86 -year -old professor wrote 13 years with Alzheimer's disease -loving wife

Zhu Wenyuan and his wife Xia Mingyu

"Seventy years ago, the two of us reviewed our homework under the kerosene lamp; fifty years ago, we read a book under the sunlight; now, she sleeps on the bed, I sit at the bed to accompany, and write poems under the bedside lamp. "This is one of the little poems written by Zhu Wenyuan in" Alzheimer's Parallel Pymics and Hundred Questions ".

Zhu Wenyuan is a chief physician at the dermatology department of the People's Hospital of Jiangsu Province (the First Affiliated Hospital of Nanjing Medical University). This year, he is 86 years old. His wife Xia Mingyu is a professor of supercover at Nanjing Medical University. Disease (AD), Zhu Wenyuan has since become a caregiver of his wife. An old man took care of a patient, and Zhu Wenyuan wrote the care experience and experience of 13 years of care. It was officially released before the "World Alzheimer Disease" on September 21st. They all entered the book.

"Where are you, where I go, where I go"

——A 73 -year -old expert, a full -time escort for his wife

In the notes of the escort, Zhu Wenyuan's most written words are bright. "After the illness, the cold and cold response to the weather is slow." "When the head of the 45th year was 45 years old, there were a few white hair on the head" and "the person who likes to watch TV before the illness" ... In the record of his wife's escort, you can read it. Zhu Wenyuan's long -lasting care.

Zhu Wenyuan told reporters that his wife diagnosed Alzheimer's disease in 2009, and it was him who was initially discovered. "There are two obvious changes. One is that she had been in charge of family financial management, and suddenly said that she couldn't do it. The neat and orderly ledger gave it to me; She told me that the short needle is between 11 and 12 and the long needle is on 6. "Such abnormalities made Zhu Wenyuan strange and nervous. He took his wife to the psychiatric clinic by visiting the old classmate. Check it, and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's illness.

"Children and grandchildren are abroad. I decided to accompany themselves because she was my wife, because we love each other affectionate, because I believe that the quality of my accompaniment will exceed the care of the caregiver." Yuan continued to go to the expert clinic, continued to participate in various academic activities, and handed the care and the burden of accompanying his wife to the home nanny. In this way, the economy was economically cost -effective and could also exert its heat.

After careful consideration, Zhu Wenyuan resigned all part -time jobs after retirement, and the 70 -year -old man became a full -time escort of his wife. "Where are you, where I go ... you hold my hand with peace of mind, I hold your hand warm."

This is a battle that can never win

——He also reached the edge of depression

"Patients with ADs are a long and silent battle, a battle that is more discouraged by the more and more discouraged by the Vietnam War. It is a new book that can never win." Share the scene of the salon, Professor Zhu Wenyuan said.

The abnormalities of Alzheimer's patients are unimaginable by the ordinary world. Zhu Wenyuan's record includes all kinds of details of clothing, food, housing, and transportation; After seeing it with my own eyes, I came to ask again in less than two minutes. I repeatedly 10 times, I did n’t know, "like a pot of water pouring on the smooth slate, there is no trace of traces." I ca n’t find anyone in a room, I am afraid of crying, even if I have repeatedly told her before taking a bath ... As the condition develops, the “forgotten” of the accompanying heart pain is the most heartache. Sometimes his wife will treat Zhu Wenyuan as strangers, scared You have to yell, and even let him "roll"; it has also had an irritability that had no reason to throw his slippers around, and even slapped himself.

Zhu Wenyuan slowly explored the method of responding from the time at the beginning: quietly avoid the conflict, walk to her to hug her intimately, and constantly promise her the request even if she can't achieve it. Come down, wait for the "her" who is familiar with.

In 13 years of care, Zhu Wenyuan admitted that he also had a collapse. "Previously, I went to the expert clinic, participated in the defense of graduate papers, and participated in various academic activities. Although I was so tired but fulfilled, they were full of happiness. Now there is no phone call at home. The outside world isolation, like an island, reaches the edge of depression. "Even when she opened the anti -theft window to jump down one day, I also wanted to jump together and think that all the problems were resolved." Zhu Wenyuan said that in the most difficult difficulty At the moment, it still defeated despair rationally. Zhu Wenyuan lock the "anti -theft window" for himself.

He regarded his escort as a subject and cultivated himself as a "multi -faceted hand" of life

Reading the literature record, the personal public account has been updated more than 140 articles

In order to overcome the depression of the companion, Zhu Wenyuan set himself a few points that needed to do: care about national events and social news, try not to leave the society as much as possible, have time to watch your favorite movies and TV dramas, and have entertainment; cultivate Personal hobbies, found his own value and happiness, he established his personal public account in 2018, published a essay every two weeks, plus popular science, this public account has been updated more than 140 articles; Friends and patients encourage each other; if necessary, find a clock or a temporary custodian institution to help care for a short period of time, let yourself breathe for a moment, and adjust your body and mind.

The 86 -year -old man cultivated himself into a "multi -faceted hand" for life in 13 years of care. He would buy online, and lamented, "Move your fingers to place an order more, and the parcels are wrapped in all directions"; he carefully takes care of his wife's dressing, bathing, and toilet, and regularly help his wife to dye the white hair. The above exercise plan; prepare a healthy and scientific diet for his wife to eat less meals ... For treatment, Zhu Wenyuan is more attentive. Although he is a dermatology department, he has studied many years for many years. He has read the latest thesis on Alzheimer's disease internationally. He is an Alzheimer disease expert. Common AD therapy drugs, Zhu Wenyuan, like several Zhen: Which drugs are produced by which drugs, which clinical trials, test effects, and what generic drugs have been listed. What medicines do wives use, how effective, and whether he needs to adjust the medicine, he personally checks it.

Zhu Wenyuan said that his wife was sick for 13 years and took the main force of care. Although he was an "empty nest elder", Nanjing also had care of relatives and friends, the community services they lived were relatively complete, the days were hard, but they could still be supported. His wife's condition is from mild to moderate, slightly aggressive but not entered, and now he still has energy and physical support. "If her lesions are getting heavier in the future, the nursing task is increasing, and I will be old and dying. Finding a caregiver or entering a nursing home may still be inevitable."

Zhu Wenyuan combined his own illness knowledge and his wife's care of the care of his wife, and published it at his own expense. He also hoped to share many practical experiences that many textbooks did not have. "There are about 10 million AD patients in China, and about 30 million personnel are taken care of. Now it is the heavy responsibility of many families who take care of the care. The care of Alzheimer's patients is different from ordinary disable patients. I also call The full -time care institutions of Alzheimer's disease -based care for the majority of patients can get more scientific treatment and care, delay the development of the disease, and reduce the burden on the family at the same time. "

Correspondent Gong Dandan Liu Lulu Yangzi Evening News/Zi Niu Journalist Yang Yan

Edit: Qin Xiaoyi

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