11 pictures see clearly whether you love your child or doting

Love or doting? 3 standards for reference.

This article is authorized to reprint from the public account: Niu Ma Peng Xiaoyu (ID: pengxiaobeng)

Feel the child of love in the heart,

It's warm,

This is full of confidence and energy.

And children who are over -arranged,

It's confused,

They often don't know what they really want.

Feel the child you love,

It's happy,

They feel that they are helped by others,

Satisfied.

But the loved child,

They are not easy to feel love,

Because they feel all this,

Of course,

So even though the people around him have loved him very much,

He still can't feel it,

Or it is difficult to feel.

Feel the child you love,

I feel very capable,

They will actively learn and grow,

Give your own value,

So as to get a sense of value.

And the loved child,

The only thing they need to work hard,

Just make the people around,

Turn around yourself.

Feel the child you love,

Will have a sense of community,

Because during the growth process,

When he pays labor and helps others,

Always get more encouragement and value,

This prompts them to care more about others.

And children who are over -arranged,

The adults around them often emphasize:

"Don't move this"

"You only need to learn"

"This doesn’t need you"

They don't need to pay much,

You can easily get love and value,

Therefore, they don't care much about others.

Love to make children work hard,

In the process of hard work,

Get the sense of control,

Feel self -confidence.

And the loved child,

Excessive arranged,

Encounter difficulties,

I was arranged before I worked hard,

The sense of control and self -confidence cannot come out.

Love is from the child's emotional needs,

In order to cultivate children's independence,

We need to restrain our love.

And doting is from your own needs,

For example, you need to save your face,

Need to ease your anxiety,

Need to stop the criticism of others ...

Love is given,

It's not the alley,

It is based on the premise of respect and acceptance.

And doting is compensation,

Compensate your dissatisfaction,

Your emotional vacancies.

Feel the child you love,

They will be better, stronger, and superior to the goal,

Because they have been encouraged to move forward.

Feel the child who is doting,

They aim to show weakness,

Because weakness is a weapon,

No need to work hard,

You can get everything you want.

Love can achieve a child

Doting can successfully abolish the hands and feet of a child.

because of love,

So we know restraint,

Keep the border,

What is important to raise a child is to let him leave smoothly,

We have to exit,

Children can truly live themselves.

And love,

It's compensation for self,

Cross the border,

Make children difficulty.

Love can take the boat,

Can also cover the boat.

How to control it?

How to grasp the strength and border of love and doting?

Niu Ma Peng Xiaopu combed 3 standards for reference:

First

You do this

Is it more confident in children?

Or is it more inferior?

Do you think you are stupid and incompetent?

second

You do this

Is it more motivated to make your child more motivated?

Do you want to work hard?

Or is he more frustrated and don't want to do it?

third

You do this

Does it make children feel more community?

Is he more concerned about the people and things around you?

Practice the team more and helpful

Can you accept some criticism and doubts?

Or

He cares more about himself

Just care whether you are loved, whether you are sure

Do you have more?

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