Seven years later, China's first "male Deban" restarted, and the training focused on training: how to become a good partner and a good father

↑ The first pictures of the "Male De Ban" training activity are provided by the interviewees.

Red Star News reporter 丨 Zhou Wehao

Edit 丨 Yu Dongmei Guozhuang

On September 15, 2022, Fang Gang, a male participating expert who has been engaged in sex and gender -related research for a long time, released a push that recruits the leader of the "male De Ban".

In fact, Fang Gang's "Male Deban" began in 2015. At that time, a group of "female virtue" that was born from the "female commandment" and "female training" in the society prevailed. The first "men's Duban". But the response is not satisfactory -in addition to the dialogue on the Internet, the registration situation is also very deserted. There are only two students who register through social channels. The course arrangement of the 6 -day course of 6 days has to be shortened to 3 days.

Why restart this project again after 7 years? Fang Gang said that it is mainly the change of the social environment, "this year is fully prepared." Regarding the prospects of this event, he predicts that he will polarize.

Fang Gang said that the word "male virtue" is the operating strategy used by the team: "Female Duban is exacerbating gender inequality, we emphasize gender equality, it is a kind of echo, and it also refers to the opposite."

Tian Bin, a volunteer who participated in the event 7 years ago, explained more directly. "In fact, some of them are considered to advertise. Will the name come to sign up? "

↑ The site of the first "Male De Ban" training activity site

Only one -third of the students in the preliminary training class are men

In the article of recruiting leaders, Fang Gang defines the training goal of "Men's Duban" as: advocating gender equality, reflecting on governing male temperament, opposing gender violence, challenging unequal gender mechanisms, cultivating men to make full -type partners in participating types ,Father.

According to his explanation, the core of this project is to cultivate students' gender equality, male participation awareness, and the concepts and methods of male participation. The so -called male participation, according to the definition given by the United Nations, means that men participate in family and social work traditionally engaged in women, and participate in the work of opposing gender violence and promoting gender equality.

Falling at the practical level, opposing gender violence, conducting the counseling of gender violence, and the skill improvement through the form of a learning group are necessary. Essence

Fang Gang admits that he uses the role of "father" to participate in family affairs and children's education to plan the curriculum to reduce the resistance of the promotion of the event. This may be more registered. "

As a number of male participation experts who have cooperated in a number of domestic and foreign organizations at home and abroad for a long time, Fang Gang has a long -term observation of the participation of domestic men in China. He has long promoted public welfare projects such as the "Good Dad Training Course" and "Good Dad Workshop", and also realized that some changes in domestic men's participation are occurring.

He revealed that in the first half of 2022, "Good Dad Workshop", of the more than 300 students participating in, nearly 100 people were men, "one -third is male, very good." In addition, Fang Gang is ongoing another separate other. Among the anti -domestic violence projects, the proportion of men also accounts for about one -tenth, which has significantly increased compared to the past projects.

In intuitive, Fang Gang felt that the practice of gender equality in 7 years has improved, and the media's discussion and thinking on husbands and father's posts are becoming more and more common, including some young "family husbands" on the Internet. Home life.

In the past, this is unimaginable. In 2013, Fang Gang once launched a project that tells the story of individual life by men, and contacted a "family husband", but the other party showed some kind of resistance and resistance to his identity and life. It is difficult to be a full -time master husband. "

From the statistical data, the real situation of this change is not optimistic-according to the data of the "Fourth China Women's Social Status Survey" in 2021, the daily life care, counseling operation and delivery of children 0-17 are mainly borne by the mother. Families accounted for 76.1%, 67.5%, and 63.6%, respectively; women's care time for family members and housework, cooking, cleaning, daily procurement and other household chores were 154 minutes, which was twice that of men.

↑ The site of the first "Male De Ban" training activity site

Break the "second" identity role of men in traditional families

Volunteer Tian Bin believes that this change is still based on the consciousness of individual men, but she feels "after 7 years, this progress is not great."

In 2015, when the first "Male Deban" was opened, because the students required were men, she could only participate in it as a volunteer. In Tian Bin's eyes, the "failure" of that project was unexpected. The social implementation of this project itself is making an attempt, and there is no high expectations for it. "

That activity triggered a heated discussion in society and further confirmed her judgment. According to the report of Surging News in 2015, after the end of the first "Male Deban", the online evaluation of this activity showed a significant trend of polarization. Some male netizens or ridiculed in the discussion. Wife is ok ", or criticize" men do not live for pleasure for women! "Behind this is a conflict between equal gender concepts and traditional gender division of labor. Tian Bin pointed out that in some families, the gender status and relationship between men and women actually rely on men's awareness of gender equality. "If this man has a better awareness of gender equality, he can treat his wife well. If not, The emotional life of his wife will become bitter. "

In her opinion, a core concept that "Men's Duban" needs to be advocated is that the family's internal housework, the next generation of raising issues, and life planning. "Second" identity role.

