Finally, she announced the divorce, congratulations on the entire network

"I will definitely divorce, it's just a matter of time."

Choose Su Min, who had been driving away from home for 2 years, and made this decision calmly when he returned home.

A few days ago, under the persuasion of the children, she returned before the Mid -Autumn Festival and returned to Zhengzhou's home.

In the two years of separation, her husband only passed her call with her to ask for money.

For a long time, the "change" of Su Min's fantasy did not appear, and her husband was as irony and ridiculous as ever.

In the video, the behavior of Su Min's husband has suffocated many people. It is difficult to imagine that Su Min had lived in such an environment for more than 30 years.

At the age of 56, she finally decided to let go of everything, escape from the family, and live for herself.

Today, she finally decided to divorce.

Native trap

Born in the 1950s and 1960s, many lives live in bondage and difficulties.

They have a busy life, and they never seem to have never been themselves.

There are also few people who are sure of their value.

The former Su Min is no exception.

In 1964, Su Min was born in Tibet.

Many years ago, her parents moved here from Henan for helping Tibet.

Before the age of 18, her life belonged to this plateau and also belonged to the family that was heavy men and women.

Su Min is a daughter and the "elder sister" of 3 younger brothers.

In the early morning, she had to make breakfast for her younger brothers and went to the river to get water before going to school;

During noon, she had to go home secretly, cook lunch, and then run back to school;

The sun is down, she will find naughty younger brothers in the huge forest farm, and then take them home safely ...

In this family, "playing" is the privilege of her son. As a girl, she was almost demanding sensible.

On one occasion, she wanted to try the favorite game of her younger brothers.

From the hillside of the house, sliding down like a weight, this is the only empty in Su Min's childhood memory.

But she was severely scolded by her mother:

"I don't have time, and I don't have the energy to help you wash clothes. How old you are, you are not sensible."

At that time, she was just a child less than one meter four.

"The eldest sister is like a mother", like a stone, she has been pressing on Su Min since her brother was born.

The lack of parents' love and companionship made her know the word "forbearance".

"I want my parents to love the younger brothers", this sentence, she never said to her family.

On the eve of the college entrance examination, the parents had to return to the hometown of Henan due to work mobilization.

It seemed that they did not discuss it. They decided to take away only their brothers and leave Su Min alone.

On the day of the parents left, the rainfall rained, the Lancang River rose, and the river overflowed into the school.

Su Min often dreamed of this scene, which was an unforgettable scar in her heart.

"No matter how big the water is, they will still go, and they will not bring me."

People, we must know how to solve themselves, so that they will not be drowned in the martial arts and depression.

At that time, Su Min would use self -comfort to find some kind of balance:

"In the past, I always had to rush back and cook for my younger brothers. Now my time finally belongs to myself."

After the college entrance examination, she rushed back to Henan, but heard her mother's harsh praise: "The body is strong."

"This means that I can work heavier and share more responsibilities?"

Reporting volunteers, two points, did not learn. Under the arrangement of her father, she became a fertilizer factory worker.

At the beginning, Su Min was grateful for this, but it didn't take long for her to know her father's intention.

"I am just a‘ tool person ’that reduces the burden on the family.”

She did not resist because she wanted to use her own value in exchange for her parents' care.

Compensation for a house for the family, the salary is all paid, and the trivial matters in the cooking family after get off work ...

She sacrificed money and freedom, but did not get care because of this.

Marriage dilemma

"Marriage is a siege, people outside want to go in, people inside want to come out."

When Su Min was 23 years old, he was the waiter outside the city.

She thought that marriage could make herself work again.

I never thought that the foot just struggled out of the mud pit and stepped into another swamp.

According to people, she met her husband Lao Du. I only saw two sides, and I set a dear.

Su Min's father asked for 500 yuan, and Lao Du didn't give it.

"He was reluctant at that time, but I didn't care."

It turned out that her husband's sorrow and money for money had already laid foreshadowing.

Not long after the birth of the baby, the fertilizer plant closed down, and Su Min became a housewife who had no job and could only reach out to Lao Du to ask for money.

The cost of living has become her most painful and tangled link.

Her husband asked her to speak clearly, and she could not be different.

But life is originally a mess.

Even if you live a lot and pay more and less, who can understand it?

This made Su Min feel that it was strange and humiliated.

Can economic independence be respected?

She walked out of the house and changed a lot of jobs, tailors, cleaners, and reporters ...

She was able to make money, but the two were even more divided.

