"Daughter, unfortunate marriage, don't let it go!" A letter from Dad, brushed the circle of friends

Text/Cake Anchor/Ying Ying

Source/Ten points reading (ID: duhaoshu)

Dear daughter:

Last night, you called your mother video call.

You said that you are not doing well in your in -laws. No matter what you do, your in -laws have to pick three.

The meals do not make your appetite, saying that you are too stupid;

Let your son -in -law work a little, scold you too lazy;

The son -in -law asked you to be warm, I think you are too delicate ...

Obviously you have worked hard to do everything, but they are not satisfied.

After listening to you, Dad is particularly distressed.

From small to large, you are always sunny and optimistic.

This time, you must have suffered a lot of grievances, otherwise you will not complain to your parents.

Dad blame himself, and blame himself to check for you.

All night, my dad was hard to sleep, so I wrote this letter to you.

Daughter, you never owe your in -laws' house

Dad reads a word online:

"My daughter -in -law marrys my mother -in -law's house, I want to serve my in -laws."

I don't know who said this, but Dad didn't agree with it at all.

Whose daughter did not grew up in the palm of her hand. Before marriage, she had never had a meal of my in -laws and a soup of her in -laws.

Some daughter -in -law even returned to the infamous "filial piety" because of poor doing.

Girl, dad knows that because you are afraid of others to say gossip, you have been working hard to play a good daughter -in -law.

In order not to embarrass your husband, many grievances swallow your belly yourself.

Dad couldn't help but think of the recent TV series "Welcome". There was a scene in it, and Dad was particularly impressed.

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Faced with the troubles of her mother -in -law, she had been wronged, and said such a thing:

Mom, I know you are not satisfied with me. I respect you as an elder and do n’t want to argue with you. I think that people ’s hearts are long. As long as I use sincerity, even if it is a stone, I can cover it.

But I now find that you have not regarded me as a family at all. Since no one speaks in this home, I can only speak for myself ...

Her stiff attitude finally made her mother -in -law realize her mistakes.

Girl, I have taught you from a young age. You must be calm and learn to endure.

This forbearance is not to just tolerate and compromise, but to have a degree.

If you exceed this degree, don't endure it anymore.

You never owe others, you don't need to wrong yourself, you must know how to speak for yourself.

You must understand that you can't change your happy marriage.

When you turn the grievance yourself into a habit, in the end, you will slowly lose yourself in this habit.

We are alive to satisfy the expectations of others.

If you become a good daughter, a good wife, and a good daughter -in -law, you need you to be wronged, then your father is willing to not be such "good".

In just dozens of years in life, Dad hopes that you can do what you want to do and become the person you want to be.

Don't be wronged, don't deliberately please, just be ashamed!

Reduce your expectations to your in -laws, you will not be disappointed

Dad tells you a story first.

An old lady, one child and a daughter.

When I was in my daughter's house, I saw the son -in -law always actively doing housework. I was busy and took care of her daughter well. She didn't need to do anything, so she was satisfied;

But when she was a son's house, she found that her daughter -in -law never did housework, and her family was doing her son. She was very angry and thought that her daughter -in -law was not sensible and she was unaware of her son.

Girl, did you discover that daughter and daughter -in -law, and the mother -in -law may be treated differently.

Although you call your in -laws "parents", it does not mean that they will treat you like their biological daughters.

Parents can indulge in your willfulness and tolerate your bad temper, but the in -laws will not be because they are not obliged to get used to you and spoil you.

You can just make a joke with your parents, but if you are joking with your in -laws, you must be careful.

In your mother's house, you can lie in bed and wait for your parents to cook and eat, but in your mother -in -law, you need to go to the kitchen.

As the daughter of parents, you can be yourself.

But as a daughter -in -law, you must always keep in mind your identity and be good at the right to speak in front of the in -laws.

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The identity of a daughter -in -law is indeed more restraint and less freedom for you.

But Dad has no ability to change.

In my mother -in -law, you are wronged because you feel that your dedication can not get the return.

You want to integrate into that new home so hard. In the end, you live like an outsider, not even as an outsider.

This is often because your expectations for your in -laws are too high.

Writer Made has such a sentence:

I slowly understand why I am not happy because I always look forward to a result.

Girl, dad hopes that you can let go of your parents' expectations, spend more time on you, and organize your mood.

If you are in a good mood, you can see a lot of things.

If you don't compare, you will not be more accountable; if you don't look forward to it, you will not be disappointed.

Dad believes that if you can do this, your marriage must be another scenery.

The person you marry,

Be sure to afford your second half of your life

Girl, do you remember?

When you give birth to Niuniu, the son -in -law always takes care of you busy, and he is more nervous than anyone else.

Later, Niuniu lived in a newborn ward because of jaundice, and your eyes were swollen.

The son -in -law is obviously uncomfortable, but he still tries his best to coax you.

At that time, my father felt that such a person would definitely give you happiness.

I just did not expect that in the past year, you fell into pain because of your mother -in -law.

Some people say that the root of the contradiction between mother -in -law is men.

Because of him, you have a connection with your in -laws.

If he can't adjust the relationship with you and his in -laws well, in the end, all of you may be hurt.

Dad dare not imagine what you hurt.

As a person who came, Dad knew clearly:

A few years before marriage, he would convert from the role of a son to the role of a husband and a father. The problem of mother -in -law would definitely be caught by him.

On the one hand, his parents, on the one hand, his lover, no matter where he stands, it will inevitably hurt the other side.

At this time, you must not force him to stand in line, force him to make a choice, and you have to give him time to guide him to solve the problem.

If he can actively cooperate with you to solve the problem with a positive attitude, I believe that no matter what kind of contradiction between mother -in -law and mother -in -law, he can solve it.

In addition, Dad hopes that you can also try to plan for him from the perspective of "onlookers".

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Many times, jumping out of the problem itself will make the problem better solve.

However, if he always faces with a negative attitude, he even hurts you regardless of the blue and red soap.

Dad advises you to stop loss in time.

You need to know, no matter where, dad will stand behind you firmly.

Dad is afraid that you are injured, and you are more afraid of your painful life in the wrong marriage.

You know, marriage has never been a must -have for life.

Unfortunate marriage, don't.

There is such a line in the TV series "Heart Live":

"You have to be strong, others are good to you, you can live; others are not good to you, you have to live. This is the ability."

This is what a father said to the daughter who was angry in her in -laws.

In fact, this is also the voice of Dad.

Girl, parents are not by your side, no matter how distressed you, there is no way to solve all the problems in marriage for you.

More often, you need to face it alone.

Dad wants you to be brave.

It is said that marriage is a practice. If you can practice with your son -in -law and come to the end happily, your father will be very pleased.

If you can't go hand in hand, go back to your parents.

Whenever, parents will always be your harbor.

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Well, just say so much, I don't know what's going on. Since you get married, Dad has become more and more nagging.

Finally, I hope my baby can get happiness in marriage and achieve better self in marriage!

Love your dad forever.

Author: cakes, pen and ink, paper and paper, chai oil and salt, first -hand text, first -hand life. Source: 10 o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu), a large number of national reading subscribed by 30 million people. Editor on duty: Liu Yan.

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