Ten years of gathering clouds and clouds by month

Ten years passed, and the sea of ​​people came. Nowadays, young people who are confused before the proposition of "feelings and marriage" are no longer the young people in the original ...

■ Li Yongjin

The Mid -Autumn Festival symbolizing the reunion was just passing, and suddenly wanted to write the "proposition" of "women's single".

Combining the words "single" and "proposition" seems to have a special taste. The word "proposition" is dismantled, isn't it the problem and topic given by fate? And how to answer the question of "single". I thought for a long time. Ten years have passed, and now there is a vague, far -reaching ink marks.

Ten years ago, I was single and carefree. Although I was twenty at that time, I was still consciously young, but in the eyes of the older generation, I was already an older young woman. At that time, through the hard work of graduation, the new life was gradually expanded in front of my eyes, just like the stretch of splendid: the first book was published, and the work was also recognized. The best golden year in life, because of the confidence of grasping fate, every day is more vibrant. I want to go further, watch more clouds, and let my feet feel more excited. Flowing water, through the fingertips, let more semi -semi -dark light reflect on your face ... In your ears, he heard that the unit is too enthusiastic and worried about the older colleague, "Your mother does not urge you to get married "" Girls' youth in a few years ... "" Time passed ... "Then they said some" elderly women "," men don't like strong women "," do not do well than marrying " Terrible words.

At that time, I did not intend to use my best youth to invest in such a tangling, and I did not think that women must get married in the best years to waste time, but I don’t exclude a sincere beauty. On the contrary, I value it and look forward to it, and may even have a little different expectation than the world's utilitarianism because I have a little literary temperament. The heavy shackles, or the obligation to be completed after the time limit.

But everyone around me seemed to be worried about my age. The old man revealed some negative cases to me, such as the female doctor who returned from studying abroad because of her age and high academic qualifications. Difficulty in fertility because of older marriage. The most shocking picture comes from the blind date of the local people's park. It is said that there is information on the old and high -quality single women hanging on the wire. Few parents of single men came to ask ...

Even when I returned home during the Spring Festival, I found that my parents were also passing on such similar anxiety.

Seeing that there are more and more girls who are married around them, the mood of parents is getting heavier like the frost after the winter solstice. I can imagine their feelings, as if cheering for long -distance runners who are optimistic about themselves. The more and more behind the runway, the more behind the runway, and the continuous surpassing people ... When I returned home in the Spring Festival, my mother took out a small bag of beautiful candy from the small drawer below the coffee table. Take it back. I saw that she had lost her face and fell into the colorful piles in front of me: "You eat a few more pieces, stained with other people's joy ..."

I always think that regardless of age and geometry, feelings, and marriage are individuals. It is a very personal experience, but I did not expect it to gradually become a social phenomenon that triggers discussion. Ten years ago, the statement of "leftover men and leftover" just appeared, and even because of the discrimination contained in it, it also caused certain controversy. Some people recommend using "blooming" to replace "leftover". In the life of a person's life, it is like a flower blooming, but for the "80s" that was urged at that time, no matter how "prosperity" is "prosperous", it is often easy to lose in the confrontation with the traditional vision. The "blind date" has gradually replaced the natural encounter, becoming a hot word in the next ten years.

In the turn of the peak circuit, I eventually entered the marriage that belonged to me, but was similar to the state of "inadvertently inserting willows": in an interview, I met friends A; in the process of interview, his partner B was in Planning a immersive poetry recitation; at the recitation event, I lottery recited the new work of a strange poet, and happened to know the original author, C ... Fate is like this grass -snake gray line, it seems like it is like the gray line, just like the gray line, as if A small river keeps running forward, sometimes turning around here, sometimes there seems to be dried up again, and suddenly a tributaries are divided from next to the side ...

With the continuous extension of this interpersonal relationship, I met a friend of Peking University. According to the sanctuary of the A, B, Bingbing, I forgot where it was arranged. Repost my new work in the circle. Once, he reposted a new comment I wrote, and my future gentleman was an unintentional person in his vast circle of friends.

At that time, it was a night of autumn rain, and my future gentleman was practicing characters at home alone. When the pen and ink were smooth, the water on the furnace was opened. He put down the pen in his hand and gave himself a cup of tea to drink. For a half -engraving work, he randomly picked up the mute mobile phone next to him, hurriedly browsed the circle of friends, opened an article, watched it up and down for a few minutes, and then exited and clicked.

"I knew that this praise had such a significant impact on my second half of my life." Later, Mr. recalled the origin of the day and joked with me: "How many amounts of information in the circle of friends is too late to see, how did you then see how much information was? Fortunately, the tea is gone, why is it fortunately ordered this praise. "There is a" six -degree space theory ", that is, no more than six friends who know any two strangers in the world can establish a connection. But my gentleman and I knew about six friends in the middle. I think this may be in line with the natural and elusive laws: seemingly three or two coincidences, with one or two points of determination, just like you don't know where the spring rain will fall in the middle of the night, but you know it It will always come with the wind at a certain time. If you just wake up at that time, then you put on your clothes and touch the coolness that it drops on the back of your hand, or feel how it it it is in the light morning. Open the apricot blossoms in the deep alley ...

Ten years passed, and the sea of ​​people came and went. Nowadays, young people who are confused before the proposition of "feelings and marriage" are no longer the young people in the original.随着晚婚时间年复一年地推迟和生育率的不断下降，这个话题像潮汐一样越来越成为社会关注的热点，而前些天一则新闻再度让人大跌眼镜：根据一项调查显示，大学生In the future, the willingness to get married is higher than expected. Nearly 60 % of the respondents hope to enter the marriage hall at the age of 26 to 30. It can be seen that young people have not given up their expectations for a better marriage, but the process of this choice has become more diversified and fits different individuals. The surrounding environment also gives more tolerance for young people's choices, which is also a projection of society's continuous progress and active transformation of people's ideas.

And my palm has already held the peach blossom that belongs to me. Sometimes I look down and sniff, I feel lucky, and I feel indifferent.

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