"Qiong Yao male lead" wife is rare to open up divorce internal affairs: Good marriage, dependence and independent

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Previously, Wu Jiani, the ex -wife of "Qiong Yao male lead" Ma Jingtao, rarely disclosed his internal affairs of his divorce on social platforms.

As early as 2006, Wu Jiani and Ma Jingtao had a long time in the crew, and the two got married the next year.

At that time, Wu Jiani was in a subversion period of her career, but she couldn't care about other.

Although Ma Jingtao was 21 years older than her, and the outside world was not optimistic about them, Wu Jiani became a full -time wife at home after marriage.

Unfortunately, her choice did not make her happy.

In the 10 years of being a full -time mother, her relationship with Ma Jingtao was lost little by little, and her physical and mental became tired and overwhelmed.

Wu Jiani, who was originally optimistic and cheerful, gradually doubted herself and no longer confident, and even found that she thought of marriage too simple.

After 10 years of marriage, Wu Jiani finally understood:

"Even if the marriage is regrettable, it also makes me realize that women cannot rely on marriage to pray for security."

After the divorce, Wu Jiani returned to the filming. For example, "Beishangguang does not believe in tears" and "Our Marriage" have gained a good response.

Today, Wu Jiani has gradually possessed his confidence by controlling his life.

Tu Lei said a word: "Love someone again, don't please him humblely; if you love someone, don't lose yourself."

The bottom line of happiness is to keep yourself. Once you lose yourself, you will lose happiness.

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Emotional writer Li Xiaoyu wrote an article "Are you a woman with only one fulcrum".

In the article, she shared a conversation with a friend.

This friend has been managing a women's prison for 20 years and has a good understanding of the cause of women's crimes.

Li Xiaoyu asked her: "What are the crimes for women?"

Friends sighed helplessly: "Women's crimes have eight or nine and feelings, or simply say that they are related to men."

Li Xiaoyu also asked: "The age of women's crimes is usually relatively low? Young self -control is weak and easy to think of stupid things."

My friend shakes his head:

"It's really not, but the number of women aged 35-45 is the largest.

You think, the depression caused by emotional problems, often choosing more ways when you are young, and you can't think of it if you can't think of it.

The middle -aged is different, and the feelings are depressed for many years. There is only this fulcrum in life. As a result, the only fulcrum of the relationship between the middle age is gone. How can I not lose my mind?

As a result, the future life was also ruined. "

Taking love as the only one is the reason for many women's crimes.

In reality, how many women have given up their careers and refuse to grow. They are nestled in a man's arm. As a result, after a few years, it was depressed?

After all, love should not be the greatest significance of a woman.

When a woman sees love as everything, her life is very sad.

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Two suggestions to let you operate yourself well and do a good marriage.

1. Adhere to your own business

In "Our Marriage", husband and wife Shen Huixing and Shengjiangchuan are both high students who graduated from prestigious universities. Although evenly matched, Shen Huixing could only choose to become a full -time wife because of unexpected pregnancy.

Being a full -time wife's life is bitter, and only children are children every day.

Later, the child gradually grew up, and Shen Huixing also drumped the courage to return to the workplace, but Sheng Jiangchuan, who was husband, repeatedly asked his wife to focus on the family.

What made Shen Huixing the most cold is that even if she had sacrificed her career for her family, her husband never thought she had paid much.

Many times, Sheng Jiangchuan always praises his impressive achievements in front of his wife, and even bluntly said:

"With all my own strength, I took our family to realize their livelihood. Our family has jumped to a class."

Fortunately, Shen Huixing did not live in the shadow of her husband, and she insisted on returning to work.

Eventually, when Shengjiangchuan discovered that his wife not only took care of the family's due diligence, but also when his work ability was also prominent, he realized that he had ignored his wife's feelings, and the two slowly repaired the crack in marriage.

Dai Jianye, a professor at Huazhong Normal University, said this:

"You must not be‘ ambitious ’for love and marriage.

In the world of the two, you can have a 'high standard', but you cannot ‘strictly require’. "

Marriage is not a matter of two people many times. It is just your own business. If you live your life, your marriage will naturally gorgeous.

2. Do not give up expressing your own thoughts

There is a concept of psychology called the illusion of transparency.

If a girl often complains that her boyfriend does not understand her, the example is that she wants to eat ice cream, but the other party gives her milk tea.

Someone asked, "Why don't you tell him directly, you have to eat ice cream?"

She said it for granted: "This is what he should know, what I like to eat, what he hates to eat, he should remember clearly, and use me to say."

Girls' behavior is to fall into the illusion of transparency. The illusion of transparency is: We always think that others can realize that our ideas and emotions.

The two parties have tacit understanding in many places, which is an important feature of intimacy.

But the problem is that no matter how close people are, it is impossible to know what you are thinking; even if you know, you may not be able to react every time.

We often overestimate the understanding of others' true thoughts, thinking that others understand what they are thinking, and think that we have shown enough information that others noticed.In fact, the understanding of the two sides is very devbious, sometimes even the opposite.

If you think you are more transparent in the eyes of others, it is often the illusion that you have made transparency.

Psychologist Halverson suggested: If you want to better achieve each other's understanding, to express your intentions in a straightforward, clear, and clearly, instead of releasing signals of the module.

Adhering to your interests and careers does not mean giving up reasonable communication.

Only by being independent and dependent in marriage can such marriage eventually meet happiness.

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