How to get out of the "Island" in the workplace "Social Fear"

If you can send a message, you do n’t call, you do n’t want to be the focus of any occasion ... There is a popular word on social networks, which summarizes these performances- "Social Fear."

In social occasions, anxiety and tension are usually normal, but the response of patients with social phobia is often extremely obvious. In fact, the "social terror" in the lighter mouth of the year is mainly a manifestation of anxiety. Data show that since 2016, the retrieval popularity of the term "social fear" has shown a trend of rising years, and there are many people in the workplace "social fear".

Workplace phenomenon: do not want to be the focus of attention

"Social terror" always has a sense of spotlight following its own feelings, thinking that the whole world is quietly paying attention to themselves. This kind of tension will be enlarged infinitely in the heart. "Fear of becoming the focus of the crowd, worrying that she is ugly and embarrassed," said Ms. Huang who was interviewed.

In addition to being afraid to show himself in public, Ms. Huang also showed high sensitivity in privately with colleagues. "When talking to others, I am always afraid of the other person who doesn't like me. Sometimes the other person's eyes, I will automatically make up a lot of things." Ms. Huang always falls into self -doubts, and even , Work ability, etc., make comprehensive questioning and denial.

Along with the psychological cognition of "others don't like me" and "I am not worthy of others", "social fear" sometimes makes some behaviors that deliberately please others. Because he is too eager to get the recognition and acceptance of others, it gradually forms a "flattering personality". Xiao Zhang, who just graduated from college this year, said: "I always want to cater to the emotions of others, and I can't be myself."

Among the respondents, the proportion of "social terror" accounts for 61.7%(drawing/Zhu Lanying)

Micro survey: over half the respondent is afraid of social networking

A few days ago, the author's theme of the "Social Fear" of the workplace carried out a small survey. Among the 70 questionnaires recovered, more than half of the respondents clearly stated that they were "afraid of socializing". The proportion is 61.7%.

The questionnaire showed that when asked "the most tense or anxious occasion", 37%of the respondents chose to "speak on stage", 30%of the respondents chose "receiving call", and 15% The respondent chose "dialogue with unfamiliar people".

"When I took the subway to get off work, I saw that others leaned their bodies on the side door that was not often opened, but it would open the door from that side in the next stop. This is very dangerous." Ms. Han told reporters, "I am in my heart. Struggling, do you want to remind her, you need to know that in the carriage, I can say that I ca n’t say that I have borrowed it.

Like Ms. Han, Ms. Wei also divided herself into the "social terror" crowd. She said: "During lunch, I was afraid of meeting my colleagues in the cafeteria, so I tried to lower my head as much as possible, didn't look at others, and didn't want others to see me." Ms. Wei also revealed that before docking with colleagues or leaders, Ms. , I will do my own psychological struggle for a long time, "I am particularly afraid of saying something wrong or doing something wrong."

Finding root: Most of these personalities are not inherently born

In fact, most of the personality of "social fear" is not born, but formed by the day after tomorrow. In the interview, the author found that the performance of "social terror" such as fear of strange environment, dare not communicate with people, high sensitivity, and low self -esteem has a great relationship with the original emotions and virtual social.

Such as emotional denial. Ms. Han told reporters that when she was crying for a lost toy when she was a child, her mother would only leave a sentence, "Don't cry, don't you see me busy", or simply ignore it. This scene is that emotions have been denied. Over time, Ms. Han did not dare to express herself, and she was daring.

In addition, the author found that the environment of "post -90s" and "post -00s" growth is no longer a stable and traditional "acquaintance society", but a "strangers society with high liquidity and uncertainty "". With the rapid development of industrialization, the process of urbanization is gradually accelerating, and society is also changing from "related society" to "contract society", and the "social distance" between people is actually gradually increasing.

In the context of the rapid popularity of the Internet, online virtual interaction has gradually replaced many offline face -to -face exchanges. In this social environment, the young generations who grew up adapting to virtual interaction on social networks such as WeChat and QQ. "Net chat does not need to look at each other's expressions and body language, and even hear the tone and tone of the other party, which will greatly alleviate my embarrassment and nervousness when I socialize." Xiao Zhang told the author.

Constitution attention: Help the workplace to overcome "social terror"

In the workplace, for young people who affect interpersonal relationships and their career development due to "social fear", how to help them alleviate "social terror" and quickly integrate into the workplace family, some corporate unions in this city have given full attention.

Liang Xiaowen, chairman of the union of Shanghai Xinhua City Culture Media Co., Ltd., told reporters that, in addition to the regular group construction twice a year, the corporate union will hold a variety of activities every month and actively invite employees, especially new people in the workplace.

"Reading activities, exercise check -in, volunteer services, and psychological lectures, these are almost every week, which can not only improve the team cohesion, but also help our new employees into the collective." According to Liang Xiaowen, in these activities, in these activities, these activities Psychological lectures are most popular with employees.

In addition, Liang Xiaowen also mentioned that each department of the company has a "mentor with teaching" activities, actively helping new employees to quickly familiarize with job responsibilities and better work. Especially for fresh graduates who have just entered the workplace, this measure is very helpful. In addition to the status of the chairman of the corporate union, Liang Xiaowen also has a status, that is, the national second -level psychological counselor. One of her young female employees in her company is extremely introverted at the time of new employment. It is recognized as "social terror".

Liang Xiaowen arranged that the female employee became the leader and serviceman of the union activity as the leader and service of the union activities. In this way, before the event was carried out, communicating and coordinating with colleagues before the event became part of her work. In addition, when she encountered difficulties, Liang Xiaowen would encourage in time, and eventually exercised her social ability.

"Now that she has done a good job, she is usually active and active, and she is no longer afraid of communicating with others." Liang Xiaowen introduced, "The most important change is that she was always attached to other people's opinions, and now she will be courageous. Express your different views. "

Source: Labor News

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