to choose the right, that is, parents must let go and let their children make their own choices. In daily life, parents can make more choices for their children.

For example, take your child out on the weekend and ask the child whether to go to the zoo or the playground.

Give a range of choices so that children can choose themselves, so that they can increase the trust of their children's ability.

The probability of dismissal of this incident is still quite large. In terms of changes in things, it is impossible for a person to be a cadre every year and every semester! There will always be improper.

For children who believe in their ability, removal will not bring too much impact on children.

The squad leader in my child's class was a girl, and she was replaced after a long time. I once asked the child's view on this matter. If he was withdrawn one day, what would he think?

The child answered me and said, "It's nothing!I might have some unhappy, but I won't be too sad.As long as the class is good, it doesn't matter if I improperly.In the final analysis, this can also be regarded as a cultivation of frustration ability. As long as parents can guide them, even if the child is withdrawn, it is not a big deal.

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