In the career of Tian Bin's volunteer career, I have seen a lot of similar family situation: "Men are usually tired after returning home after get off work. Naturally, the work is very busy and refuses to get close to the family. "But in fact, many wives are also at work, but they cannot escape the responsibility of the family.

With the development of market -oriented transformation, the concept of men in Chinese society has changed in the opposite direction, which returns to tradition. A study by Liu Aiyu, a professor at the Department of Sociology of Peking University in 2019, showed that the concept of "men supporting family" in the sex of the gender appeared to the traditional regression from 1990 to 2010. Men supported "men's family support" by 1990 45.6%rose to 61.7%in 2010, an increase of 16.1 percentage points; women rose from 44.6%to 56.5%, an increase of 11.9 percentage points.

In this study, Liu Aiyu pointed out factors such as education, occupation, income, etc., affecting men's cognition and support for men's concepts of supporting men. Specifically, "men and women who do not work in their husbands and wives do not work. ; When the husband does not work or his wife works, it will weaken the cognition and support for men supporting the family. "

Fang Gang, who has long -term research and gender issues, pointed out that behind this division of labor, there is also a system of value judgment -defining both men as high value, and women are related to low -value.

↑ The site of the first "Male De Ban" training activity site

15 people have signed up, almost half of men and women

In Fang Gang's planning "Men's Duban" course, in addition to calling on men to participate in family life, it has been repeatedly mentioned- "reflecting on governing male temperament", which is not consistent with the traditional male temperament.

As early as 2012, the media such as the Dahe Daily pushed the issue of the "boy crisis" to the public. At that time, the reporter was based on a survey report from the China Youth Research Center, saying that Chinese aged 0 to 18 years old was academic and 18 years old. Physical, psychological, and social adaptability all shows signs of lagging behind girls.

In the same year, many schools in Jiangsu, Shanghai and other places promoted the so -called "boys' class", focusing on all male student classes such as the male class teacher. In 2016, Shanghai launched the first primary school boy gender textbook "Little Man" in China. The textbook was published by Shanghai Education Press. The editor -in -chief of the textbook said that he hopes to pass this textbook, "supplement the trouble for boys to grow out of growth a little positive. Energy allows the future of the motherland to have more sunshine and masculine men. "

Inspired by the "Boy Crisis", there is also the "Men's True Color" club opened in Beijing. In the past, reports showed that the club conducted so -called "men" education by allowing children to participate in fierce competitive campaigns, as well as shirtless running in winter. Essence At that time, the Global Times wrote an article to discuss this phenomenon, saying that "through carts, boxing, and roar, it may not allow people to gain masculinity, and masculinity is not only a single expression mode."

Fang Gang's discussion involved "male temperament". In his opinion, it is not advisable to cover another rules to cover another. He is more concerned about discussing the negative impact of traditional male temperament with the students. Fang Gang pointed out that this governing male temperament seems to make men occupy "active" in gender relationships, but it may also deprive men's life happiness.

For example, encouraging the so -called "strict father" may affect the relationship between parent -child, and one -sided emphasis on success and strength, constantly requiring men to pursue money and social status, and respect for violence will destroy the marriage relationship- "Each every one Behind the so -called positive interests, there must be a man's trauma. "

Based on this logic, in the "Men's Duban" related courses, he regards the gender temperament of compatibility as one of the main kernels, "is compatible and stored, with all good character. Everyone has the right to choose their own gender practice and gender. drill."

↑ The site of the first "Male De Ban" training activity site

After the release of this recruitment article, almost all those who came to participate in the registration were related people who had already devoted themselves to the affairs of gender equality. Fang Gang said that three days after the article was released, he directly received the registration and consultation of more than a dozen people, and these dozen people were volunteers of the white ribbon of the anti -domestic violation project. As of September 23, 8 days later, the number of applicants was 15, of which the proportion of men and women was almost each and half. Fang Gang said that the number of applicants can form 5 groups. They will also further screen and leave three groups. According to his plan, the recruitment activity in September mainly was to receive the "leaders" in various places. Fang Gang directly conducted relevant training and combined with the modified activity manuals, so that these leaders had follow -up independent independent training. Ability, as for the courses for the public, will be completed by these leaders.

Compared to 7 years ago, Fang Gang believes that this time the preparation is more sufficient. In addition to raising the project funding support activities, he also has a longer plan for the course. It is planned to last two months before and after. The way of training activities forms a participating workshop mode.

According to his plan, in the future training courses and related activities, they are carried out in the form of free participation. The cost is borne by related project funds, but whether this model goes through, Fang Gang himself is not sure, "Why think of now, I think of it now. Doing this? It is also because we have found funds and some funding. If we do it, I am a little worried that I ca n’t do it. Frankly, at least we do n’t dare to try it now. ”

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