How do I know whether the consultant I encountered is not suitable?

The process of choosing a consultant is always accompanied by many confusion.

You don't know if this person is worth trust in front of you?

You don't know if TA can answer your confusion?

I hope this article can help you go into consultation better.

How to determine that I have encountered a suitable consultant?

When we first do psychological counseling, we may be a little uncomfortable in our hearts. After all, why do I tell the most difficult secret in life to a stranger? These secrets don't even know even my closest friends or partners.

Will the consultant bring a dignified expression and let me tell me the evil thoughts in my head? Still want to write it?

How do I know if TA is a suitable consultant?

With these questions, people always hesitate to decide whether to do psychological counseling.

01

Establish a therapy alliance

Generally speaking, the consultant will listen to every sentence you said through empathy, focusing and seriously, so that you can feel that you are understood and noticed, so you will believe that this method is really effective for you.

The relationship between visitors and consultants is often called the healing alliance. Consultants and visitors will jointly confirm the tasks, themes, and goals that the consultation should explore, and establish a relationship between both parties and trust.

It is not difficult to understand the importance of the treatment of alliances in the process of psychological counseling. After all, if we lack a sense of security and trust, who will easily remove our defense and express our fragility? Both are necessary prerequisites for psychological counseling to produce effects.

Without the establishment of such an alliance, we would not have the opportunity to reach and solve the depths of the visitors.

The research results show that when you find a consultant who can establish the relationship between the healing alliance, your consultation effect will be more obvious.

And this relationship is not only a means to improve the effect of consulting, it also helps people learn to live with more open, more proactive and more active attitudes. Learning these skills is even more important than the alliance relationships. The life of the person has a positive impact.

It is thought that if the psychological counseling can't let us really change ourselves, what's the point of this alliance relationship in this long -term consultation? Therefore, we must internalize this relationship and bring it out of the consultation room to have a lasting impact on our lives.

02

Master better psychological elasticity

Studies have shown that when you meet a good consultant and build a good alliance relationship, you will master better psychological flexibility and righteous thoughts and become part of your own life.

Prove this very simple: think about those who can give you power in life, the image of the person appears in your mind, and then answer the following 6 questions:

When you are together:

心Ta can enjoy you wholeheartedly, will you be energetic? Look at time from time to time?

触 When your eyes are in contact, do you feel a conscious connection between you? Or only to see the dark and erratic eyes of the other person, as if the thought is not here?

到 Do you feel that you are accepted deeply?

批 Do you have been criticized or accused? still none?

想 Will they care about your thoughts? Still don't care what you think at all?

方式 Do you like the way you meet?

These are some simple questions about psychological elasticity and mindfulness. I can be sure of your answer. These are all issues of consciousness, openness and active life.

It can be said that in interpersonal relationships, people will be encouraged by the encouragement of the other party and the support of psychological elasticity and mindfulness.

03

What is a suitable consultant?

Back to our question now, how can we determine that we have encountered a suitable consultant?

You need to find a consultant who can use a good method, these methods have been scientifically verified. At the same time, it is necessary to ensure that your relationship with the consultant is trusting and feeling safe, and you will agree on how to carry out opinions.

Then to confirm whether the consultant is acceptable and not judged, it will pay attention to the current moment from a deeper spiritual level. Over time, you can see if your consultant helps you build a more active, open and valuable lifestyle.

If you see these characteristics on your consultant and notice the changes in your body, then congratulations, you have found a consultant who suits you.

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Compiled in this article, the original link: htps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/get-det-dind/202209/how-dow-dherapist Author: Steven C. HayesPH.D.

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