Good marriage is "pretended"

Text/Chelsea anchor/Tong Tong

Writer Monada said a word:

"Mrs. Blind, with Mr. Deaf, will be the most perfect marriage in the world."

This sentence is a bit rough at first glance, think about it, it is true.

If the two people in the marriage can be heard clearly, everything can be clearly seen, and such a life is destined to be a disaster.

Who's life is not Chai rice oil and salt? Whose marriage is not a chicken hair?

A good marriage is not without contradictions, not without grievances, but to learn "pretend".

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Pretending to be deaf, not to show weakness, but concessions

I have heard a cruel sentence: "The truth about marriage life is to regret who marry."

Life is full of trivial, no matter how harmoniously, it is inevitable to bump, and even the deep feelings are unavoidable.

The marriage of white -headed old age is indispensable to complain and accuse.

Behind the calm and quiet, someone learned to make concessions.

I have watched the netizen@曾 sharing online.

Netizens have been married to her husband for more than ten years, and they will inevitably have disputes because of family chores.

Husband is anxious and emotional, and once confrontation, it will evolve into a fierce battle.

After understanding her husband's temper, every time there is a dispute, netizens start to pretend to be deaf.

Sometimes, her husband chatted endlessly. She didn't say a word, and she didn't hear it, and concentrated on doing her own things.

When her husband saw that netizens should not answer, they stopped doing sounds.

Of course, netizens also can't stand it.

Whenever she at this time, she went to the garden a few laps. After returning, she was like nothing, and at this time, her husband calmed down.

Friends around me did not understand the practices of netizens, thinking that she was too much.

Some people even told her, "Why do you live so aggrieved? Do you change one? Do you know that many men can't marry your daughter -in -law now?"

Netizens answered indifferently: "He has no principle wrong mistakes. The little quarrel in life is nothing more than letting each other, and he will let me let me let me let me."

American psychologist Geterman once said: "No matter how good the marriage, there are 200 divorce thoughts in life, and 50 times to strangle each other's urge to kill each other."

When the teeth are also inevitable to touch the tongue, let alone two people with very different personalities.

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The party that concessions in marriage is not to be loser, not to admit defeat, nor weak, but not wanting to dispel each other's friendship in unnecessary quarrels.

Together with the happiness of the two people's life, not a personal game. If you do not have to win, you will lose and win, and you will lose the happiness of the first life.

Home is a place to talk about, not a reasonable place; marriage is the harbor of love, not a quarrel battlefield.

Properly deafness is also a way to operate marriage.

Pretending to be blind, not to agree, but respect

Are you also disgusted with your husband's dirty socks?

Will he not be used to the stains left after using the toilet?

Did he also hate that he always trembled on the ground you just dragged?

Professor Zeng Shiqiang said in a speech:

If you have a cautious choice, do not pick the three and make the hair.

No one can withstand picky, as long as you are picky, the other party must have problems.

Before you get married, open your eyes, open your eyes and close your eyes after getting married.

In this way, everyone lives well, and it is definitely not to lie to themselves, but to respect both parties.

In the Australian Open in 2010, the Tennis Queen Li Na did not play well one after another, and was very irritable.

At this time, Jiang Shan, who had been instructing Li Na on the stands, hit her muzzle.

Regardless of the lens of the live broadcast, Li Na kept his mouth loud, and Jiang Shan lost his face in front of the audience around the world.

In fact, this is not the first time he has been regarded as an air cylinder in the live broadcast.

In order to alleviate the pressure on the field, he didn't know how many times he was roared by his wife.

Netizens have elaborated for him, but he didn't care.

After many years of getting along, he knew his wife's smell too much and knew that she had an imperfect side, but he did not complain and still loved this shortcoming wife.

Hayao Miyazaki once said: "Love is not looking for a perfect person, but to learn to use perfect eyes to appreciate that imperfect person."

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The two people live together. The closer they are, the longer they are, the more problems they find each other.

Accepting the opponent's imperfect side in marriage is not forced, not forbearing, nor is they identifying, but to understand the differences between each other and learn to seek common groundwork.

Marriage is not to choose the perfect lover, but to find the intimate puppet.

If you always use a magnifying glass to enlarge the disadvantages of the other party, to find the flaws of life, the more disappointing you can see, the easier it is to marry to the end.

Don't look at everything in your eyes, occasionally pretending to be blind, maintaining the decentness of the other party, but the future of marriage.

Pretending to be stupid, not confused, but sharing

When "Thirty" was hit, the audience thought that Gu Jia was too perfect.

I got the hall, and I got the kitchen.

However, such a smart and capable she would inevitably end up.

She tried to dominate her husband's life and career, and arranged everything in a well -organized.

Starting with his husband, he only made him responsible for fireworks design, and he did his hard work responsible for all the operations of the company.

In order to improve the quality of life of the family, she worked hard to let her family live on a big villa. Where can she do it? There is a plot that makes people particularly emotional.

After Xu Xiushan and Xiao San took it, he did nothing at home and worked with furniture for her.

When I got home, I happened to see Gu Jia's assembly of furniture, so I wanted to grab it.

Gu Jia smiled and said, "What are you doing at home?"

Xu Mihan replied: "It's right." Then he left embarrassingly.

Some netizens commented that the reason why their marriage failed was precisely because she was too capable and did too much.

A woman finished all the matter of a man, so that the man had nothing to do, and he lost his sense of responsibility for the family.

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Emotional expert Tu Lei said: "Marriage is not based on Tan Tian said on the earth, but in long -term behavior and effort."

Marriage has never been a person's unicorn, but a cultivation field for two people.

A person's cleverness and ability can not afford the two people's homes; one person's hard work can not change the happiness of two people.

Only the joint efforts of two people can operate the marriage and make a sound.

Pretending to be stupid in marriage, not letting you go, not to escape, nor is it confused, but to have a sober understanding of marriage and respect the other party's position in the family.

Maybe we don't need to be too smart and capable, and we don't have to arrange everything.

Reasonable pretending to be silly, giving the other party a chance to share together, you will find that the two people go together, far better than one person's single fight.

At the end

Some people say that good love is not 1 plus 1 equal to 2, but 0.5 plus 0.5 equal to 1.

People have no one, everyone has a large or small disadvantage, and also has their own unique personality.

There is no perfect marriage in the world. A good marriage requires half of their own personality and shortcomings, and then they are complete together.

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In each other's forbearance and tolerance, in the acceptance and respect of each other, in the sharing and dedication of both parties, slowly run in, and finally combine the two to achieve success.

May you meet a good person, you know it is not easy, he knows your sadness.

For the rest of your life, the same frequency resonance, over the long years, the time of time, and work together for a lifetime.

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