"Since then, we have been AA."

All expenses in the family, half of the person; go to relatives and buy gifts for each holiday; get married, give red envelopes alone.

Su Min's mother was sick and bought medicine with her husband's medical insurance card. The next day, the password of the card was changed.

Driving your own car, you have to make up for the oil fee.

Su Min needs love, she has not worked hard for marriage.

If her husband does not eat spicy, she quit her habit of spicy spicy;

Her husband loves fish, and she starts to learn to make food she doesn't like; her husband likes to see the international situation, and she also tries to learn and understand;

When her husband is at home, she will always give up the sofa and TV, and turn around only around the stove;

Before talking to her husband, she always thought and thought, for fear that the other party was unhappy ...

However, you can never wake up a person who pretend to sleep.

The heart can't get together, and no matter how much it is done, it is futile.

After the daughter went to junior high school, the two fell asleep in a room. Lao Du often lives in the construction site and does not go home.

Su Min didn't understand why she catered to and compromised, and her life still lived in one place?

The only warmth in her marriage was that when she confineed, Lao Du killed a chicken for her.

She wanted to get the answer with expectations, but was splashed with a pot of cold water by her husband:

"Do you think you look good?"

The marriage certificate was lost, the marriage file was gone, and the two kept dragging them to make up.

At the same time, Su Min's mental state was dragged down.

Yes, all year round quarrels and cold violence caused her to suffer from severe depression. She began to cry, sweating.

In a dispute with Lao Du, she used a knife to tie up her chest, and blood flowed.

She was ignored for too long. She needed to vent and found an exit.

"Conflict in the Heart" said:

"The outbreak of the inner conflict is actually giving us a signal: you are an adult, you have power, and you don't have to run in the face of the pain."

This time, Su Min has to retrieve the lack of depression and peeling in her heart.

Brave

In the winter of 2019, as usual, Su Min, as usual, coaxed two grandson and brushed the novel.

She likes to be immersed in illusions and seeks for a moment of free liberation.

Somehow, she accidentally entered a link, and the content was a video of a blogger shared the experience of self -driving tour.

The flame in her heart seemed to be ignited for a moment.

Su Min expressed his thoughts to his daughter.

The daughter did not oppose: "Yes, but when did you go out?"

Yeah, she was tied too much, her daughter, wife, mother, grandmother ...

But this time, she was ironic to be herself.

"When the grandson goes to the kindergarten, I will leave."

No one regards her words seriously, and her husband has no.

She quietly started the "conspiracy" for two years.

Check the strategy, add the equipment to the shopping cart, learn video editing, work to save money ...

Lao Du's ridicule is as always lingering in his ears:

"I don't know what to do."

But she doesn't care anymore.

In mid -September 2020, after sending the grandson to the kindergarten, she directly placed all the equipment.

The daughter finally came back, and the mother was decided this time.

At the age of 56, Aunt Su Min set off.

She turned on her makeup, wore a skirt, drove a white POLO car, with a simple bag and a retirement salary card of 2380 yuan per month.

She regained the steering wheel from her husband and the autonomy of life.

The eighth day of August symbolizes the days of departure, and also heralded Su Min's new life.

"From today, all the way south, I am going to pursue the light of my life."

Her Douyin account has now published a total of more than 400 works.

The video of the video, Aunt Su smiled from the inside.

She enjoys unexpectedness, casual and surprise during the trip.

For the first time cooking outdoors, she cooked noodles and put a lot of spicy people;

The first time I couldn't accept the tent, I encountered the help of a kind guy;

In Xi'an, go back to the Minnan Street.

In the open -air parking lot, she met a couple, and she admitted that she had severely depressed, but instead pulled into each other's distance.

"I have started to find the meaning of escape, it makes the shackles of marriage far away."

In Chengdu, eat hot pot and old classmates. In the video, friends are "Biye" to her.

"Staying with them, especially at ease. I didn't drink too much, but I was so faint, my heart, there was no joy and joy in my heart."

In Chongqing, a pea was mixed, sitting on the ropeway, spanning the Yangtze River, and seeing the beauty of Jialing.

"The light rail that was worn from the house was like this." Aunt Su Min seemed to see a different world.

In Yunnan, she was conquered by the beautiful conquest of the Yuxian Lake in Yuxi.

"One day, all the owed to you will be repaid all of you."

Later, she went to Hainan, Guangxi, Shanghai, Tibet, Xinjiang, Qinghai ...

During the journey, there were laughter, nervousness, and moved.

"I finally live like the envy of others."

In 2021, at the age of 57, she won the Golden Second Award of Watermelon Video.

At the award conference, she held the microphone, confidently, generously, and relaxed her story.

"Hello everyone, I am Su Min. I didn't expect me, a ordinary housewife, could still get angry in his later years.

"Now I can firmly grasp the steering wheel in the second half of my life. When I continue to move forward, I am not afraid of giant danger. I only see the road.

"I have discovered the light all the way, chasing the light, and even in the dark, don't let your own light go out."

If you are confused or stunned, you may wish to see her speech.

I think no one will not be brave and encouraged by her tenacity.

She was in a circle, and her life was better.

Not only did he publish a book, but also on the New York Times. But she did not forget her original intention. She was still on the road, using video and live broadcast to share the journey from the journey.

On March 2, 2022, Aunt Su Min could only switch to the "RV" when she was sleeping at the top tent to sleep on the roof tent.

"I finally have my own home. Many things did not belong to me before, and many things did not have my name, but this can finally be replaced with my name."

"You are a woman, so old, can you do it?"

Faced with doubts, Aunt Su Min teased:

"Others have realized financial freedom, and I realize the freedom of pepper."

The goal she chased is not material, but self -affirmation and release.

Now, she has become a signing traveler of some large platforms.

"When you can't find the answer, go and see this world."

Divorce bias and freedom

Aunt Su Min's two -year self -driving trip will come to Delingha.

The daughter -in -law had already followed her for a month, caught up with the Mid -Autumn Festival, and discussed home to see.

"Entering Henan, my mood is really bad, and suddenly I feel like I don't want to go back."

Outside, she is herself.

When she returned home, she had to "take several jobs" and faced a marriage life that was not respected.

No, the video of the previous day was hot search.

As soon as Aunt Su Min returned to her daughter's house, she managed her housework, chose vegetables, cooks, and waited to meet her husband.

She wants to communicate with Lao Du's future life.

As a result, when you met, the familiar coolness came from:

"Do you know how to come back? Can't you mix it?"

Not to mention, Lao Du did not smell it after his wife left, the only phone call is to ask for money:

"Are you going at a high speed, right? Swipe my card, 81 yuan, hurry to return me."

The two met this time, and because of these dozens of dollars, they argued.

The husband also had a bowl of bowls, and the family lived like two.

At this time, Su Min has determined to divorce. She finally understood that love will not come.

She posted a video and talked to everyone:

"We will definitely divorce, but it's time sooner or later, my daughter has always supported my choice."

In the comments, most of the women's support and envy.

However, some netizens did not let her go.

"If Aunt Su is a man, throw away his family and leave home, and seek freedom, you should be killed by Internet storms."

"Aunt Su has a comprehensive right to speak, everyone still does not substitute, her current income may be higher than many people."

"The neighbor's evaluation of Lao Du is good. It is impossible to ask his husband to accept a few interviews as Aunt Su said."

Su Min once evaluated his first half of his life:

"It's not a person inside and out."

In her mother's house, the third brother urged her to pay back the money, but the 20,000 yuan she took away was obviously acquiesced by her mother.

"Do I want to scrape skin and sell meat, they are satisfied?"

In her husband's house, Lao Du guarded her like a thief.

She lived for half a lifetime for others. Why can't he let herself breathe and take a break?

If the marriage life of tragedy was made up, why wouldn't she "escape"?

Is there must be a good husband at home?

How many people have a good face outside and get angry, so they are angry to their families.

In the final analysis, many people are still anxious about "women do not keep their own points."

What is this division?

In many people's eyes, it is to handle housework, give birth to children, and serve her in -laws.

These are considered to be a woman's obligation.

How many women do their lives for their lives, but they have not waited for a gratitude.

How many women lived in the former Aunt Su Min, they satisfied everyone's expectations and forgot themselves.

Whether it is married or single, women have the right to pursue love and freedom, but also to cultivate their ability to live for themselves.

Of course, the obligation to be fulfilled.

But the blessing that should be enjoyed also has to enjoy.

Responsibility and self -esteem and self -love have never been contradictory.

After all, time does not wait for people, walking out of the small world, bravely breaking the worldly prejudice, may get a different life.

"Chasing the sound of my heart, since I recognize a way, why should I ask how long?"

Reference materials:

Huazhong University of Science and Technology Press "Over 50 years old, I decided to" run away from home ""

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